AITAH for not letting my boyfriend bm on the property which is resulting in him and I seperating
My boyfriend 34M and I 31F been dating for a year moved in together a few months ago. He has two baby mothers. The first baby mother I adore, she is kind and has not created at problems or hostility. She is welcome in our home and has met my daughter. His second baby mother is a disaster. She lies, has been abusing his kids which we have reported to the police once the kids informed us. She will purposely deny picking up the kids (there’s a court order) to make him late for work or unable to work that whole day. She begged my boyfriend to cheat on me with her and he refused (seen the messages). She has also tried to call the police on me for kidnapping because I was watching the kids in the house while my boyfriend was running an errand. I was directed by him to not hand the kids over since she refused to take them to mess with his plans and the police agreed that he was not in the wrong. We caught her SNOOPING around the house, peeking through our windows because she is obsessed with trying to “see” me. I have not been introduced to her because she’s hostile and abusive to her kids. I’m a mother as well so I’m not in the mood to deal with the nonsense. I have not spoken to her or provoked her in anyway. My existence provokes her. Recently she threw food at my parked car after she dropped off the kids, she missed majority of the car lol but got a crumb on my door handle lol I seen her do it. I informed my boyfriend. A week later My boyfriend let her come on the property to hang for 30 minutes just to see the kids when she was supposed to be dropping off something for the kids. She has not been on the property since last year. She was going to get the kids the next day anyway. There was no need for her to hang out. He didn’t inform me of her stopping by which is w.e if she remained in the street but that was not the case. I was at work when this happened, I only knew because of the ring door bell. Him & I haven’t talked until yesterday because I was fuming. I told him idc if she remains on the street but not the property. I explained she has been disrespectful to me and my personal property, abuses the kids and screws you over. She has a home that she brings the kids too and has 50/50 custody. She did not have to come on the property to hang out by the entrance to our home playing with chalk etc. especially after she threw stuff at my car unprovoked. He told me yesterday that either I have to bite the bullet and let it happen sometimes (her coming on the property to hang) to appease her a bit so his life is a bit easier or I can move on..he called me selfish and that I want everything my way. I have decided to move on. AITAH for being upset that she’s hanging out on the steps of our home?