A day sober
I've recently quit findom and honestly after my first day I feel so good. I used to be active in the findom community under the username Donut_earth_cult. Honestly after quitting and deleting my old reddit has been the best decision of my life I feel less depressed and honestly I want to do things with out interacting with heaps of people. I also wanted to share some key take ways on why I quit.
The community is over strated with Dommes there is too much supply and not enough demand.
There is a lot of toxicity online especially in the findom community. There are a lot of unethical dommes and it's really sad to see.
A lot of new Dommes coming in don't have a clue about BDSM and the community which I feel is creating a unsafe space for future subs and current ones.
Tribute to DM is pretty shit, expecting a tribute before discussion is kind of taking away from a tribute is. Ive tributed in the past to real life dommes for real life sessions and the tribute was taking off the final fee. But before I tributed there was a discussion about my kinks etc before hand to see if we could do a session.
Going down the rabbit hole of findom got tiring and honestly made me super depressed, and realized after a point had to stop.
I joined kink communities on and off after I ending things with my online distance relationship. I was trying to recreate that spark I had but nothing worked each Domme I found boring or I had the spark for a short well. Like nothing really compared to my long distance relationship.
I don't picture myself going back to findom it's not worth my time I think I want to go back to gaming being my Domme. Love my PlayStation 😜
Anyway I wanted to say lastly for any subs wanting to quit due to mental health or other reasons please do it's honestly not worth wrecking your mental health to participate in a kink.
Much love and thank you to everyone who has supported me. I don't think this will be last time participating in this subreddit but I do know I need a break from Reddit for awhile.