r/PakistanRishta

Hey all. Been a silent lurker here but didn't really get to sharing my profile because the idea of putting myself to words has always been a bit challenging for me. I’ve now put some effort into writing up something that is reflective of who I am as a person in the hopes of attracting the right individual. I did try Muzz too and have found it severely lacking personality but nevertheless learned quite a bit on how to navigate this whole process in an efficient manner (I hate to go with the flow).

Height & Weight: 5'8" | 55 kg

Location: Born and currently based in Nowshera | In the process of moving to Islamabad permanently with family in Q4 of this year

Residence: Living in a rented place - hope to build my own home in the future IA!

Education: BS in Computer Engineering (From one of top 3 unis in Pakistan) | MS in Computer Science (From one of top 30 unis in the United States)

Profession: Software Engineer at a US based company working remotely (WFH)

Marital Status: Single, never engaged

Family Details:

• Nuclear setup. I live with my parents. My sister is married. My parents did not pursue any form of formal education (Just basic, till the 12th grade) but have always prioritized education for both their kids. Now, AH, both of us are doing pretty well in our lives.
• I intend to keep living with my parents, as the only supporting son, after getting married. I’d like to get this point across very clearly from the get-go as this is a deal-breaker for many.
• Me, along with my parents, don’t have any traditional/desi mindset. I think, education, exposure and experience has taught my family quite a bit and we are against all things such as dowry, extravagant/show-off wedding functions, unfair expectations from the other family, and are quite lowkey, logical and grounded.
• My father ran his own business pretty much all his life and has now retired. My mom is a housewife but a very creative soul. She is super into DIY, gupshup and has a pretty jolly nature.
• I love cats and hence have a very important family member left to introduce, Lily. I love her with all my heart and my partner would need to be pet-friendly/accepting of her.

Religion:

• I’m not sure how to define this accurately, but, if I had to rate myself on a religious scale (lol) with 1 being not practicing at all and 10 being strictly religious, I’d rate myself a 6.
• I pray 2-3 times a day and do fast in Ramadan. (Trying to be better)
• I don’t have any religious expectations from my partner except from the bare minimum which is being a Muslim and having some khuda ka khauf (hehe).

 

Am I even ready?

Marriage was never really on my radar because life was, for a long time, about building myself from the ground up. I had to make my own name and grow—not just professionally and financially, but also in terms of my mindset and the person I wanted to become. I’m a self-made individual, and getting to a place where you feel genuinely settled in yourself takes time.

I also never wanted to get married simply because everyone around me was doing it. I wanted to understand what marriage actually demands beyond the wedding itself. I made a point of speaking to friends and cousins who have been married for years, because I believe those are the conversations that matter—the ones about partnership, compromise, communication, responsibility, and building a life together, rather than how many wedding functions to have or which photographer to hire.

And now, for the first time, I feel like I’m in a place where I’m ready to welcome someone into my life—not because I’m trying to catch up with anyone else, but because I genuinely want a partner to share my life with.

Who am I as a person?

• I highly value family, progressive-mindset, and education. I’m not just close to my own immediate family, but also my cousins who I grew up with. The mindset to always do better in life has been a common theme in our family and I think that came from education, hence, I value all of that deeply.
• I was extremely na-laik till 7th, and then something clicked in me and I have never looked back since then. I’d just say I’ve done pretty good academically since then and have always considered myself a hard worker rather than being talented or smart.
• Personality type: I’d definitely be introverted for someone I barely know and extroverted with people that I’m comfortable talking with. Depending on my mood, I’d either do brainrot conversations or deep meaningful conversations around life, relationships and occasional tea (lol). I can count my closest friends on just one hand and value quality over quantity. 
• Values: I don’t smoke, vape or drink. In fact, I’m allergic to smoke as it causes me severe headaches and nausea. 
• Hobbies: I’ve never had many hobbies growing up outside of playing video games. Bonus points if you are into that too and I’d be more than happy to get you a pink controller (hehe).

Factors That Could Make Me a Mismatch

• Flexibility on moving abroad: Although it is not on my radar right now, life can take you all unexpected places. Hence, I’d like my partner to be at least open to the idea of moving abroad in the future.
• Money management: I take this seriously as I feel like hard earned money should be valued, accounted for and spent wisely. When I think about my partner, I also think of them as a financial advisor/partner. Mismatch for those who spend recklessly.

What I’m Looking For:

• Someone who is educated (at least a bachelors), ambitious, smart and wants to join forces to grow as one in all realms of life, be it professionally, spiritually or financially.
• I’m open to both, someone who wants to work and someone who doesn’t want to and would like to stay at home. However, in the latter case, you should have hobbies to keep yourself busy because I do think being busy is very important or else your whole life starts revolving around your partner and that causes problems.
• Being physically attracted to my partner is super important for me but in addition to that I also value being intellectually compatible. If I can’t connect with your brain, physical attraction stops being meaningful to me. Vice versa is also true.
• Preferably someone who is the same age as me or at max 5 years younger because I feel beyond that is just a generational gap that is pretty hard to fill. That makes the age range between 23-28 but I’m not super strict on this and can figure out on a case-to-case basis.
• I think marriage in general takes a lot of effort to sustain. Which means making time for each other, valuing each other's likes/dislikes and in general compromising on some front for the greater good. I just can’t do auto-pilot and pray for the best and consider myself pretty intentional in this regard and would want my partner to reciprocate on this front as well.
• Open to living with my parents. Of course, I understand the privacy element of it and totally open on discussing boundaries to establish an atmosphere of mutual respect. 
• Preferably someone in the Islamabad/Rawalpindi area so that we can meet in-person as well. I highly value meeting in-person since I think that gives you a better sense of chemistry than calling/texting. Open to talking to someone from other cities as well if we align on everything else.

