r/PakistanRishta

As cliché as the tagline sounds, I’m genuinely more of a green-flag type, or so I’ve been told 😆

Sorry for the long read, but I believe finding the right partner is one of the most important things because I'm only gonna get one for life. So I'd rather put some efforts.

Please Skip if:

• You are not intentional about marriage. 
• You are not willing to involve parents after mutual understanding is established. 
• You have poor communication (I mean how else are we supposed to proceed things, I am not going to carry the conversations alone)
• Your parents are not gonna accept your right to choose a spouse.

Age: 25  

Height & Build: 6'2" | 70kg, Athletic built  

Location: Lahore (been living here for the past 8 years). Although family is from Sialkot  

Marital Status: Single / never engaged  

  

Residence: Rented space in Lahore. Although, Two owned houses in hometown (working towards buying one in Lahore soon InShaAllah)

Education: Bachelor’s in IT | Topper of the class (didn't pursue masters intentionally, even won few international scholarships)

Income Source: Senior Software Developer at a reputable company. Alhamdulillah, my career has been stable and rewarding, and I'm financially independent. Alongside my job, I enjoy building things and am currently working on few of my startups  

  

Religion & Level of Religiosity:  

Faith plays an important role in my life. I try my best to maintain my five daily prayers and live according to Islamic values. I'm generally aligned with the Sunni tradition, though I prefer focusing on the core teachings of Islam rather than sect differences.

Something about me:

• I am very lively and chalant person. Seriously, I am into various things, from cooking to coding, from skincare to gym, from anime & k-drama to video games, from PSX trading to entrepreneurship, from reading comics & manhwa to documentations 💀. Even my music playlist is quite diverse. 
• I’m an animal lover in general, although I definitely have a bit of favoritism towards cats 😆
• Personality-wise, I'm fairly calm, thoughtful, open-minded, non-judgmental and considerate.
• I would say I am average decent looking guy with phenomenal physique (i do take gym seriously).
• I am very ambitious, i do have audacious goals that I am actively trying to acheive.
• I am striver by nature, I have worked a lot on myself in every possible way and I am consistently looking to make myself better.
• My future plans include growing my business, travelling around the world, and having my own cute little tribe someday. Ultimately, I hope to build a peaceful home filled with warmth, respect, and a lot of laughter.

Family Details:  

Father spent his career as an IT administrator and is now semi-retired, while my mother has dedicated herself to being a homemaker, I have 2 elder brothers, working in IT related field in Dubai (both married) and 1 younger brother (doing bachelors)  

What i am looking for in a partner:

• Ideally within the age range of 22–27. 
• Height preference: 5'2'' and above. 
• Education: I value skills, understanding, and mindset more than formal degrees, so education level is not a major factor. 
• Location does not really matter, but it will definitely make things easier for families If its nearby to Lahore/Sialkot
• Lifestyle & values: I’m looking for someone 
  •    who is kind, respectful and emotionally mature. 
  •    who is ambitious yet soft-spoken, with strong religious and social values. 
  •    who cares about her health and well-being. 
  •    who has her own interests, hobbies, and passions. 
  •    who values faith, personal growth and a meaningful partnership.

   

• She can be career-oriented or prefer being a homemaker, i would support her to my best in any case.
• The more similar interests we have the more bonus points she'd get.
• My philosophy about a perfect marriage is that its 60-40, with each partner trying to be the 60.

  

Deal Breakers:

• Dishonesty or lack of transparency. 
• Disrespectful attitude towards people or relationships. 
• Poor or unwilling communication. 
• Previous dating history. 
• Unambitious & extremely pessimistic
• Smoking or any form of substance abuse.

I always believed and I still believe that I shouldn't do things which I don't want my future partner to be doing. So I myself clears out the deal breakers I mentioned

Preferred Family Setup: Preferably Nuclear

Do you want children: Yes, eventually

Timeframe for Marriage: Within this year InShaAllah, although it's flexible if everything else aligns. Tbh i dont think it will take much time, I am good natured gentleman with positive future outlook so your parents are gonna approve easily 😉

You might be thinking "omgg why a guy like him is seeking on reddit?"

To be very honest:

• I'm not really into cousin marriage
• Traditional arrange marriage feels like a gamble (scary atp)
• Reddit is the platform where i met most like-minded people

If the vibe resonates, feel free to reach out or share it with someone suitable 😁

Height & Weight: 5’10”, 80 kg

Location: Pakistan; relocating to the USA in July 2026.

Residence: Own

Education: MBBS; USMLE Steps completed; matched into US residency starting July 2026.

Income Source: Incoming resident physician in the USA

Marital Status: Single

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are

Muslim; practicing and striving to pray 5 times daily, fasts during Ramadan, eats halal, and avoids anything haram including smoking and alcohol.

Hobbies & Interests

Traveling, outdoor games, exploring new places, and spending time with family and friends. I also enjoy meaningful conversations, maintaining a healthy work-life balance, and making time for close relationships.

Family Details

Father owns a business, mother is a homemaker, and there are 2 siblings. Elder sibling is married, and younger brother is studying medicine.

Requirements for a Partner

Looking for a well-educated, understanding, and supportive partner, preferably a doctor. Someone adaptable, family-oriented, and open to relocating to the USA. Preferably born and brought up in Pakistan. I value respect, honesty, strong communication, and mutual understanding in a relationship.

Deal Breakers

Disrespect, poor communication, and lack of willingness to adjust.

Preferred Family Setup: Nuclear family

Do You Want Children?: Yes

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 1–2 years, based on mutual understanding and family involvement

Anything Else

Starting residency in the USA soon, so looking for someone who understands the demands of this journey and is ready to build a future together.

Looking for families settled in Islamabad or Nearby areas only.

Height & Weight: 5’8”, 57kg

Location: Islamabad

Accommodation: own family house

Education: Bachelor’s in Computer Science

Profession: Software Engineer

Marital Status: Single, Never Married

Ethnicity: Punjabi

Religion:

Muslim (Ahl-e-Sunnat). I observe the core practices of Islam including daily prayers and fasting in Ramadan, and I strive to maintain a halal lifestyle while continuing to improve my deen over time.

Please refrain from contacting me if religion is not something you take seriously. ‼️

Brief Intro About me:

I’ve always been an ambitious person, someone who values growth, independence, and building a life I genuinely enjoy. And always had an appreciation for art, animation, creativity, and tech.

Coding and tech have been a big part of who I am for as long as I can remember, so I naturally connect more with someone who’s a little nerdy or geeky too.

In my free time, I’m usually gaming, especially story-driven games or multiplayer games with friends. I also enjoy trying new food, traveling, and spending time with the people I’m close to.

I love movies, especially animated ones, along with TV series and anime, and I’ve been into them for as long as I can remember. There’s also a very high chance I’ve watched more anime than you. An achievement that’s either impressive or a warning sign. Hehe.

I’m career-oriented, not in a “wage slave 9-to-5” kind of way, but because I genuinely enjoy what I do and want to keep growing and excelling in it. I’d prefer someone similar, someone who’s passionate about what they do and driven by genuine interest rather than just routine survival.

Family Details:

My father is an electrical engineer. My mom has an MBA and used to be a teacher. I have 4 siblings where I am the eldest.

We come from a well read and a highly educated family mostly of engineers for 3rd generations. Academics and professional growth has been an important part of our family, so I’m hoping to meet someone whose family shares that same outlook.

Looking For:

I’d prefer someone educated, professionally established, and genuinely passionate about what he does. I appreciate people who are intelligent, driven, tech-oriented, a little nerdy/geeky, emotionally mature, and supportive of their partner’s ambitions.

Having good taste in music, films, and culture is a big plus as well.

I value a relationship built on mutual respect and partnership, where both people can grow as individuals. Rather than one revolving around the another.

Since I’m tall myself and enjoy wearing heels, I’d preferably like someone 6ft+ as well. Physical attraction matters to me, so I’d also prefer someone fit, well-groomed, and health-conscious.

Also Id prefer someone closer to my age or is in the similar age group.

