I feel like my husband is going to blow up our lives
I found out about my husband’s addiction last year, around the time we got married.
First time I caught him he promised he would stop, I didn’t really put any measures in place to make sure he did and to no one’s surprise, he never did.
Around July I uncovered how deep the addiction ran (loans, empty bank accounts, unpaid bills, the whole lot) and confronted him.
I took charge of finances, got him into therapy, got him to self exclude from all sites and began the recovery journey.
Little by little I decided to trust him a bit more and now we have gotten to the point where I don’t check his bank accounts any more, I only get him to transfer a bit of his salary into a shared pot.
Fast forward to today: I found out that he gambled once just over a month ago and that he has started playing those games where the more you play the more you make money, but in order to complete the tasks in the game he has bought lots of boosters (probably a few hundred quid worth of them).
I found this out cause I don’t trust him and I went through his phone, he did not surrender this information. I feel awful about this.
I don’t know what to do. I know that the games thing isn’t technically gambling but I feel like it is in a way, cause he is spending money recklessly when we could just be saving like normal people do.
He is constantly trying to make money quickly and it’s driving me insane considering we both have good jobs and he makes waaay more than the average person, so we really are in a good position (or at least we are getting there considering all the money gone cause of the gambling).
We are in the process of buying a new house and I feel like he is going to blow it all up sooner or later.
I don’t even know why I’m writing this, I have no one I can talk to about this so I guess I’m trying to get this off my chest.