Deal Breakers:

• Smoking, vaping, drinking or indulging in any such activity.
• Not open to living with in-laws.
• Not open to having children.
• Not open to relocating both to Islamabad (if out of city) or abroad (in future terms).
• Lack of good communication and conflict resolution skills.
• If you prefer to write “how r u?” instead of “How are you?” (lol)

Do You Want Children?

• Yes but not right away and with mutual consent/understanding.

Family Setup

• Nuclear.

 

Timeframe for Marriage
This is hard to nail down exactly since when two families are involved timelines do tend to vary for various reasons. However, I’d like to get married within the next year. Priority really is to find the right partner first, however long that takes since this is probably the most important decision of anyone’s life. That being said, I’m also not in favor of talking months on end with no direction whatsoever. I believe a month or two of intentional talking/meeting is enough to gauge compatibility given that you know what you’re looking for. After which I’d like to get families involved leading up to an engagement (if all goes well) with actual marriage timelines being agreed upon mutually. 

P.S: I know this has been pretty long so if you took the time to read through it, I appreciate it. I like to put all my heart in anything that I see important so I only wanted to post once I felt like the words are doing justice to who I am and what I am looking for. If you like what you read and would like to talk more, you can DM me your detailed profile and we can take it from there. After our first session of talking, I’d like for us to exchange photos. My only ask would be to be intentional once we start talking and really put in the effort to assess compatibility. Cheers!

Fair warning, I've made it detailed, so brace yourself.

AGE: 28

HEIGHT: 5'7.5"

WEIGHT: 80 kg

LOCATION: Peshawar, Pakistan. Open to relocating within Pakistan or abroad if life, work, and the person make sense. I’m emotionally attached to Peshawar, but thankfully not geographically welded to it.

EDUCATION: BBA in Marketing, MS in Consumer Behavior & Parapsychology, along with professional certifications in marketing, strategy, and business. I genuinely enjoy learning, so there’s a reasonable chance I’ll randomly know something about psychology, history, AI, ancient civilizations, or a subject nobody asked about.

OCCUPATION: I'm a self-made man who's worked since 17, always had great success in the things I've done. I work in marketing strategy, consulting, and entrepreneurship. Essentially, businesses come to me with problems and I spend an unhealthy amount of time figuring out why something isn’t working and how to fix it.

MARITAL STATUS: Never married.

ACCOMMODATION: Own residence.

SOURCE OF INCOME: Marketing, consulting, and business. Financially independent and career-oriented, but thankfully my entire personality isn’t a LinkedIn post. I currently work with a US based company as their Head of Strategic Marketing.

ABOUT ME:

I’m somewhere between calm, curious, responsible adult and “we have absolutely no reason to take this road but let’s see where it goes.”

I love good conversations, travelling, photography, writing, documentaries, gaming, long drives, discovering ridiculously good food, volunteering when I can, and learning things for absolutely no practical reason.

One night I might be reading about human psychology; the next I’m watching something about ancient Rome, artificial intelligence, black holes, or wondering why humans collectively decided meetings needed to exist.

I’m naturally curious about people and what makes them who they are. I enjoy conversations that go beyond “wyd?” and somehow move from food to childhood memories to philosophy to whether aliens would have bureaucracy.

Personality-wise, I’m calm, thoughtful, affectionate, family-oriented, and usually the person listening while everyone else talks. But once I’m comfortable, the sarcasm activates.

I roast people I like, laugh at myself regularly, enjoy spontaneous plans, and firmly believe life is already serious enough without two people making their relationship feel like a corporate performance review.

I’m not particularly impressed by perfection. Kindness, consistency, humility, intelligence, humour, curiosity and good character are far more attractive.

For me, the best marriage would feel like having a partner, best friend, favourite person, occasional debate opponent, travel companion, emergency food-order consultant, and safe place all rolled into one.

RELIGIOUS BELIEFS:

Sunni Muslim.

I pray regularly, although like most people I’m still trying to improve myself and my relationship with Allah. I fast during Ramadan and try to keep faith an actual part of how I live rather than just something written under “religion.”

I believe deen also shows in honesty, kindness, humility, mercy, keeping your word, respecting people and treating others well when you have absolutely nothing to gain from them.

I respect people of other faiths and backgrounds.

I’d want Islam to be an important part of our marriage, but I’m not looking for someone pretending to be spiritually flawless. Two sincere people helping each other become better sounds much healthier to me.

FAMILY DETAILS:

I’m an only child.

My father passed away when I was young. My mother is a retired teacher and one of the strongest people I know. She raised me with a strong sense of responsibility, compassion, independence and family.

So yes, technically I’m an only child.

No, I was not issued a private helicopter and unlimited pocket money. 😭

LOOKING FOR:

Someone kind, emotionally mature, sincere in her faith, family-oriented, intelligent, affectionate and capable of communicating like an adult.

Someone curious about the world. You absolutely do not need to share all my interests. In fact, please have your own interests so we can introduce each other to things.

A good sense of humour is dangerously attractive.

I appreciate women who can laugh at themselves, speak openly, disagree respectfully, have opinions of their own and still remain kind.

I’d especially value someone who understands that marriage isn't two perfect people magically finding each other. It’s two imperfect people continuously choosing to communicate, forgive, grow, laugh and build something together.

Bonus points if you enjoy travelling, random conversations, food adventures, documentaries, long drives or sending me something at midnight because “YOU NEED TO SEE THIS.”

Extreme bonus points if you can tell me where you want to eat without saying “anything is fine” and then rejecting my next seven suggestions. 😂

DEAL BREAKERS:

Dishonesty, disloyalty, cruelty, arrogance, manipulation, disrespect, chronic emotional unavailability, substance abuse, lack of basic empathy, and refusing to communicate when there’s a problem.