Deal Breakers:

• Smoking
• Drugs or alcohol
• Past physical relationships
• Lack of professional direction/career

Preferred Family Setup: Nuclear

Do You Want Children? Yes

Timeframe for Marriage:
1 year, if compatibility is there.

Note: Please send a proper full profile instead of just “Hi/Hello” messages. Saves both of us time, and reduces the number of conversations that die faster than my free trial subscriptions.

Hi, this feels very nerve-wracking, but anyway.

I’m 5’4” and 65kg. I'm slim and I work out. I turned 28 this year.

I live with family in a rented accommodation and we have properties we own as well.

I did my Master’s from NUST in a subject I did not really care for after I couldn’t go to my dream school abroad (even though I got in). I am someone who really values personal education, and I still plan to go get that Master’s.

I work as an editor at a news publication. My career is important to me; it’s something that keeps me sane.

I am single and always have been because I do not engage in relationships. I am Sunni. I am fairly practising. I have been struggling with Fajr, but aside from that, I pray regularly and observe all fard. I also wear a hijab. I did lock-in this Ramadan and study tafsir. I’m now also trying to learn Arabic to understand the Quran better (I find it really difficult, in case you were wondering).

I have a lot of hobbies and interests. In fact, my problem is that I can’t select a few things that I’d like to stick to, so I just flail about in the quagmire of all my desires. Clearly, if you can’t tell already, I like to read and write, especially fiction. I sometimes even do poetry, or it does me idk. I also like to draw, take photos, play and make video games, solve puzzles, bake, explore new places, cuisines, and experiences. 

I’m introverted, but I yap a lot tbh. I like to overanalyse every piece of media I consume and share it with anyone willing to listen. I’m an INFJ and a Gryffindor, for anyone concerned.

Family Details: 

My father is a businessman. My mother is an educator. My younger brother works in the AI scene, and my little sister is in school.

Requirements for a Partner:

Location: Ideally, someone in Islamabad or Lahore. If you are abroad, I’d prefer someone who has family here and frequently visits.

Age: 26-31

I am looking for my kuf (see definition). It’s the Arabic term for compatibility. I believe that if there’s alignment on essential things like values, lifestyle, and goals, things are bound to go smoother. I’d like to add here that financial compatibility (because I have to literally leave my comfortable home for someone and that is scary), as well as being intellectually matched, is very important to me. I want someone who likes what they do, or at least engages with what they are passionate about to some degree, like on the side or as a hobby. I would really like to be with someone who has personal goals alongside familial responsibilities, is ambitious and looks forward to life.

I seek a fulfilling companionship where values and goals align in a way that each person is willing to work for the other’s dreams. I have seen countless women, and even men, let go of their own dreams after marriage. I really don’t want that. Not for myself, nor for my partner. So, I’d like to connect with someone who sees marriage as a way to better themselves and the lives of their loved ones, as opposed to a mere obligation with strict roles and restrictions.

I think I’ll follow that lengthy philosophical dive with some bullet points:

• Someone who at least observes fard obligations and has genuine faith in his heart, meaning that he’s on a quest to continuously improve. 
• Someone with really good hygiene. I am a bit crazy when it comes to hygiene and keeping things organised.
• Someone who takes care of his physical and mental health. I work out, and I’m part of a cycling group, so I’d want to be with someone who remains physically active. Being aware of one’s own and others’ mental health, and being open to talk about it (even professionally) is also important.
• Someone who is not afraid to be emotionally open and vulnerable with his partner. 
• Someone who likes to travel and has been travelling.

Aside from these points, because I’m introverted, I would prefer to be with someone at least more extroverted than myself. Also, would be really cool if you read. If you are a fluent English speaker, that’d be nice, just because my brain thinks in English, and it’s how I express myself best.

Deal Breakers:

• Lack of hygiene and ability to take care of oneself, like not being able to do their own chores, keep their space clean, take care of their physical and mental health.
• Involvement in past long-term, highly-invested relationships. 
• Inexpressive, non-communicative.
• Disrespecting women, this includes the way you talk about women in general, including those who are strangers or even just on TV.
• Doomscrolling.

Preferred Family Setup: 

Depends. I am cool with a joint family setup, given that everyone has their own space and boundaries.

Do You Want Children?: Yes 

Timeframe for Marriage: 1-2 years, with an early Nikkah once things fall into place and it’s clear we are meant to be.

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Age: 24

Height & Weight: 5'5", 80kg

(Comments or DMs solely regarding this will be deleted, thank you)

Location: Karachi

Residence: Family owned

Education: Doctor of Pharmacy from UoK

Marital Status: Single (Never married/engaged or in a relationship)

Religion: Sunni Muslim

I stick to the basics i.e regular prayers and fasting. I try to regularly recite the Quran too. I value these aspects in a potential partner as well

Income source: Currently teaching at school (Goal is to join a pharma)

Hobbies & Interests

I read alot, mostly fiction and fantasy

Watching anime is also something I have always enjoyed

I adore cats and definitely to keep one after marriage

Family Details

Father: Consultant

Mother: Housewife (used to teach in various schools but gave that up as my grandmothers health worsened)

3 younger sisters

Requirements for a Partner

I am the eldest daughter in a household where I was required to be very independent and was heavily involved in the running of things. I need my partner to understand that I am not being disrespectful or dominant that is just the way I grew up. If they can make me feel safe my brain does turn off and I can be feminine with them

Age: 23-30 years old

Someone who realizes that not everything in the relationship needs to be disclosed to family and friends

Someone who takes a stand for me publicly and we can sort out our differences in private

If you like anime/gaming/reading that's a plus

Deal Breakers

Using Islam as a weapon to defend things that suit them, cheating, being disrespectful, previous relationships, someone who expects the wife to clean up after him thanklessly

Also someone who smokes/vapes or consumes ghutka etc (Not touching that even with a 10 foot pole)

Family setup: Nuclear

Do You Want Children?: Yes (but not immediately)

Timeframe for Marriage: 6 months to a year

Height & Weight: 5'4" & 60kgs

Location: Karachi, but will move abroad for Master's

Accommodation: Own

Education: Bachelor's in Electrical Engineering; planning to start my Master's this year or next.

Income Source: Currently working as a Design Engineer at a US-based firm remotely.

Marital Status: Single, never married.

Religion: I am a practising Muslim who strives to be consistent with prayers, though I occasionally miss one or two, which I am actively working on. I fast, give sadqah, and read the Quran with translation. I also try to memorise Surahs when I find the time. I try to observe hijab and strive to become a better Muslim each day.

About Myself: I am an introverted person who loves cats, I'd love to adopt one after marriage, since my parents don't allow it lol. I enjoy anime, noodles, and travelling. I am a good listener and an empath. I tend to introspect before making decisions, but once I set my mind to something, I'll do my best to achieve it. And while I am reserved, that doesn't mean I don't enjoy spending time with people or family, I absolutely do. I value consistency over perfection!

Hobbies & Interests: I enjoy sci-fi, dystopian, and thriller films. I love trying new restaurants and have no problem going out alone, I’d take myself on a solo date. I love to crochet keychains and gift it to my friends. I also enjoy meeting new people, exchanging thoughts, and having good conversations, albeit mostly online.

Family Details:

Father: Retired.

Mother: Retired.

Siblings: One elder sister.

Requirements for a Partner:

- Should be no older than 29.

- Should be a practising Muslim (Sunni), someone who also brings me closer to Deen.

- Should be financially stable and responsible with expenses. I expect my partner to be the financial provider of the household.

- Should be polite, calm, and well-spoken.

- Should have good humour.

- Must be emotionally mature and understanding.

- Someone who is willing to settle abroad.

Deal Breakers:

- Smoking, drinking, or any substance abuse.

- Dishonesty/lying.

- Unable to maintain boundaries with the opposite gender.

- No clear direction or goals in life.

- Financial instability.

- Lacks authority in demeanor, not confident/decisive.

- Polygamy/Past haram relationship.

- Not supportive of my career.

- Anger issues.

Preferred Family Setup: Nuclear

Children: Yes, but after 2–3 years . I believe in building understanding first.

