MM is now separated, and telling me he’s holding me back.
MM is now separated man. It’s been 4 months since he started the divorce, 3.5 months since he moved out, and 0 months since split custody has started. Everyday he visits his kids at his ex’s new home and helps with home repairs there.
I knew it was going to be tough for him. I was hoping him knowing I’m there if he wants to vent would be helpful. But recently he’s been telling me he feels like he’s holding me back. Telling me he thinks I should pursue a relationship with someone who can actually spend time with me.
I’m so heartbroken. I can’t tell if this is self sabotage or if he truly never wanted me in his life. We met the other day and I feel like he’s lost all attraction to me, if he even was attracted to me.
Maybe he’s found someone else.
Maybe he doesn’t want me to witness the emotional struggles he’s going through. Which hurts more because it shows he doesn’t trust me with his feelings. I think he thinks I’m like his ex, all judgy (supposedly). I’m not.
So since he can’t tell me he wants to go no contact I told him we should and there was no objection from him.
I guess I’ll take his advice and move on. But he was who I felt safe with. I’m just so sad.