Also people who think apologising means losing an argument.

We are fighting the problem, not each other.

NON-NEGOTIABLES:

Serious about marriage.

Honest and loyal.

Emotionally mature enough to communicate instead of disappearing whenever something gets uncomfortable.

Respectful toward both families while understanding that a marriage also needs privacy and boundaries.

Reasonably aligned religious values.

Kindness toward people regardless of their social status.

And perhaps most importantly: we should actually like each other.

Marriage shouldn't just be two families approving a spreadsheet while the bride and groom discover afterwards that they have absolutely nothing to talk about.

PREFERABLE FAMILY SETUP:

Flexible.

Joint or separate can both work depending on circumstances. I care much more about mutual respect, healthy boundaries, privacy, family harmony and what works best for the marriage than blindly insisting on one arrangement.

Parents deserve love and respect.

So does your spouse.

Neither should require destroying the other.

DO YOU WANT CHILDREN?

Yes, InshaAllah.

I’d want us to raise children who are kind, curious, confident, emotionally secure and comfortable talking to their parents.

Preferably children who inherit their mother’s looks and my ability to Google extremely obscure information at 3 AM.

TIME FRAME FOR MARRIAGE:

I’m serious about marriage and wouldn’t want an unnecessarily endless talking stage.

At the same time, I’m not trying to speed-run one of the biggest decisions of our lives.

If compatibility, families, values and intentions align, around 6–12 months feels reasonable to me.

I’d rather spend enough time asking the important questions before marriage than spend the first five years afterwards discovering the answers.

Basically: looking for a good human being with faith, warmth, emotional intelligence, a functioning sense of humour and genuine intentions.

If we can build friendship, trust, attraction, respect and peace together, everything else has somewhere good to grow from.

Amma Abba wants me to get married asap and I don't want to marry someone I don't vibe with. ye buhat bara masla hai. So, Bismillah.

Long read ahead, so please sabr ka saath go through it.

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Height & Weight: 5'11, 94 kg (trying to fall in BMI range but routine is forcing otherwise)

Location: Born in Lahore, raised and settled in Rwp/Isb

Residence: Own (Living with parents)

Education: ACCA (Left with last few papers)

Income Source: Family business and working with a startup

Marital Status: Single/Never Engaged

Religion:

• I believe it's personal, but it's an important part of life.
• Moderately practicing and trying to get better, I would say. Namaz and Fasting I don't miss.
• I try to educate myself on various topics. I am currently diving into a few things and trying to educate myself on that.
• I expect my partner to be on the same page, they shouldn't be like, 'Our forefathers did that, so how can they be wrong?' Like, there should be some conscience of their own so that they can figure out right and wrong for themselves instead of blindly following someone.

What I do to waste my time: (Hobbies or interests, whatever you call it)

• Road trips are my thing. If you ask me that this is the place we should visit, my response will be like road trip, let's go," but unfortunately, life has gotten so busy that even plans made months ago sometimes get cancelled.
• Trekking, at times I despise it, but ironically, I love it at the same time, as my body yearns for it if I don't go for it in a while.
• Badminton and Cricket. It's been a while since I played badminton, but I started cricket recently.
• Anime, if I am not doing anything and my mind is at ease, then this is probably what I would be doing. Jiraiya is a character in Naruto whom I think I relate to, as he is always doing something for his leaf village and even dies gathering intel to protect his village and was killed by his own student. In the same way, there is always something going on in my head to do.

Family:

• Punjabi, Father moved to Rawalpindi in the 80s. An upper middle-class family, I would say.
• Father started his own business almost 20 years ago, and I joined him a couple of years ago. He is almost well-known in his industry.
• On the other hand, my mother is a housewife.
• Three younger sisters. Two have graduated and will start their master's soon, and one is currently in her third semester.
• My family is quite chill, more chill than me.
• I've seen my father do household chores all my life and take care of the people around him, so the good you might see in my profile is because of the environment I was raised in. Alhamdulillah.

About me:

• I am quite easy-going and a hopeless optimist rather than a realist. If you give me a stressful scenario, I will for sure stress about it but will figure out a positive end to it and then will take a chill pill.
• I am the eldest, so yeah, I have been through quite a few things because you're the first one who is expected to take things head-on.
• I avoid discussing things related to religion for obvious reasons, but if you're up for it and someone who can take another person's opinion, then let's go.
• I have basic knowledge of many things, so yes, if a topic comes up and I know about it, we will probably talk about it for a good couple of hours.
• My friends say I talk a lot, but some say I don't, so I think it depends on what level of our friendship is. One thing they all agree on is that I don't share anything and keep everything to myself.
• I have only a few friends and barely go out because those few friends are here and there, lol. So, it's either work, family, or nothing, but given that, the love I have for road trips is unmatched.

What I'm looking for in a partner:

• Someone who actually is aligned with religious values and does modest dressing.
• Preferred age should be between 25-28, as I think if the age gap is huge, then understanding can be an issue at times.
• Someone intellectual, a good conversationalist, like having their own opinions and can hold up a conversation, as for me, it is actually a vibe killer if you cannot hold a conversation. I am a sapiophile, so that's why it's important to me.
• Please be family-oriented and someone who actually doesn't run away from meeting loved ones but has your own identity.
• If you're career-oriented and want to pursue your career or education afterwards, then it is your right, and there won’t be any hindrance. If you're someone whose working hours are intense and who does understand that it's okay and the other person can be late often, then we might get along better.
• Ichiraku's Miso Ramen is for you if you are open to spontaneous and impromptu plans. Like if your idea of having a good time is sitting in the mountains having a cup of tea and discussing something random, then wow, we're the same.
• One more bowl of Ichiraku's Miso Ramen for you if you’re someone who doesn’t take things too seriously and has a good sense of humour and appreciates wit and banter.
• I believe it is a man's obligation to bring the food to the table, so I don't require my partner to contribute to household expenses.
• Physical attraction does matter to me, but I do believe it's subjective. I do know how to carry myself, so yes, I bring the same to the table.
• Everything I have mentioned above is something I bring to the table myself, and that's why I am asking for the same in return.