Timeframe for Marriage: Within a year. I would like to involve families once compatibility is established.

Height & Weight: 5’3, 58 kg

Location: in karachi currently

Accommodation: my own hehe

Education: bachelors of law!

Income Source: employed, i’ve a job :(

Marital Status: single

Religion: muslim, shia

Your religion and your level of practice: i’d say i’m not very religious but i try really hard to cover the basics such as praying and fasting

Hobbies & Interests: honestly i had to give up on so many hobbies due to my job :( BUT I LOVE VIDEO GAMING!

Family Details: i’ve two siblings. dads got a business and moms a home maker.

Requirements for a Partner: PLEASE BE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT. i swear if ur a misogynist u will be blocked. knows how to cook and clean because i do not want a man child for a partner. has to be funny for gods sake. HAS TO BE TALL 🙏 and have a head full of hair.

Deal Breakers: hates animals. short. doesn’t wanna let me work. not fit.

Preferred Family Setup: nuclear

Do You Want Children?: yeah

Timeframe for Marriage: 1-2 years.

Finally mustered the courage to post my profile in this sub. It’s a bit long, so I appreciate you reading it, but if you want, there’s a TL;DR at the end. :)

Age: Turning 31 in June.

Height, weight, physique
I’m 5'3.5" and 45 kg. I look veeeery young, and I’ve been told I look like a sophomore still studying at university. I’m petite and lean, with a fair complexion, decent hair and beard, and green/hazel eyes (sorry, I had to mention them since they’re the highlight of my looks).

Location: DHA 2, Islamabad. Originally from Karachi, but we moved when I was 7. Most of my extended family, cousins and all, live in Karachi.

Accommodation: Owned by parents, and I live with them.

Education: Bachelor's in Business Administration from NUST H12. O/A levels background.

Income Source: I work as a Product Marketer remotely for B2B SaaS companies. Currently working for a UK/US-based company, from Pakistan, on a European pay scale. Alhumdulillah Alhumdulillah.

Marital Status: Single, never married.

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are

• Sunni, Syed, and Urdu speaking.
• I pray 5 times a day, fast during the month of Ramadan, and offer my zakat.
• Besides this, I am a strong believer in huqooq-ul-Ibad. I grew up in a house where my mother offered free food to animals and the underprivileged, and my dad supported her even when times were tough for us. So being charitable has been an important part of my upbringing.
• I haven't gone for Hajj or Umrah yet but I'd like to go with my future wife, InshaAllah.

Hobbies & Interests
I never really know what to say in this part, as my hobbies have evolved over time, but here's a short list of stuff I'm into/was into

• Used to be big into sports. Turning into a burnt chicken nugget while playing outside was the norm every day. I don't play sports anymore, but I work out 3 days a week and go on a 3km walk 6 days a week.
• Used to play pc/console games but I don't anymore, would love to get back into it someday. Nowadays, its just watching YT or anime and working or doing research on different things like cars, gadgets, tech, stocks, etc.
• Watching football regularly. I am an Arsenal fan 💀 (those who know, know).
• I occasionally go and hang out with my friends, who are absolutely the nicest bunch in the sense that they understand I don't like leaving my house, but they ask every time and also pick me up from my house if I'm being too stubborn.
• I like trying new types of food and drinks, not necessarily new restaurants, but different flavors.

Personality

• I’m an empathetic person, so it’s very easy for me to feel the pain of other people or animals, as well as their joy and happiness. I have a strong internal locus of control (I think), and I very rarely succumb to peer pressure. I don’t really believe in personality types because they put you in a box, but mine is ISFJ, in case you were wondering.
• My friends and family say that I'm a kind, thoughtful, and respectful person. My phuppo used to say that I was a "bacha ma'n ka sacha".
• I’m an ambivert, so if I want to, I can speak well in social or family gatherings. With that said, I prefer speaking less unless I’m very comfortable around you. I’m generally soft-spoken, and loud people can be a bit intimidating for me.
• I have a provider mindset, and that’s part of the reason why I delayed marriage so I could have enough savings to build a good life with my future wife. With that said, if you want to, you’ll have my support to continue working after marriage.

Family Details

• Father: Mechanical Engineer from NED University, has his own business now
• Mother: Housewife
• Siblings: 1 elder brother - Mechanical Engineer from NUST H12. Married and lives separately

Preferred mode of communication: Urdu. Coworkers ke sath English may baatein karkar ke thak jata hoon. :(

Requirements for a Partner

• I envision marriage as a partnership rather than a competition, so it would be nice if we share the same mindset.
• Someone who's smart, kind, practical, and knows how to carry the responsibilities of deen and dunya.
• Educated from a good university and not too much difference in socioeconomic class. Preference for someone also in tech, but not a requirement.
• Looks matter—not the only thing that matters, but just know that I look very young, so it might feel awkward if you look significantly older than me. I understand my height could be a deal-breaker for many as well, and that’s perfectly fine; I wouldn’t hold it against anyone.
• Someone living closer to RWP/ISL, so it’s easier for our families to meet and for you to visit your parents’ house regularly (if you want to) after marriage.
• Age up to 28.

Deal Breakers

• Drugs, drinking, smoking, vaping and past relationships—I have never engaged in such activities and would prefer my partner to have similar views on them.
• Doesn’t pray or fast. It’s okay if you’re not regular, as long as you acknowledge the importance of praying and fasting, and the responsibility of missing them. No one is perfect, I’m far from it myself, but it’s important to know right from wrong and strive to be a good person and a good Muslim.
• Lacks empathy.
• Hates cats. It's okay if you don't like them, but please be aware that we feed some stray cats, and that could be a deal breaker for you.

Preferred Family Setup: Living with my parents, so it would be just the four of us.

Do You Want Children?: Yes, but not immediately. Maybe 1-2 years after marriage, if and when we're both on the same page.

Timeframe for Marriage: 6-12 Months. It would be nice if we could involve our families after 3-4 weeks. That gives us enough time to get to know each other I think, and also shows that both parties are serious in taking things forward.

TL;DR:
31-year-old Sunni Syed male from Islamabad (DHA 2), originally from Karachi. 5'3.5", 45 kg, petite/lean and fair complexion. Bachelor’s in Business Administration from NUST. Works remotely as a Product Marketer for UK/US B2B SaaS companies (European pay scale). Single, never married.

Practising Muslim (5 prayers, fasting, zakat), values charity and huqooq-ul-ibad, plans Hajj/Umrah with future spouse, InshaAllah. Family-oriented; lives with parents; father is an engineer-turned-businessman, mother is a homemaker; one married brother.

Soft-spoken ambivert with an empathetic, kind, and disciplined personality. Prefers Urdu communication. Enjoys fitness, walks, occasional gaming, YouTube/anime, football (Arsenal fan), and tech/gadget research. Has a provider mindset and is supportive of the spouse working after marriage.

Looking for an educated, kind, empathetic, practical partner (age ≤28), from a similar socioeconomic background, preferably near RWP/ISL, with aligned values (no smoking/drugs/past relationships, is religious). Prefers living with parents after marriage.

Marriage timeline: 6–12 months, with family involvement after 3–4 weeks. Wants kids later (1–2 years after marriage).

Height & Weight: 5'4", 55kgs

Age: 29

Location: Punjab, Pakistan close to Lahore

Accommodation: own, I live with my parents

Education: Bachelors and Masters in Humanities from University of London.

Income Source: Business owner since 5 years, will continue to work after marriage and be back and forth to Sialkot if I move.

Marital Status: Single, I’ve lowkey almost been engaged, was in a long term relationship that was meant to end in marriage but didn’t work out

Religion: Faith is a huge part of who I am, I pray 5 times a day, follow the 5 pillars of Islam, have gone for Umrah a couple of times. I don’t wear the Hijab though.

I want my partner to have a very clear distinction of halal and haraam.

Hobbies & Interests, what I’m looking for:

I have profound love for community, and am a very sensitive person and a humanitarian.

