This is torture
We are going through it, and I just need to vent. I'm 50 and my wife is 45. We have a fantastic marriage, we get along so well
My wife was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer 2 years ago, and after surgery and chemo is cancer free. I'm so grateful, that she beat that damn disease and will love a long life.
She decided to proactively have her ovaries removed as she tested positive for the gene that also puts her at risk for ovarian cancer. This of course has put her into peri menopause at 45, and it sucks.
We had a pretty great sex life pre cancer, and since she has lost all her Libido. Familiar story here I know. What I'm struggling with is the fact I find her absolutely gorgeous and want so much just to be intimate with her.
She has zero desire to have sex. I completely understand the physical and mental struggles she is going through, but my desire for intimacy is so strong and there is just nothing there for her.
We've had long chats about this new reality, and I understand that she needs very specific attention to even get her to the point. The worst thing is, she says when we are intimate she feels good and loves it, but getting here there is almost impossible.
She unfortunately can't take HRT because of the type of cancer she had, and I completely support that, I want to reduce any chance that it will come back.
I just don't know how to deal with the intense need I have for intimacy that just isn't going to happen.
Not sure what I'm looking for here, I guess I just wanted to vent. I was expecting this at age 70, not age 50.