Dealbreakers:

• If you're someone who is not passionate about anything, then we might not get together, as I think you should have something to look forward to or work towards.
• For some reason, having male friends is a deal breaker, and I do bring the same to the table I don't have female friends.
• I don't smoke or party, so yes, you shouldn't be the one who does any.
• If modest clothing is out of the picture for you.
• If you want to move abroad. As I have no plans to move abroad or to any other city, even. If you're from rwp/isb then that will be a plus point. I know what I want to do in the future, and I am more aligned this way. Rest, ALLAH knows what is in store for me.

What can be a stumbling block for you:

• Work is demanding, and I do work with a startup for now, so working hours are a lot at times, and at times nothing is on the plate, but mostly late sittings are there, so you should be comfortable with this.
• Our family is tight-knit, and in important decisions we do take each other's opinions and then make the decision. My family is very important to me, and by that I don't mean that they will be your responsibility or that I expect you to do that in my place I simply mean that please be considerate in this regard.

Preferred Family Setup:

• I am living with my parents and would prefer this setting in the future, but a separate portion can be a possibility. So, it's not joint-joint but not nuclear-nuclear either.

Do You Want Children?

• Yes, probably after a few years, IA.

Rest, ALLAH knows what he has in store.

Timeframe:

• Within a year if things go well.

I do want to involve my parents early on as well if things resonate.

If my profile somewhat resonates with you, then please share your profile when you message me rather than just sending hi or hello. Secondly, if we vibed well, then I might ask you to have a face-to-face conversation once before we move forward.

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P.S. If you are allergic to bearded and somewhat bald guys (can't do anything about it, genes), then yeah, please pass and save your time and mine as well.

Bismillah

Height 5’0” and weight 50kg
Location: Faisalabad
Education: doing Bachelor’s in Computer Science
Income source: Currently studying / none
Marital status: Single/Never engaged
Residence: Own
Family Details: We are family of 5 and i have two elder siblings (i am the youngest one)
Personality:
i’m a parhako type of girl the kind who actually wants to use her degree because you never know when life asks you to stand on your own feet. i take my education seriously not because i have to but because i genuinely believe a woman who has skills and knowledge is never helpless.
now here’s the thing about my personality i’m an extrovert around introverts and somehow an introvert around extroverts. i just match your energy, i guesss but the people who know me would probably tell you “yaar woh nahi hoti toh maza nahi aata” i’m the person who makes the room feel alive. i just love people, i love conversations, i love making memories with the ones i care about.
Deen:
alhamdulillah my deen is my first priority and the foundation i build everything else on. i pray all five prayers, do my azkaars, and wear hijab. i started my hijab journey at the beginning of 2024 and Allah madad farmaye.
i don’t follow any specific group or scholar blindly. just the Quran, the Prophet SAW and the Sahaba. that’s it. (Still i am sunni muslim if that matters)

Hobbies and interests:
i love cooking, sometimes reading books, and honestly a good mix of sci-fi shows and rom coms depending on my mood, plus just spending time with my family, thats where i feel most like myself

What I’m Looking For
Age: 22-25
City: preferably Faisalabad but open to Islamabad and Lahore as well

deen first. always. i’m not looking for perfect , perfect doesn’t exist and i’m not that either but i am looking for someone who is genuinely trying. someone whose akhlaq shows in how he treats people, not just in how he presents himself.
he should have sabr, tahammul, and the maturity to handle hard moments with a level head. honest. responsible. but also someone i can laugh with at the end of the day because life is too short to be serious all the time.
i’d love someone who wants to learn and study Quran and tafsir together. to have real conversations. to build something that’s both grounded in deen and full of warmth.
i also imagine a life that’s a mix of everything quiet cozy days at home, traveling and making memories, and always coming back to something stable and peaceful together.
physically i’d be lying if i said looks don’t matter at all, there should be mutual attraction but stilll decent looks, personality, reasonable height thats all.

Preferred Family Setup:
joint/nuclear
i love spending time with my family and i’d love to be part of his too. one thing i do need an environment where my hijab is respected and not made difficult. that’s important to me.

Timeframe for Marriage: 2 years preferably

Children: yes
Dealbreakers:
not practicing deen
quick temper and poor anger management
bad akhlaq
not observing his own parda
disrespect in any form
Emotional immaturity
Smoking, drinking or any other
⁠Disrespectful toward others
Financial irresponsibility or lack of long term stability

Note : kindly dont just message ‘hi’ or ‘hello’ if u dont align with what ive mentioned im looking for, everything i listed is something i genuinely bring to the table myself too. when u reach out, please share ur full profile as well so we’re both being fair n transparent

Kaha ho tum .. chalay ao :p

34F- Kp 🌟 💫

Age : 34

Height: 5’8”

Weight: 80 kg

Location: Haripur, KPK

Accommodation: Own residence

Education: Postgraduate in English Literature

Marital Status: Single

Religion: Islam (Practicing Muslim)

Income Source: doesn’t works / Dependent

Time Frame : End of This year InshAllah (2026)

About Me

I am a practicing Muslim who values sincerity, kindness, respect, and strong family values. I pray regularly, fast, and strive to live according to Islamic principles. Halal and haram matter to me, even in the smallest aspects of life.

My hobbies include gardening, painting, drawing, coloring, and reading.

I appreciate meaningful conversations, personal growth, and a peaceful family-oriented life.