Everyone calls me an extrovert, so I probably am one. I’m very full of life, I love travelling, binge watching crime mystery tv shows, and movies. I’m very hyper independent I hate asking for help, and love my me time and going on drives solo. I’m a really good cook and I like to be boastful about it on some days. I’m really easy going and adventurous when it comes to spontaneous plans. People tell me I’m a giver in relationships, maybe a pro for my future spouse I guess.

I’m a foodie, I have a really bad sweet tooth, it would be ideal if you love food too and especially dessert.

I want someone who can take care of me and someone I can finally share my life with.

Family Details: Father is a business man, a well reputed one, I come from a privileged background and would prefer someone who understands my lifestyle

My mother is a housewife

I’m number 3rd of 4 siblings

Elder 2 siblings are married

Requirements for a Partner: Lives in or close to Lahore

Has no plans of moving abroad

A god fearing man, who has same moral and religious values like me.

Educated from a known university, a masters degree would be ideal, but bachelors is fine too.

Has a purpose, depth and goals in life. I don’t expect a man to be a millionaire, but someone who’s driven and is working hard to build a life for his future family.

Open minded when it comes to women’s rights, and freedom, and helps me grow as an individual rather than cage me. I want my partner to be an healthy extension in my life where we both learn from each other and complete each other, no toxicity, no judgement and have complete trust and transparency. Someone who accepts me with all my flaws and imperfections, I don’t expect a man to change for me, so he shouldn’t expect me to change for him either, if you’re someone who is intolerant to strong headed opinionated women I’m not the one for you. I will continue to work after marriage I can’t abandon something I built from scratch and put my heart and soul, and literal blood, sweat and tears into.

A man needs to be emotionally intelligent, patient, understanding and calm, doesn’t raise his voice to get his point across, but wants to listen and communicate.

Deal Breakers: Smoking, alcohol, drug use are a complete no go for me. Please don’t lie about these things, wont get us anywhere.

Infidelity, rage anger issues, misogyny.

Lazy, unfit (not a gym freak but presentable), poor hygiene.

Older than 33, the closer in age the better

Preferred Family Setup: Ideally a nuclear family set up, exceptions can be made, we can discuss this.

Do You Want Children?: maybe, can be discussed

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 6 to 12 months, after compatibility is established

2026 Ideally

Serious individuals only, really don’t have the energy for prolonged small talk

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This is a detailed post, so please bear with me. While not exhaustive, it does provide a close approximation of who I am. I’ve tried to go into as much detail as I deemed appropriate. So, please read the complete post, and don’t assume anything 😄 Thank you. Let’s begin!

Height & Weight: 5 2" 65 kg

(Neither skinny nor obese. Somewhere in the middle)

Caste: Kashmiri Butt

Location: Lahore

Education:

• BS (Honors) in Applied Psychology
• Master's in Clinical Psychology
• Currently preparing to apply for a PhD in a year or two

If I end up finding my person, I’d marry first and do my PhD later

Profession: Clinical Psychologist/ Mental Health Counsellor

Single, never engaged or married

Religion:

I consider myself to be a relatively practicing Muslim. I pray, fast, and do all the obligatory things. I do tend to educate myself on religion and make informed decisions. We don't celebrate Milad, do nazro niaz, or khatam, etc., in my family. I always dress modestly. I do wear hijab, but I'm not very strict with it; there are times and many places where I don't wear it.

I grew up in a religious household. So while I hold religious values close to my heart, and they shape my worldview and life choices to a great extent, I do not subscribe to a conservative, extremist ideology in the name of religion! I'm quite progressive and open-minded in my beliefs, and I expect the same open-mindedness in my spouse.

Family Details: We're 3 siblings in total. One brother, one sister. Mother is a housewife. Father is retired.

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What I’m Looking for In A Partner

Disclaimer: To be fair, the traits I mention below are all that I embody myself. So I’m not asking for things I don’t offer as well.

Education: Anywhere from BS Honors to PhD, etc., the higher the better. Intellectual compatibility is absolutely paramount for me, such that we teach and learn from each other in life. I am a sapiophile. I want an educated and open-minded spouse who can entertain a difference of thought and opinion respectfully, without being dismissive or offended. Education should hone our critical thinking skills, and that's what I'm looking for. I hope he thinks for himself, has original ideas and makes his own decisions confidently, and I’ll support him in that.

Age: My age or older than me. Maximum 35 years, but not younger than me.

Location: I’m specifically looking for someone from Lahore, in order to streamline personal and family meetups, having cultural similarity and to be able to run background checks (for both sides). Also because.… ”LAUR LAUR AEY!”  💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

Health: Tbh, I’m not looking for a gym rat or a fitness enthusiast. I’m not one myself. But I do prefer someone who is mindful of their overall health and what they put into their body. I practice this in my life as well.

God-fearing – Someone who is God-fearing in his conduct and aspires to become a better human being. Having strong moral values is where it’s at. Religion is best reflected in one’s good character and humility, less so in the obligatory prayers or fasts. I hope he has good Ikhlaaq, is kind, easy to talk to, and has loving relationships with his family and people around him.

Please note that I’m not looking for the religious extremist molvi kind.

Self-sufficient – I fully acknowledge that women are nurturers; they turn a house into a beautiful home. Having said that, self-sufficiency has no gender. It also has nothing to do with feminism. I don’t agree with men’s complete dependence on women, as is prevalent in our culture. And before you misinterpret my words, “complete” is the keyword here! As adults, we all should be able to take care of ourselves. I hope my spouse does not shy away from helping me around the house and can manage himself when need be. And it goes both ways.

Having Perspective and being far-sighted - Someone who values character, loyalty, meaningful connection and personality compatibility beyond the typical appearance ideals. Indeed, physical attraction is important for marriage, but it's only one part of the equation; true connection requires much more depth. After all, what are you left with once the novelty runs out? The "person" you married 😄

Emotional Safety – Someone who can hold space for others, gives grace, respects boundaries, can tolerate a difference of opinion and creates a sense of belonging for me. A dynamic where we both feel heard and seen and can express ourselves without fearing scrutiny; where we both can be our authentic selves. Emotional intelligence is always attractive🙌🏻

Clear communication – There are few things I value more than clear communication. I’d like my spouse to be able to articulate and openly share his thoughts and feelings and be willing to have difficult conversations that life eventually throws at all of us. I promise, I’d do the same🙏🏻Half of our lifetimes, we spend talking to each other. So it’s very important to me to have open and trusting communication with my husband.

Freedom – Freedom is my strongest core value. I want to feel free around my spouse, i.e., to feel a sense of psychological safety when he’s around me and not feel caged in any way.

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Deal Breakers

• Drinking, smoking or any kind of substance use in the past or present
• Poor emotion regulation – think: anger issues, yelling, cursing.
• Not being concerned with whether you earn halal or haram/ via fair or unfair means. This is very important to me!
• Living with in-laws after marriage
• Expecting your wife to contribute financially (as an explicit expectation)
• Believing that household and parental investment are only a woman’s job - (It’s okay if you believe that, but it’s just not what I’m looking for)

 

Preferred Family Setup: I'm a strong proponent of a nuclear family, i.e., husband, wife and their kids, which is conducive to the (well-deserved) privacy and mental health of all parties involved. I was raised in one, and that’s the only kind that makes sense to me. Undeniably, joint family system fosters many domestic disputes and inevitable conflicts. So, I’d really appreciate it if you could understand this.

Do You Want Children? Yes! But never in the first 1.5-2 years. I’d like to emotionally settle down into the marriage first and understand my spouse and allow him to understand me as well before embarking on the behemoth journey of parenthood. More on this below….

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About Me:

Okay, buckle up! This is the long part. (I’ve tried to make it very readable, though)

Generally, I’m a pure ambivert; I can easily be extroverted or introverted, depending on the situation, but I wholeheartedly love my “me-time" (way too much, actually🙈) and socialize selectively. I absolutely need alone time to recharge my batteries. I make friends easily, no matter what age they are, but I intentionally keep a very small circle (quality > quantity, right?). I'm a very private individual in general.

