u/Cooldude_2016

My parents and I have been talking to potentials and none of them want to relocate. I live in Austin, Texas and they don’t even want to leave their city (either Houston or Dallas).

Now that’s understandable and I try giving them assurance that hey I can drive to your city and we can do a long term relationship until I secure a new role in their city. I’ll relocate to their city.

But then they just ghost my parents and I. I genuinely don’t know what’s going on.

Has anyone else ever had similar issues?

Not just Aerospace but Mechanical, Robotics, etc. With the way the world is headed and especially with everything going on with Palestine there's a bigger need for this more than ever.

Also with our infrastructure destroyed and grids not functional/power outages you can add Civil and Electrical as well

Thoughts?

Height & Weight: 5’10”, 75 kg

Location: Austin, TX

Residence: Owned house in Austin

Education: Bachelor of Science (B.S.) in Engineering

Income Source: Engineer at Electric Grid Operator in Texas

Marital Status: Single

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are

I would say I am average in religiosity. I pray 5 times a day, read the Quran, and do my Fard obligations as a Muslim

Hobbies & Interests

I like to read, hit the gym, and listen to other’s experiences. I’m really into philosophy and thinking about the nature of our existence/astrology/history/etc.

Family Details

I am the middle child and older sister is married. Currently live with Mom and Dad. We are three siblings and my younger brother has graduated college.

Requirements for a Partner

I’m looking for someone who is a pious, modest, respectful, understanding, and kind. Must be a Pakistani American (US Citizen) as myself

Deal Breakers

Anyone who had past relationships. Someone who backbites and gossips and is very materialistic. Basically anyone who doesn’t prioritize Islam and doesn’t have any motivation to do so.

Preferred Family Setup: I am open to either joint or nuclear, it really depends on the situation as well as the potential. I can move to live in a rented apartment that is separate or we can have privacy in the house I live in with my parents as it has two floors and four bedrooms.

Do You Want Children?: Yes but not more than 2 children

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 2-5 years, but again if Allah grants me an opportunity I would be a fool to not avail it

As-salamu alaykum everyone! I am sharing my biodata below:

1. Age and Gender: 28 and Male
2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect: 20 - 30
3. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Austin, TX and it depends which state
4. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? I'm a Pakistani American (US Citizen) and I am open to mixing but strongly prefer Pakistani American (also a US Citizen)
5. Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children: Single never married
6. Ideal marriage timeline: Inshallah within the next 2-5 years but if Allah provides an opportunity I will expedite the process
7. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect: I’m looking for someone who is a pious, modest, respectful, understanding, and kind.
8. State/specify your level of religiosity: Texas/I would say I am average in religiosity
9. Level of education, and what are you looking for? I have a Bachelors degree in Engineering and looking for someone with at least a Bachelors as well
10. Current Job Status: I am currently employed as an Engineer
11. Do you want kids? Yes but not more than 2 kids
12. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time: I like to read, hit the gym, and listen to other’s experiences
13. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out! I love to hear about others in the Ummah, their experiences, and how all of us are experiencing so many different things within the same plane of existence. I’m really into philosophy and thinking about the nature of our existence and better understanding ourselves though Allah’s guidance.

If you like what you see or have any further questions please let me know.

Jazakallahu Khair

Are there any discord/social group chats any of you guys may know of that I can join? I’d love to interact with other Muslim brothers mainly if possible. Jazakallah

Are there any discord/social group chats any of you guys may know of that I can join? I’d love to interact with other Muslim brothers mainly if possible. Jazakallah

Guys who basically have no friends and just work, hit the gym, etc was adjusting to marriage difficult?

As someone in that situation I am trying to reach out but the world has become much more isolated and Gen Z seems to be fine interacting online mostly. Maybe it’s just me however

Unmarried women who have great careers and are making their own money, what can men do on their part to give assurance that they won't behave similar to abusive/careless men in our community?

Specifically during the courting phase pre-nikah when getting to know each other for marriage.

I'm in my late 20s and been working for a few years now making 100k in Texas. How do I know when I'm financially ready for a family? I have a house and live with my parents. Also have 65k in savings and don't know what I'm saving for at this point. I do rely on my dad for some expenses however so that may be concerning.

If our beloved Prophet (PBUH) were alive today how would he act when looking at our ummah today?

From studying his seerah, how much he cared about others and especially his nation. What do you think he (PBUH) would do?

This is just a thought experiment

Do you think that a major reason why we as a community are struggling to get married in the west is because of our looks?

I've been thinking about the tradeoff between physical looks and financial earning power/mahr requirements and I feel like this is certainly a factor for us dudes.

Like if we all looked like Zayn Malik maybe things would be easier lol

Any Pakistani American guys (born and/or raised in the US and are citizens) who married abroad? How was your experience and does your wife work?

Having trouble finding someone here so considering all my options..

Any resources or groups I can join as a single man (Engineer) who live with his parents in Austin, TX in order to get married?

May Allah grant everyone in this subreddit and the wider ummah a suitable and pious spouse. Ameen.