Family

• Father: Retired BM

. Mother: Homemaker

• Siblings: Two, both married and settled in their own lives

What I’m Looking For

I’m not just looking for a husband; I’m looking for a companion, a friend, and a trustworthy partner for life.

A man who:

• Is God-fearing and practicing Islam sincerely

• Understands the importance of halal and haram

• Is respectful, well-mannered, humble, and self-respecting

• Values honesty, loyalty, and commitment

• Knows how to honor and respect others

• Is emotionally mature and supportive

• Wants a peaceful, loving, and lasting marriage

I believe a spouse should be more than a mahram—they should be a friend, confidant, and source of comfort through life’s ups and downs.

Marriage Preferences:

• Age Range: 30–40 years

• Marital Status: Never married preferred

• Second Marriage: Not interested and not willing to be part of a polygamous arrangement now or in the future

• Children: Yes, InshaAllah

• Family Setup: Separate portion/accommodation preferred

• Timeframe: Whenever the right person comes along and mutual compatibility is established

Deal Breakers

❌ Smoking

❌ Drinking

❌ Haram relationships

❌ Lying

❌ Cheating

❌ Lack of religious commitment

Final Note

ہم جدت کے زمانے میں شدت سے محبت کرنے والے پچھلی صدی کے لوگ ہیں ۔۔

Please contact only if you are genuinely serious about marriage and meet the basic requirements. I am not interested in casual conversations or unnecessary delays.

And kindly, if you’re significantly younger than my preferred age range, please don’t waste your time—or mine. 😄

May Allah guide us all toward what is best. Ameen.

Lastly

‎صرف محرم نہ بنو، دل کے دلدار بنو،

‎دوست بنو، یار بنو!

‎غم کی ساعت میں نصیحت کے لیے ایک زمانہ ہے یہاں،

‎تم زمانہ نہ بنو،

‎تم نے بننا ہے تو غم خوار بنو!

‎یوں ہی کرنے کو محبت کے، مری جاں، کئی دعوے ہیں،

‎یوں ہی دعویٰ نہ بنو،

‎تم نے بننا ہے تو پھر وعدہ بنو،

‎وعدۂ وفادار بنو!

‎اور دل نے بھلا ہمراہی کو کیا کرنا ہے،

‎دل کی ہمراہی میں اک مجمعِ اجنبیاں تو پہلے بھی ہے،

‎دل کے ہم راہ نہ بنو،

‎تم نے بننا ہے تو رہدار بنو

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Height & Weight: 5'4", 45 kg

Location: Lahore

Residence: Own 6 Marla in Lahore.

Education: BS(CS), UET Lahore

Income Source: Working at a senior position in a fintech company.

Marital Status: Single

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are:

Sunni Muslim, moderate in dressing, dupatta and eastern wear. Offer prayer, fast and zakat regularly.

Hobbies & Interests:

Mostly reading, office work, looking for career growth and daily chores.

Family Details:

Rajput family

• Father Retired Wapda Officer (Died)
• Mother is a House Wife
• 2 Brothers: both unmarried, 1 brother is an engineer, graduated from Punjab University and got his master degree from London. Currently working in UK and 1 brother is a matric student.
• 2 Sisters: both married, both graduated, 1 is a govt employed and working and the other one is a house wife.

Requirements for a Partner:

Must be sunni muslims, preferred age is 28-30 years, lives and sattled in Lahore, preferrably own home, and good education and stable job/business.

Deal Breakers:

non-muslims, divorced, second marriage, or any scenario where girl hsa to stay alone with family and boy is elsewhere working.

Preferred Family Setup: Open to either joint or nuclear, depending on the family’s values and mutual respect.

Do You Want Children?: Yes

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 6 months, after compatibility is established

M | 24 | Lahore - Corporate slave by day, film enthusiast by night, hopeless romantic always

Height and weight : 5’9 and 68 KG

Location: Lahore. Also, here I should add that I'm only looking for potential matches in Lahore.

Residence : own

Education: Undergrad in Law from LUMS. Graduated in 2025.

Source of income : Currently employed as legal counsel in a prominent company.

Hobbies & Interests: I'm generally someone who is pretty passionate about his hobbies.

Off the top of my head, I'd say the main ones are books, films, shows, learning about philosophy different worldviews and politcal systems, morality, and theology...oh, and also working out and spending time with my friends and family.

When it comes to films and shows I tend to watch literally anything and everything. From Breaking Bad to Fleabag to LOST (my personal favourite) to the Office to Severance, and so on. Also, my top four on letterboxd are : Memories of Murder, The Vanishing, About Time, and Manchester by the Sea.

When it comes to books I similarly tend to read everything but I have a thing for fantasy literature specifically (ASOIAF, LOTR etc.). I'm currently reading Toll the Hounds by Steven Erikson.

With regards to fitness I alternate between swimming and weightlifting but prefer the former.

Finally, a perfect hangout with my friends means something like trying new places for food or coffee, just chilling at eachothers' places, or going to the cinema.

Oh also, totally forgot to mention music. Love putting on my favourite music in the gym and while driving. Tool, Opeth, Slipknot, Katatonia, and Porcupine Tree are arguably my favourite artists.

What I’m Looking For: I don't have a set type when it comes to personality and/or looks.

However, I do want that my partner shares some of, if not most of, my interests and that we can bond over multiple different things. Ideas, goals, hobbies, and of course love and growing together. Oh, and humor too. If you're funny, that's a huge plus in my books.

My ideal vision of a perfect marriage is where the two partners are eachothers' best friends. Where waking up everyday to your spouse feels natural and comforting, and not like a choice. Laughing together, travelling together, having long winded interesting conversations together that are not neccesarily related to marital life etc. I hope I was able to properly convey the sort of vibe and person I'm hoping to find.