I’m an ISTJ (I hope you know what that means) – so naturally, I revel in details. I’m a bronze medalist and also a published researcher in the discipline of Clinical Psychology. I’m a huge fan of the fields of biopsychology, evolutionary psychology, neuroscience and psychiatry. Yeah, I’m a nerd, lol 😉

I also love presenting and explaining ideas to an audience (I'm a teacher at heart).

With the select few ppl, I'm a huge conversationalist. My idea of a good time is having insightful conversations and sharing ideas over a cup of chai/coffee. I'm as curious as a cat; I ask a million questions if something intrigues me, because at times, learning is my entertainment.

Things like watching movies and discussing plots, fan theories, documentaries, existential questions, ideologies, psychology, philosophy, space/universe are all right up my alley.

I’m less outdoorsy and more of an indoorsy person, but I do look forward to traveling and experiencing new places with my spouse one day 😄

While I don’t see myself being in that role, people often happen to seek my advice. I’m not one to preach, but I try to educate myself enough to counsel others well.

I’m very particular about personal hygiene and cleanliness and definitely have my idiosyncrasies😬

I’d describe myself as an ambitious person – not in the sense of a typical “girl boss.” Nope! I’m not that. But I want to always have something to call my own, something that I’ve earned for myself, something I can feel fulfilled by and proud of. To that end, being a mother and a wife would be fulfilling, yes, but I intend to keep practicing (as a therapist) or be part of academia in the future. That will always be very meaningful to me!

I plan to go for a PhD in Clinical Psychology in the next year or two. I'm currently studying for it. Just to be clear, if I end up finding my person soon, then marriage comes first and I’ll pursue the PhD afterwards.

I’m very much into relationship psychology – I revere the works of Drs John and Julie Gottman, Esther Perel, and the like. I’ve learned a lot from them.

I tend to be quite maternal. I hope to one day open an animal sanctuary, InshaAllah. The following equation describes me well:

Animals > Humans :: Children > Adults  …. (well, mostly)

I believe in standing up for myself and others. We can always raise our disagreements respectfully. I hope my future spouse has the same moral courage, so we have a clear conscience on our deathbeds.

I grew up in the Middle East and moved to Lahore at 21. I’m an optimistic, reflective person in general, but I don’t believe in wishful thinking; I’m more of a realist in that way (my username checks out). I try to find meaning in everything I experience in life. The smallest things give me joy (like new stationery and restocking groceries, literally).

I’m heavily inclined towards rationality, pragmatism and logic; realism and facts are valuable guides. Don’t get me wrong, every emotion has its place, and I deeply value them. Still, I believe that critical thinking is a human's greatest asset, especially in today’s world of information warfare!

I absolutely LOVE animals (I have a cat and 2 cockatiels). They keep my heart so full. And yes, I want MORE PETS! Hopefully, I find someone who loves and adores animals as much as I do (Allah ji pleaseee 🙏🏻)

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I cherish quality family time and hangouts. Definitely not brand-conscious or pretentious. I’d call myself a low-maintenance person. Personally, I live and let live. I’m the youngest in my family and I’m very close to them. Contrary to popular belief, I’m not spoiled (trust me 😉).

I’m fluent in English. That’s what I predominantly speak. I’ve been told I use Urdu as a second language (I don’t disagree🙃). I’ve also been told that I’m a burger, and I don’t fully disagree with that either, lol. But trust me, I’m desi too. It just takes actually knowing me to get to those layers. Perhaps, I'm too desi for burgers, too burger for desis. Urghh, that’s my predicament**🫠**

Some Interesting Stuff:

In recent years, I’ve become quite interested in the research and discourse on the silent and universal mental health struggles of men. While there’s undoubtedly a huge patriarchy and misogyny problem globally, men’s struggles are real too, and I empathize with that. I truly believe that true masculinity (not the toxic kind) and femininity are a gift to the world. Together, they’re the beautiful harmony of nature.

I don’t subscribe completely to either conservative or liberal ideology. Both sides have some valid arguments that I agree with….but also their own sneaky pitfalls. I endorse the family values of the right (which are beautifully aligned with Islam as well), but I also appreciate the tolerance, diversity and empowerment of the left. Predominantly, I lean center-left on the political ideology spectrum. I absolutely believe in personal freedom to make your own decisions, and to choose a life of your own liking; to do and be who you want to be without being tethered to unrealistic cultural norms or expectations.

I’m also a complete cinema buff - English movies, series, some anime, e.g., AOT, Studio Ghibli, etc. Listening to audiobooks is my thing. I love documentaries and video essays on sociocultural issues, health, true crime, some politics, etc.

I’m mesmerized by space, its unfathomable vastness and the mystery of the universe. I enjoy podcasts on medicine, mental health, relationship psychology, self-help and neuroscience, etc. My favorite ones are Modern Wisdom by Chris Williamson, Diary of A CEO by Steven Bartlett, Candace Owens (love her🙌🏻), Being Well by Forrest Hanson, The Huberman Lab and Mel Robbin’s Podcast, among many others. I think YouTube is the greatest resource for learning as well as leisure.

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On Values:

Freedom, authenticity, growth mindset, competence, commitment-loyalty, integrity, honesty, faith, family, resilience, respect

Need I say more?

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On Children:

Parenthood is such a daunting role that it scares me – and rightfully so! Our childhood either builds us or leaves us vulnerable to so much affliction for the rest of our lives – physically and psychologically. Interestingly, my master’s thesis was on parenting styles too.

Having worked with so many teenagers in therapy, it has dawned on me how intentional parents raise happier, resilient children, while emotionally dismissive and invalidating parents destroy their children’s self-worth and self-concept for life, and then they have to work so hard to recover from that as adults.

It all drives home the importance of choosing the right partner! I plan to be a very intentional parent, and I’d like my spouse to be equally invested in creating a healthy, kind household – one with happy parents (who model for their children what love looks like), one with a balance of emotional warmth and discipline.

As the saying goes, “You can choose your husband, but your children cannot choose their father. Choose wisely.”

May Allah guide us in this decision. Ameen!

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On Marriage: My Philosophy✨

Sorry if this feels like a lecture. I just want you to understand my POV 🙈

I do NOT see people as projects. We are who we are! With great and not-so-great parts. I’ve learned that we are to accept the person we marry as a whole, without trying to “fix” them or mold them into something they’re not. By that, I don’t mean that we don’t grow and improve for each other. Of course, we do. But we cannot ask an incompatible person to change their entire personality for us.

With this philosophy, I believe in choosing the person who feels right just as they are from the get-go. I want to make a decision based on the present reality, not a future possibility. We should mutually like each other just as we are. We cannot change people; they only change if they wish to, intrinsically.

I’m looking for a man who works on his EQ, has a growth mindset and uplifts others. A man with a strong inner moral compass to stand up against injustice. Someone who thinks for himself and makes his own decisions with integrity.

Since I’ve happily lived long enough without depending on a romantic partner for emotional support, it has given me ample opportunity for self-discovery, introspection and self-awareness; I know myself much better today than, say, at 24 years old. And IMO, that’s the best trade-off in marrying later than sooner. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Timeframe for Marriage: As soon as compatibility is established, I’d involve my family early on. For the maximum timeline, 1 year seems appropriate.

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My Flaws (Potential deal-breakers for you):

We all have flaws. We just choose the person whose flaws fit well with ours. Idk if they’re all flaws, but……here are some potential challenges for you (🙈🙉)

• Full disclosure - I tend to be high in conscientiousness. If you know anything about it, it’s a double-edged sword! It makes me productive but also perfectionistic and prone to anxiety; I have a Type-A disposition. Tbh, it makes me a disciplined and reliable person, and I actually value these traits, but it also makes me overwhelmed and anxious at times. Being a therapist myself, I’ve learned to be quite emotionally resilient, but I’m still just a human. So, if you don’t know how to offer emotional support or hold space for others without trying to fix them, it won’t work.
• I have an affinity for order, structure, and routine in life. I like to do things on time, and more or less, plan them out. That’s the ISTJ in me. If you always just go with the flow without planning, I’m not right for you.

