F | 28 | Islamabad - Looking for someone who'd read my poetry
Hi, this feels very nerve-wracking, but anyway.
I’m 5’4” and 65kg. I'm slim and I work out. I turned 28 this year.
I live with family in a rented accommodation and we have properties we own as well.
I did my Master’s from NUST in a subject I did not really care for after I couldn’t go to my dream school abroad (even though I got in). I am someone who really values personal education, and I still plan to go get that Master’s.
I work as an editor at a news publication. My career is important to me; it’s something that keeps me sane.
I am single and always have been because I do not engage in relationships. I am Sunni. I am fairly practising. I have been struggling with Fajr, but aside from that, I pray regularly and observe all fard. I also wear a hijab. I did lock-in this Ramadan and study tafsir. I’m now also trying to learn Arabic to understand the Quran better (I find it really difficult, in case you were wondering).
I have a lot of hobbies and interests. In fact, my problem is that I can’t select a few things that I’d like to stick to, so I just flail about in the quagmire of all my desires. Clearly, if you can’t tell already, I like to read and write, especially fiction. I sometimes even do poetry, or it does me idk. I also like to draw, take photos, play and make video games, solve puzzles, bake, explore new places, cuisines, and experiences.
I’m introverted, but I yap a lot tbh. I like to overanalyse every piece of media I consume and share it with anyone willing to listen. I’m an INFJ and a Gryffindor, for anyone concerned.
Family Details:
My father is a businessman. My mother is an educator. My younger brother works in the AI scene, and my little sister is in school.
Requirements for a Partner:
Location: Ideally, someone in Islamabad or Lahore. If you are abroad, I’d prefer someone who has family here and frequently visits.
Age: 26-31
I am looking for my kuf (see definition). It’s the Arabic term for compatibility. I believe that if there’s alignment on essential things like values, lifestyle, and goals, things are bound to go smoother. I’d like to add here that financial compatibility (because I have to literally leave my comfortable home for someone and that is scary), as well as being intellectually matched, is very important to me. I want someone who likes what they do, or at least engages with what they are passionate about to some degree, like on the side or as a hobby. I would really like to be with someone who has personal goals alongside familial responsibilities, is ambitious and looks forward to life.
I seek a fulfilling companionship where values and goals align in a way that each person is willing to work for the other’s dreams. I have seen countless women, and even men, let go of their own dreams after marriage. I really don’t want that. Not for myself, nor for my partner. So, I’d like to connect with someone who sees marriage as a way to better themselves and the lives of their loved ones, as opposed to a mere obligation with strict roles and restrictions.
I think I’ll follow that lengthy philosophical dive with some bullet points:
- Someone who at least observes fard obligations and has genuine faith in his heart, meaning that he’s on a quest to continuously improve.
- Someone with really good hygiene. I am a bit crazy when it comes to hygiene and keeping things organised.
- Someone who takes care of his physical and mental health. I work out, and I’m part of a cycling group, so I’d want to be with someone who remains physically active. Being aware of one’s own and others’ mental health, and being open to talk about it (even professionally) is also important.
- Someone who is not afraid to be emotionally open and vulnerable with his partner.
- Someone who likes to travel and has been travelling.
Aside from these points, because I’m introverted, I would prefer to be with someone at least more extroverted than myself. Also, would be really cool if you read. If you are a fluent English speaker, that’d be nice, just because my brain thinks in English, and it’s how I express myself best.
Deal Breakers:
- Lack of hygiene and ability to take care of oneself, like not being able to do their own chores, keep their space clean, take care of their physical and mental health.
- Involvement in past long-term, highly-invested relationships.
- Inexpressive, non-communicative.
- Disrespecting women, this includes the way you talk about women in general, including those who are strangers or even just on TV.
- Doomscrolling.
Preferred Family Setup:
Depends. I am cool with a joint family setup, given that everyone has their own space and boundaries.
Do You Want Children?: Yes
Timeframe for Marriage: 1-2 years, with an early Nikkah once things fall into place and it’s clear we are meant to be.