Lastly, I'd also want for someone to be generally having the same religiosity as me. Speaking of which...

Religion/Religiosity: Family has a Sunni background but I would personally rather not tie myself to any sect. I also don't have a preference for sect when it comes to potential matches, I'm fine with everything. I personally identify as a muslim and practice wise I struggle with prayers but I do pray at least a couple of prayers per day. On somedays even as much as four. I also fast all of Ramadan. I wouldn't say that I'm personally conservative. I listen to music, play videogames, watch movies and shows, and so on. So, if any of these things bother you or you have a strict requirement to marry someone who's very practicing/religious, I'd personally say that we might be incompatible.

Timeline: No immediate rush. I'd want to get married 2 years from now but if, for any reason, that extends to 3 years then I'm fine with that. I just want to know that before we take the big step, we align in our priorities and compatability.

Deal-breakers: Lack of empathy for others, stubborness, anger issues. In a rush to have children.

Family setup : Open to both nuclear and joint. But eventually settling down with my parents after 10ish, 15ish years. Open to discussion.

Marital status : Single and never married.

Family details : We're a family of four. There's me, my younger sister, and my parents.

Children : Eventually iA but dont want to have children too early.

So yeah, if my profile resonated with you then do consider dropping me a text!

Hoping to find my soulmate here.

Height & Weight: 5 ft 10 inches, 65 kg

Location: New York

Accomodation: Rented in USA (New York), own in Pakistan (DHA Karachi)

Citizenship: Dual US / Pak citizen

Income Source: Employed full-time in the US. Top Income Bracket. Very well established in both Pakistan and the US

Education: O / A Levels, always a school topper. Bachelors in Engineering (USA) and Masters in Finance (USA). Scholarship winner throughout, Dean's List, Graduated with Honors.

Marital Status: Single (never married)

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are: Faith is very important to me. Always eat halal food and have been very particular about avoiding alcohol, drugs, relationships / hookup culture. Not punctual with prayers and fasts but trying to change that IA.

A little bit about myself: Grew up in Pakistan and completed O / A Levels in Pakistan, before moving to the US for undergraduate and further studies. Always been a school topper academically & very ambitious.

Hobbies & Interests: I enjoy nature, relaxing scenic walks. Enjoy visiting new cities, hiking and recently also trying out pickleball and paddle.

Family Details: Simple educated family of doctors and engineers, based in DHA, Karachi. One sibling (doctor), already married.

Requirements for a Partner: Looking for someone honest, kind and shares similar values as me. Must be open to relocation to the US and preferably between ages 23-33.

Deal Breakers: Alcohol, Drugs, any prior history of relationships / hookups etc. Dishonesty or uncompromising personality.

Preferred Family Setup: Nuclear

Do You Want Children?: Yes

Timeframe for Marriage: 6 months to 1 year. I value intentional conversations, let's try to respect everyone's time!

Please share your own profile in my DM, if interested. Best of luck!

M | 25 | Karachi

Gender & Age: Male, 25

Physical Description: Height 5’7, weight around 73kg.

Education & Profession: CA Finalist and Graduate. Currently focused on completing my CA qualification and building my career further.

Job: Working as an Auditor in Big 4 (KPMG)

Lifestyle: Alhamdulillah, I do not smoke, drink or vape at all.

Religious Practice: Sunni Muslim. I try to pray regularly (usually 4 prayers a day, including Fajr whenever possible). I try to maintain a balanced and practical approach towards Deen.

Accommodation & Family Details: I live in my own home with my parents. We are a small family: one elder brother (married with two kids) and one sister.

Personality: Introverted, calm and reserved by nature. I value peace, understanding and emotional maturity in relationships.

Hobbies & Interests: I enjoy watching TV shows and movies, playing video games, and going out whenever I get time from studies/work. I appreciate simple and peaceful moments more than loud social settings.

Future Plans: In sha Allah, I plan to complete my CA and hopefully move abroad in the future for better career opportunities.

What I’m Looking For: I’m looking for someone educated, ambitious, loyal and understanding. Someone with a realistic and mature mindset who values honesty, communication and mutual respect in a marriage.

Family Preference: My mother will live with me after marriage and if we move abroad than nuclear system until i call my mother abroad.

Deal breakers : Too emotional, not able to make decisions for herself, manipulation , disloyalty.

Do i want children: Yes absolutely

Marriage Timeline: Looking to marry within a year, In sha Allah.

Hope you're all doing well!

Before you dive in, some of what I've put down may give you the impression that I'm being overly picky, and you'd be sort of right.. But it's mostly because I know myself fairly well at this point and what I can and can't compromise on and marriage to me is more about having a friend I can relate to and rely on than anything else honestly

So if you see something you like, drop me a message with a short bio/intro!

Height & Weight: 5'10", 73 kg

Location: Rawalpindi, Islamabad

Residence: Living with parents, they own the place

Education: Masters, Bachelors - Mechatronics Engineering & Management - Went to a reputable uni in the UK - 2017-2021

Income Source: Full-time Ops Engineer at a multinational company

Marital Status: Single

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are

Sunni, I'd say I'm moderately practicing and not regular with prayers. Would probably get along best with someone who isn't conservative or super liberal. Hope that makes sense :)

Hobbies & Interests

Tough one, I'm right at the periphery of healthy obsession with fitness, reading (I've got great recs), DIY, electronics and creating solutions to problems that don't exist. Oh and I'm a sucker for exploring new places

Family Details

4 siblings, mum's a homemaker and dad's self employed

Requirements for a Partner

Someone kind, emotionally mature, self aware and capable of communicating properly