Dayum! That made me sound terrible. Trust me, it’s not all that bad. Just so you know, as much as I hate it, procrastination has finally caught up to me in the last few years. It’s almost a rite of passage for adulthood nowadays, right? Sigh :/ (*cries in the corner*)

• I’m quite a boundary-oriented person – I don’t let anyone meddle with them and will always speak up if someone disrespects them. I’ll fully respect yours, too.
• I don’t trust people easily, and although I’m not a judgmental person, I am very skeptical and analytical at first. I build my evidence base first to ground my judgments on, so I take my sweet time opening up to people. IMO*, trust is always earned, never given.*
• While I’m very communicative and open about my emotional needs, deep down, I’ve realized that I would still expect my spouse to intuitively know what I need in a moment. I think many women are like that, and I’m working on it too. This will require him to have emotional attunement, which I gather is challenging for some men.
• I love to talk and share my thoughts, ideas and learnings quite a lot with the people I love, and it's directly proportional to my mood. Being expressive is how I connect. So, if you’re a poor listener or want an introverted, quiet partner, I’m not right for you.
• I’m particularly hygiene-conscious. Let’s leave it at that.

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Bottom Line:

I’m looking for someone with intellectual compatibility and emotional depth. A responsible, educated, self-aware and confident man that I can look up to with complete respect. Someone who has moral courage and whose sound judgement I can trust pooray dil se, knowing that I can rely on him without a second thought.

If you’ve read this far, I appreciate your patience. Bht shukria for sticking through. I’ve laid out everything quite extensively and clearly. But still, I’d be happy to answer any more questions.

If you choose to reach out, please share your profile from the get-go. And this should go without saying, but please only reach out if you’re serious about settling down and committing. Tbh, I’m a very busy person. I don’t have the time to sift through non-serious, low-effort interactions.

May Allah make it easy for all of us, give us partners who we really deserve and may we bring out the best in each other! May we all find the coolness of our eyes in our spouses! 🤲🏻

Allah aap sabkay naseeb achay kre. Ameen🙏🏻

Good day!

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*** Only looking for people already located in United States. If reaching out, please do so with a profile in a similar format. Thank you!

Height & Weight: 5’6 and 52 Kgs

Location: United States

Accommodation: Parents own a house

Education: BS in Biomedical Engineering and MS in Mechanical Engineering

Income Source: Employed full time as an engineer

Marital Status: Single, never married

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are: Actively practicing Sunni Muslim, complete all fards and observe hijab, dress modest (not abaya) and eat halal

Hobbies & Interests: tennis, pickleball, traveling, hiking & reading

Family Details: 4 siblings (including myself), Mum is a housewife and Dad is self employed

Requirements for a Partner:

- Practicing Sunni Muslim

- Educated with a minimum of BS

- Kind/empathetic

- Respectful

- Age between 24-32

- 5’10 or taller

Deal Breakers:

Not being a practicing Sunni Muslim - Smoking (including hookah and vape) - drinking - not eating halal - gambling - dealing with riba - not completing all fards (prayer, fasts, etc) - pointless intermixing - not understanding Islamic rights of a wife or marriage - poor EQ - lack of empathy, respect and basic manners - lack of personal hygiene - anger issues  

Preferred Family Setup: Nuclear

Do You Want Children?: Yes ~2, but also open to individuals who can't have kids

Timeframe for Marriage: No specific time frame, but also don't want to waste time. Once compatibility is established (a couple months) introduce the families and get things moving. so likely Nikah within a year.

Basic Information:

• Height & Weight: 5'6, 53kgs (approximately)
• Location: Lahore
• Accommodation (Own/Rent): Own
• Education: Masters degree in Computer Science
• Income source: Unemployment, I also do not plan on working after marriage
• Marital status: Single, never married

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About Me:

I am an introvert who deeply values alone time, as it helps me recharge and stay connected with my thoughts. I also truly cherish meaningful relationships and spending quality time with the people who matter most to me, whether it's my close friends or family. I prefer deep and genuine connections over large gatherings or having a wide social circle.  

Being a Muslim, I make a conscious effort to offer my daily prayers, fast regularly, and stay committed to my faith. I am also a hijabi (for about 8 years now). I continuously strive to become a better Muslim by strengthening my relationship with Allah and working on myself every day.  

I am someone who values cleanliness and organization in life. I take pride in keeping my personal space, especially my room, clean, tidy, and well-arranged, as it brings me a sense of peace and satisfaction.  

I absolutely love cats, especially strays, as they hold a very special place in my heart. I have also rescued a stray cat from my area, whom I consider my first child, and caring for her has been a very meaningful experience for me.  

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Hobbies & Interests:

• Reading novels
• Cooking, recently got into baking as well
• Swimming (I really reaaallly love it)

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Family Details:

Alhamdulillah, I have 3 sisters. Currently, I live with my parents and my youngest sister, while my other two sisters are happily married. We live a simple and humble lifestyle. My mother is a homemaker, and my father is a retired Army officer.  

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Looking For:

• Practicing Muslim (prioritizes Deen)
• Loyal  
• Calm personality  
• Responsible  
• From Lahore (preferably)

  

I am looking for someone with whom I can grow spiritually and who encourages me to become a better Muslim, In Sha' Allah. I would also appreciate a partner who values maintaining a tidy and peaceful home environment.  

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Deal breakers:

• Smoking  
• Short temper  
• Free mixing with the opposite gender  
• Not caring about personal hygiene

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Preferred Family Setup:

Preferably nuclear, but open to a joint family system as well but with the exception of having my own personal space.  

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Future Plans:

• Children: Yes
• Marriage Timeline: Within 6 months to a year, In Sha' Allah

  

Not interested in casual relationships. I prefer a straightforward process leading to marriage with family involvement and mutual understanding.

Please, Ya Allah, protect this post from narcissistic, nonchalant men and anyone who is going to be a trial for me rather than a blessing 🌸

Height & Weight: around 5’4 and 40 kg.

Physical appearance: fair skin, eye color is a bit hazel. Brunette hair. Petite build.

Location: lahore

Accommodation: Rented. My parents own a residence elsewhere.

Education: Bachelor’s. Accepted for masters in California, Arizona, Missouri, and Arkansas but idk if I want to leave my parents behind and can’t decide between the states either. Unsure about future education plans.

Income Source: currently working at my first job after graduation at a European firm.

Marital Status: Single- no past relationships/ guy friends.

Religion: Really inspired by Shia Islam (Jafari sect). But I respect/follow Sunni-ism too. That makes me a su-shi 🍣 lol. I’m modest, hijabi, lower my gaze always. I try to pray regularly. I’m really inspired by imam khamenei and Muhammad Hoblos.

Family Details
• dad (retired)- worked in commercial navy department at a firm as a deputy manager.
• Mom- housewife

Hobbies and interests: horror/thriller movies, doomscrolling. Nail art. I’m mostly a shy, homebody. I pin a lot quotes about Islam on Pinterest.

Personality: I’m very sensitive and empathetic. I care a lot. I sometimes lose my cool because of empathetic burnout. But I always apologise and try to mend the bond. I don’t have any ego issues.

Do you want children? Yes

Requirements for a Partner

• Someone like Imam Khamenei. He was the kindest man ever. I don’t care if he’s way older than me. He said women are flowers and should be treated as such. Literal soft lover boy energy. That’s the vibe I dig. 🥹
• Provider and protector mindset
• Sensitive, Kind hearted and forgiving. Soft spoken.
• Someone who is missing his rib (me).
• Love for Allah, Prophet (peace be upon him) and Ahlul Bayt.

Deal breakers:
• someone who is too nit picky, inflexible.
• Unwilling to talk to my parents himself.
• Not serious about marriage or wants a longer timeframe. Casual rishta browsers in general.
• Expects me contribute to household expenses. Sorry lol.

Preferred family setup: joint or nuclear. I’m fine either ways.

Timeframe for Marriage: A few months hopefully🤞

Lastly, I just want to get married to a man with the above mentioned qualities and stay married to him for life. It really is that simple. I don’t want to complicate things going back and forth, trying to decode personalities/family backgrounds for months. I’d really appreciate if this na-mehram interaction doesn’t last for long as it is pure torture for Muslimahs trying to be on deen.