Mutual physical attraction and chemistry are both very important to me, as I'm sure they are for most people. I'm not looking for perfection and I'm very aware that I'm far from it myself, but I don't think attraction is something that can be negotiated or forced and I'd rather be honest about that from the start

Bonus points if you're a working professional or at least have hobbies or interests you're genuinely invested in

Also, I might be looking to move back abroad in the near future so preferably someone who's open to relocation

Deal Breakers

Smoking/drug use and age preference would be around 24-28

Preferred Family Setup: Nuclear preferably

Do You Want Children?: Not right now or at least for a few years. I'm not against having them but it's not something I feel strongly about at the moment

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 6 to 12 months, after compatibility is established

Personal Details
Age: 28
Gender: Male
Height: 6’5” (slim)
Location: London, UK
Residence: Currently rented in London; family home and agricultural land in Pakistan.
Marital Status: Never married
Background
Education: Barrister-at-Law
Profession: in the legal field
Caste: Rajpoot
Siblings: 2
Family: Whole family currently in london but moving back to Pakistan soon to look after/farm the ancestral land! Dad’s self employed and mums a homemaker.
Faith
Moderate, Sunni, I wouldn’t claim to be perfect in my practice, but my faith matters to me and I continually strive to be a better Muslim. I fast and pray jumma consistently but need to be better with my prayers inshallah.
Interests & Lifestyle
Outside of work, I’ve recently developed a real passion for chess — it’s become something of an addiction. I’m also currently learning tennis, which has been a refreshing challenge.
What I’m Looking For in a Partner
Khoobsoorat aur khoobseerat — someone beautiful in both appearance and, more importantly, in character. Kindness, warmth, and good values matter far more to me than anything superficial.
Qualities I Cannot Accept
Ego and unkindness. I believe humility and compassion are non-negotiable foundations for a happy home.
Family setup: Nuclear
Children: yes, a whole cricket team!! JK
Non-Negotiables
Unkind, someone with a transactional mindset, Materialistic to the toxic point, Not ambitious,Avoidant, Immodest dressing, Guy best friends,Anger Issues, Poor Communication,Emotionally Unintelligent
Family Plans
I would love to have children, insha’Allah.
Timeline
I’m looking to get married within the next year or so.

I never thought I’d be posting something like this, but here I am. I (F) looking to settle down with the right partner, but I’m not in a rush. Unfortunately, the pressure from my family is getting overwhelming.

To everyone looking at me from the outside, I "check all the boxes"—looks, height, education, career—so they can't wrap their head around why I’m still single.

How do you make people understand that being ready for marriage doesn't mean settling for just anyone just to make the chatter stop?

For those who married in their late 20s or 30s: do you have any regrets about waiting? What happens when you hold out until it truly feels right?

AGE:35 years old but looks really young thanks to my genes and good heart :D Height :5'3" Weight : 55kg

LOCATION: Based in Islamabad, but open to relocating within Pakistan or abroad for the right person.

EDUCATION: Master's in Business.

OCCUPATION I work with an international company as an HR head.

MARITAL STATUS: Never married. Never engaged.

ACCOMODATION: Rented

SOURCE OF INCOME: I am a coporate employee and financially independent.

ABOUT ME: I'm equal parts calm and chaotic.I can enjoy a fancy dinner one weekend and happily sit at a roadside chai dhaba the next. I love travelling, hiking, discovering new places, and saying "Let's do it!" before fully thinking through the consequences. I'm slightly obsessed with AI and technology, will absolutely stop to pet every cat I see, and believe food somehow tastes better after a long drive. My humor is mostly sarcasm with a sprinkle of emotional intelligence.I roast people I like, laugh at myself often, and firmly believe every good relationship needs friendship before anything else. Bonus points if you enjoy random conversations at 2 AM that somehow start with "What's for dinner?" and end with debating whether aliens pay taxes.

RELIGIOUS BELIEFS Im Sunni Syed./urdu speaking .Itry to stay consistent with my prayers and keep improving my deen. I fast during Ramadan, avoid riba, and believe our connection should be built around Islamic values, sincerity, and kindness.Just to clarify i dont do parda or hijab but i dont dress vulgar too.

FAMILY DETAILS: Father is a retired government officer.My mother is a homemaker.Two sisters and one brother. and one lil cute spoiled cat🐾

LOOKING FOR A man between 30–40. Emotionally mature. Handsome cz why not ? Kind. Ambitious. Funny (because life is already serious enough). Family-oriented. Sunni syed but also open to other sunni caste. Someone who communicates instead of disappearing for three days only to return with, "Sorry, been busy." Someone who's genuinely ready for marriage not collecting talking stages like Pokémon.

DEAL BREAKERS Alcohol Dishonesty Disloyalty Emotional unavailability Narcissistic behavior Lack of ambition I'm not sure what I want." Polygamy Please know what you're looking for before messaging me

.Non negotiable: Must be serious about marriage. Honest,loyal, and emotionally mature. Respectful towards family and relationships. Financially responsible. Religious values should be reasonably aligned. Interest-based earnings or practices should not be normalized.

Peferrable family setup Flexible with both joint and separate family systems, as long as there is mutual respect, healthy boundaries, and balance.

Do you want children: Yes, InshaAllah.

Time frame for marriage Preferably within 6 months to 1 year, with family involvement from the early stages so expectations remain clear and intentions stay genuine.

Height & Weight: 5ft Slim

Location: Lower Sindh (Prefer ONLY from here)

Ethnicity: Sindhi speaking (Open to mixing)

Residence: Own Alhamdulillah

Education: Bachelors (in a humanities subject)

Income Source: None

Marital Status: Never married

Religious Details:

• Practicing islam (farz and sunnah) since 7 yrs Alhamdulillah.
• Observe the sharai purdah.
• Listen to explanation of books (aqeedah,fiqh etc) by salafi scholars.