I don’t feel comfortable sharing more details in public. Please DM if my profile aligns and you’re serious things could work . 🧚🏻‍♀️

Please upvote so my post reaches my soft lover boy 🧚🏻✨

•Female, Age: 23 (about to be 24)

•Location: Lahore, pakistan

•Appearance: around 5'6" (166 cm), 60 kgs, brown complexion

•Status: single/ never married /never dated

•Sect/caste: Sunni, Rajpoot (dont believe in caste system though)

•Education: Bachelor's in human nutrition and dietetics, Master's in human nutrition and dietetics

•Profession: just recently finished my master's, doing a clinical training internship program now, I plan to study further inshaAllah and do a job too, as I love working in healthcare.

•Religion/level of practice: Im trying to be consistent with all 5 prayers daily but I try my best to pray regularly, and try to prioritise sincerity, kindness, forgiveness, and empathy in every aspect of life. I'm non judgemental and striving to become a better Muslim everyday. I have a firm belief that religon consists of both Haqooqullah and Haqooqul ibaad, as being a good muslim doesn't only mean praying or fasting but also striving to become a better person in your everyday dealings.

I don't do hijab though, but I do dress modestly and don't have any male friends whatsoever. I've also been reading Qur'an with tafseer everyday. I don't know where I fall on the conservative to open minded spectrum, but I do hope this has given you enough of an idea to form an opinion.

•Family details: i come from a well educated and decent family, my mother is a professor in dentistry department in FMH college of medicine and dentistry. Father is retired businessman. One younger brother who's studying BS computer science, we're only 2 siblings

•Accomodation: own house in lahore

•Personality: I'm friendly, empathetic, talkative, funny, ambitious and career oriented who believes in kindness and minding her own business. I'm a loud introvert, once I'm truly comfortable with someone I can't seem to shut up for the sake of my life (a true yapper at heart). Also, I'm a good listener, and absolutely hate conflict of any type. I hate unnecessary drama and gossip and I believe in living and letting others live however they want. I believe that communication is the key to a healthy relationship, no matter what kind. I don't believe in silent treatments and shouting in anger at others, I believe most types of conflicts or problems can be solved by just communicating (or ignoring, if that's an option).

•Hobbies and interests: extremely big fan of reading fictional books (I have a big bookshelf), studying and researching about different stuff esp in my field of study, watching shows or movies when I have time, fitness and health (Im extremely consistent with gym), and spending time with friends and family. Would love to travel and see the world one day!

•What I'm looking for:

• Age not older than 28

• Never married before

• Sunni sect

• Someone who is financially well enough to support a family, is responsible, respectful, kind, emotionally intelligent and mature (very imp), understanding, physically fit, takes care of himself, good humour would be a plus, I don't really like broody people.

•Nuclear/semi nuclear family setup preferred after marriage, but can be discussed according to the situation

• Do I want children?

Yes inshaAllah, but not immediately though

•Timeline for marriage:

Ideally within a year but flexible. I'd like to involve my parents from the VERY start after compatibility is established, since their opinion matters a lot to me.

•Deal breakers/stuff I'm avoiding:

Dishonest, disrespectful, or disloyal personality

Anger issues and emotional dysregulation/immaturity

Lack of communication skills

ANY type of substance abuse or drug use

Extremely non religious

Someone who doesn't have morals or values

Someone who doesn't respect women

Someone who doesn't want family involvement soon

Feel free to drop a message or share your profile if my profile resonates with you! Serious men only, please.

Age: 25
Height & Weight: 5'7", 75 kg
Location: Lahore
Residence: Own in Lahore

Education: MS in Molecular Biology from LUMS

Income Source: Project Manager
(I’d like to work after marriage as financial independence and personal growth is important for me and It’s important for me that my husband supports my career and dreams jaisay I would support his. However, it’s important I note that I believe it is a husband’s responsibility in a marriage to be the primary earner (based on Islamic and personal beliefs).

Marital Status: Single and never married

Religion:
Sunni Muslim
I try to pray as much as I can but it's a wip tbh. I fast regularly, Alhamdulillah. It’s very important to me to understand Islam beyond the cultural interpretations I grew up with. For me, the core of Islam is spirituality (personal relationship with Allah) and centering one’s life around Him
I value spirituality, sincerity and good character in all people that surround me (even friends)
(Not a hijabi, mentioning openly for clarity)

About me:
A mix of ESFJ and ISFJ depending on the people and environment.

I’m deeply passionate about life and people, its what motivates and grounds me. I love fostering relationships and connecting with people on a deeper level.

I really value my bond with my family and friends. I think life becomes sweeter and easier when you have a good loving support system that makes you feel loved, cherished and celebrated! I love feeling like that and making my loved ones feel similarly around me. Its really important for me that my husband is my safe space in life and I am his IA IA.

Something that I am currently working on is being more easygoing about life and the fears I have regarding the future and life in general while focusing more on building skills and capacity to take on life. But yes, its a wip and I’m trying to achieve this goal everyday.

I value emotional safety, honesty, communication, and softness in relationships

Family:

Abbu is a doctor
Ammi is a former teacher and now a homemaker
Two older sisters, both working
Eldest sister is married and settled in Australia

Hobbies & Interests:

I enjoy working out in ways that feel fun for the phase of life I’m in and sometimes that looks like walking or cardio or maybe strength training. I’m currently mid-sized, and my relationship with fitness is one I approach with intention and growth. I’d love a partner who shares an interest in being active while being kind and respectful about my own journey with fitness.

I am very passionate about personal growth and learning new things. Kabhi kabar that might take creative forms such as scrapbooking and crocheting, kabhi kabar it is rooted in pushing myself out of my comfort zone to try something new. Sometimes that might be what I see in the lab in my experiments or spending time with the communities I work closely with. Other times it might be watching a movie or series that I have connected deeply too or practising mindfulness. I love having deep conversations about life, emotions, and the human experience with people around me.

I love watching movies or series that I connect with emotionally. My favourite ones are animated tbh like ratatouille or shrek or chick flicks. I am obsessed with the office! Isskay saath saath I genuinely love memes😭 (I feel like getting through things with humor is such a part of our generation's coping mechanism and it bridges different human experiences so beautifully)

What I’m looking for:

NOTE: I am only asking for things that I know I practise as well.

24-30 years old.
Kindness is extremely important to me. Life is tough and full of ups and downs, but having a partner who is kind, understanding, loving, appreciative, and supportive makes all the difference. I want to be a safe space for my husband, and I want him to be that for me.

Someone who wants to build a life with me as a team toh a “Let’s figure this out together” attitude is important for me.

Someone who has a degree from a reputable institution in Pakistan or abroad

Someone who belongs from a similar financial background (upper-middle class)

Someone who actively works on his relationship with Allah. Spirituality matters a lot to me, and I would love to share this journey with my partner.

Someone with a good character. Integrity, values, and sharafat are non-negotiables for me. I do realise no one is perfect but it’s important to me that my partner understands and respects boundaries with others especially with women.

Someone who communicates openly and is willing to invest time, energy, affection, and effort into building a balanced partnership.

Educated and hardworking.

I am a simple person. I enjoy staying at home, have a small social circle of people I genuinely respect, and like keeping life uncomplicated. I’d appreciate a calm partner with a similar approach to life.

Someone who is comfortable with me being an active part of his life. I love sharing my life with the people I love, while also valuing individuality within a relationship.

I feel very connected to the experiences of women around me and their lives and struggles have shaped me deeply. It matters a lot to me that my partner genuinely respects and celebrates women.

Someone who loves me and cherishes me for me and I want to extend the same sentiment to him. I want a best friend in life jahan we build a life together and go through the ups and downs together knowing that ham aik doosri ki safe space hain and we have each other’s back no matter what.

Deal breakers:

• Dishonesty or cheating
• Drugs/alcohol
• Emotional unavailability
• Arrogance or self-centeredness
• Disrespectful behavior or misogyny
• Anger issues
• Controlling
• Not curious about me/ Nonchalance
• Lack of accountability
• poor communication
• Rigid mindset
• History of past physical relationships (It’s everyone’s personal choice but this is something I prefer)

Children: Yes, Insha’Allah but not immediately. The timeline of this depends alot on the kind of partner as well and if he understands what it means to be a father.

Family Setup: Preferably nuclear (just us two). If its a joint set up toh it’s important I mention that I have always lived in a nuclear set up toh privacy and mutual respect are VERY important for me.

Timeframe for Marriage: Ideally engagement/Nikkah in 2026. I'd like us to get to know each other and involve the families once basic alignment is there.

Future Plans:

I would like to pursue another MS or a PhD abroad for academic and career growth, but I don’t see myself building a life alone abroad in isolation from my support system

Ideally, I’d want a partner who is already settled abroad or planning to settle abroad eventually so we can build a shared life together while continuing our individual growth and careers side by side. But I do understand keh sometimes dreams are put on hold toh this is what I’d like to do in the future Ideally and till that happens, I am building my career here so I am okay with someone currently settled in Lahore with a long-term plan of moving abroad

Thank you for taking out the time to read my profile. May Allah ease us all towards finding a good partner in life Ameen🌻

Height: 5'8" 73kg Fit/Slight Muscular Build

Residence: Own, 5 Marla in Valancia, Lahore

Education: BS Computer Science UET Lahore

Job: Software Engineer

Marital Status: Never Married

Religion:

Muslim, Practicing,

Pray 4 Times a day, recently struggling with Fajr (10 alarms k baad bhi aankh nahin khulti 😭), Isha in masjid

Idk my caste nor do I care about it.

Interests:

Movies, Series, Anime, Board Games, Camping, Hiking, Fishing, Gym, Nature, Cats, Dogs, Planning to learn Arabic for deeper understanding of Islam, recently found my passion for mountaineering/snow hiking, Guiding Students, Teaching, Football (I used to play alot but ab sirf weekends per), Gaming

Weakness: I have been singing since 2nd grade and stopped quite recently so even though I avoid listening to music, I have already listened to so much that I often start humming or singing to myself, and I haven't been able to cut out music entirely. When I'm working I try to listen to nasheed but sometimes slip up :/ (Work in progress here)

Personality:

Adventurous, Active Listener, Respectful, bit of Assertive

Family:

Father: Mechanical Engineer, Retired

Mother: Teacher, School Head

1 Elder Brother: working

1 Younger Sister: About to graduate

1 younger brother: About to start Alevels

About Me:

Planning to get married in the next 1-2 years, ideally involve family at the end of this year. I'd prefer taking some time knowing the other person but then again you can only know so much. Hopefully get married by end of next year.

I come from humble beginnings. A white collar family. 1 elder brother who is married and lives separately. A younger sister in university about to graduate and a younger brother about to start A levels.

Going to be living with my parents because their responsibility lies with me at this point. I understand the right of spouse for a separate home but given the circumstances, I cannot at the moment. We plan but Allah is the best of planners, so lets see what happens in the future.

Looking for someone ambitious and emotionally intelligent. someone from Lahore or Islamabad, Age (22-26), It'd be great if you do head scarf or plan to do so, Not a strict requirement but genuinely appreciated🙌. I fully support if you want to make a career, it'd be great if we can build together🫶. I help in house chores as well. Lets figure this life thing out together.

I have recently found my passion for mountaineering, so it'd be super fun if you are into travelling to northern areas. I have also started working out, Been hitting the gym and running to train for mountain summits.

I recently summited a 4060m peak. Will be doing more in future. Want to travel the world especially europe. Planning to settle in middle east if an opportunity presents itself.

Dealbreakers:

You don't have an active lifestyle,

Not ambitious,

Rigid,

Loud,

Avoidant,

Immodest dressing,

Guy best friends,

Biddah and sectarianism,

Not practicing,

Drugs, Smoking,

Anger Issues,

Disrespectful,

Poor Communication,

Emotionally Unintelligent,

Narcissistic

Edit: I strongly believe in a simple wedding. Totally against the idea of extravagant weddings. I'd rather save up that money and go do an umrah with my spouse than spend on two to three grand functions inviting hundreds of people.

Height: 5”5

Weight: 75kg

Location: Islamabad

Accommodation: Own in a posh area of Islamabad under construction. Right now in rented.

Education: I’m in final year of MBBS at a government medical college. Will be graduating in 6 months. I have cleared my USMLE Step 1.

Income Source: A student right now. Studying for Step 2 and I will be applying for residency next year InshaAllah .

Marital Status: Single, never married

Religion: I pray atleast 3-4 times a day, definitely working on being more consistent. I fast regularly in Ramadan. I lived in KSA in my childhood so performed Umrah multiple times and also completed Hajj. I don’t observe Hijab. I dress modestly. I’m a Sunni Muslim.

Caste: Rajput (Punjabi)

About my family:

Father: Senior Grade Govt officer (rtd)

Mother: MBBS Doctor

Sibling: 1 brother

Hobbies:

I am a nerd (distinctions holder in med school) but I do enjoy life outside of medicine. My hobbies include travelling (I have travelled to 5 countries abroad and hopefully more adds to the list), cooking, listening to music, connecting with nature.

Requirements for a partner:

Should be educated with a professional degree. Ideally a doctor on the same pathway as mine or an engineer. I can consider other professions as well.My preferred location would be someone in the US or a doctor planning to move there.

Should be Sunni, practicing Muslim.

Hardworking , kind , loyal and respectful.

No smoking , drinking or past relationships (never done any of these myself so I expect the same from my partner)

Preferred setup: Nuclear (I’m flexible on this. Parents from both sides can always visit and stay with us, and vice versa)

Do you want children: Yes

Timeline to get married: Within a year or two depending on mutual understanding

Age range: 23-28

JazakAllah.

(Please reach out with a complete profile. I am looking for family involvement early in the process.Those looking for time wasting should stay away.)

Basic Information

Age: 21
Height: 5’3”
Weight: 68
Location: Lahore
Accommodation: Family-owned house
Education: Currently in the final year of bachelor’s
Profession: Working remotely as a marketer with a UK-based company
Marital Status: Never married

Religion

Sunni Muslim. I’m trying to become more consistent with prayers and improve myself religiously, InshaAllah.

Hobbies & Interests

I enjoy shopping, grocery runs, trying new food places, eating out, and occasionally cooking or experimenting with dishes. I also enjoy meaningful conversations and spending time with people I genuinely connect with. I’m not overly social and workaholic.

Family Background

We are a family of six, Alhamdulillah. I’m the second among my siblings and come from an educated and respectful family background.

Looking For

I’m looking for someone respectful, emotionally intelligent, hygienic, easygoing, and serious about building a peaceful and stable relationship. Someone supportive who values communication, personal space, individuality, and mutual respect.

Basic Preferences

Age: 24–29
Height: Taller than me
Marital Status: Never married
Religion: Sunni Muslim
Education: At least a bachelor’s degree
Personality: Career-oriented, responsible, and serious about growth and the future

Preferred Location

Lahore only, not willing to move abroad.

Preferred Family Setup

I would prefer a separate living arrangement rather than a joint family system.

Deal Breakers

Smoking, drinking, poor hygiene, lack of seriousness about the future, emotionally unavailable behavior, disrespect, or a controlling/mama’s boy mindset.

Children

Open to it

Marriage Timeline

Preferably within 1–2 years after compatibility and mutual understanding are established.

I (32M) feel like a colleague (F34) is a good match for me. She and I usually have a great time talking to each other at work, and I feel like she's attracted to me too.

I told my sis and brother-in-law and they say that I shouldn't waste time and be direct and tell her that I want to marry her.

Now here's the thing: I have never proposed to anyone before and have no idea how to bring it up and what words to use... I mean, what exactly should I say?

My stupid brain came up with an idea:

I will say to her, "I need some advice. There's a woman that I want to marry, but I don't know how to propose to her. Can you help me out? I mean, how would you, as a woman, want someone to propose to you?"

And then she'll give me some idea and the next day I'll apply it to her 💀 am I crazy or is this the best idea ever??

Any other advice? I can't stop thinking about her