Hobbies:

• Journalling
• Household Chores
• Family time

Family Details:

Father is a retired gov officer and mother is a homemaker. We’re six siblings.

Requirements:

• Basic ilm of the deen (aqeedah,fiqh etc)
• Offers namaz in the masjid
• Educated/skilled enough for halaal rizq
• Gives Sadqah regularly (to dawah of deen too)

Deal Breakers:

• Shirk, biddat in their practice of deen
• Affiliation with deviant or political ideologies
• Plans to shift outside of Pakistan
• Wanting more than JUST a nikkah at home and simple walimah

Preferred Family Setup: Any (where purdah can be maintained)

Age Range: 24-38 yrs

Marital Status: Any (except married)

Do You Want Children?: Yes InshaAllah

Timeframe for Marriage: Within a year

Height & Weight: 5’10”, 75 kg

Location: Austin, TX

Residence: Owned house in Austin

Education: Bachelor of Science (B.S.) in Engineering

Income Source: Engineer at Electric Grid Operator in Texas

Marital Status: Single

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are

I would say I am average in religiosity. I pray 5 times a day, read the Quran, and do my Fard obligations as a Muslim

Hobbies & Interests

I like to read, hit the gym, and listen to other’s experiences. I’m really into philosophy and thinking about the nature of our existence/astrology/history/etc.

Family Details

I am the middle child and older sister is married. Currently live with Mom and Dad. We are three siblings and my younger brother has graduated college.

Requirements for a Partner

I’m looking for someone who is a pious, modest, respectful, understanding, and kind. Must be a Pakistani American (US Citizen) as myself

Deal Breakers

Anyone who had past relationships. Someone who backbites and gossips and is very materialistic. Basically anyone who doesn’t prioritize Islam and doesn’t have any motivation to do so.

Preferred Family Setup: I am open to either joint or nuclear, it really depends on the situation as well as the potential. I can move to live in a rented apartment that is separate or we can have privacy in the house I live in with my parents as it has two floors and four bedrooms.

Do You Want Children?: Yes but not more than 2 children

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 2-5 years, but again if Allah grants me an opportunity I would be a fool to not avail it

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Age: 26
Height & Weight: 5'11", 80 kg
Location: Lahore / Dresden (Germany)
Residence: Own in Lahore, rented in Dresden
Education: Master's in AI in Germany, currently working on my thesis with about a semester left. BS CS from a reputable university in Pakistan. O/A Levels.
Income Source: Data Scientist at a multinational in Germany (part time for now)
Marital Status: Single. I haven't been in a relationship before and I'd want the same, or close to it, in a partner.

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Religion

Practicing Muslim, Sunni. I pray five times a day, read Quran regularly, and try to stay informed by researching myself and following the majority opinion of the scholars. My faith guides my decisions, and I'm always trying to improve in both deen and dunya. I don't drink, don't smoke. Not sure exactly where I sit on the moderate-to-conservative spectrum, but hopefully that gives you a picture.

One thing I'll name directly: relational modesty matters to me. I don't really have female friends and I'm not looking for a partner who has close male friendships or one-on-one dynamics with non-mahram men. I hold myself to the same standard.

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Hobbies and Interests

I love exploring new places, whether it's a scenic hike, an underrated café, or a new city. One of my Saturday rituals is castle hunting around Germany. The goal is to eventually visit them all, and there's no shortage of them out here.

Cooking started as survival and turned into something I genuinely enjoy. Weekends are usually for trying out new recipes — way cheaper than eating out and almost always tastes better. The gym is a big part of my routine now, and I've taken swimming back up recently. Football too.

Big anime fan (One Piece is life). I game when I can, mostly RPGs, MOBAs, and single-player stuff, though ab time hee kahan milta :'( . Food in general is a passion, I'm always hunting for underrated spots. Movies and shows are my downtime, and I've watched more k-dramas than I'd like to admit. I can talk for hours theorising about plotlines.

I also like to write poetry and sometimes post it on Instagram, mostly spoken-word stuff.

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About Me

I'm an ambivert, INFJ. Quiet at first, but once I'm comfortable I'm open, talkative, and easy to be around.

My friends would say I'm pragmatic and earnest. I'm the big brother of the group, the one people come to for advice. On a hard day I'll put on some NFAK, brew myself a chai, and let things settle.

A regular weekday is pretty steady: work, uni, gym, cook, journal, an episode of something, sleep. I like the rhythm of it.

I'm in the final stretch of my Master's and locked in on building a career here. The plan is to stay in Germany until I get PR or nationality, inshaAllah.

I'm also genuinely soft for kids. My nieces and nephews are some of my favourite people on the planet, and I'm looking forward to being a father one day.

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Family

Father is a finance manager, mother is a doctor, and I have one younger brother. We're close-knit and stay in touch no matter where life takes us.

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What I'm Looking For

The most important thing is a strong connection to faith — someone who fears Allah and is committed to following Islam. Beyond that, I value kindness, understanding, and a willingness to grow together in both deen and dunya. Bonus points if you're hustling for your own career or something you care about.

I want a partner I can laugh with, face hard things with, and build a warm home with. Good communication is essential. I'd much rather sit down and talk something through than deal with passive-aggression or silent treatment.

Ideally looking for someone my age or younger. Either:

1. Already in Germany or Europe, or
2. Based in Lahore and looking to come here already as a student or for work.

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Deal Breakers

• Not practicing the basics of Islam
• Smoking, alcohol, anything non-halal, overtly immodest attire
• A past relationship (I haven't had one either)

Other:

• Age: Same age or younger
• Children: Yes, very much want them
• Family Setup: Nuclear abroad. Joint back home eventually, but separate floor.
• Timeframe for Marriage: 6 to 18 months, flexible. We can figure it out together.