u/StarshipPuabi

I took my current job in the pandemic, and have never worked more than 1x a month in person until recently. I live over 60 miles from the office.

My office went to mandatory 1x a week in the office recently. On top of that, I keep being asked to come in for things on my non-in-person days. For example, last week I was told to come in on a Monday for an important meeting…which was hybrid, half an hour, and over half the attendees weren’t there in person either. It took me about 4 hours round trip to commute.

I’m feeling exhausted by the unreasonable expectations. I tried to bring it up to my supervisor, and he just lectured me on needing to be willing to come in whenever there’s a business need to. My work quality has been suffering with the early mornings and loss of sleep, I’m spending like water on gas and childcare, and I’m missing important time with my spouse and kids.

I’m trying to move closer to the office, but it’s a hard time to sell a house.

I’m keeping an eye open for vacancies at other offices but honestly, this seems like a bad time to switch. I just want my job to go back to how it was before this change. I’m not union represented. Any advice for navigating this or ways to get some leeway again? I’ve thought about trying to get accommodations- I do have some challenges that could justify it, but I’m worried it’d be shooting my self in the foot career-wise.

Other advise gratefully accepted.

We had a teen for ±6 months about two years ago, who reunified with biomom. We’ve stayed in touch since then, including frequent visits. Genuinely care for this kid, and I’ve been happy to see reunification going largely well…but there’s been one major ongoing issue.

He’s had a couple of medical issues that haven’t been being treated since he left us. He was diagnosed with severe sleep apnea with us (causing weight gain, bedwetting and other complications), but she never got him a CPAP. She stopped filling his antidepressants and he doesn’t have a therapist, despite expressing suicidal ideation. He hasn’t seen a dentist since he left us.

I spoke with her about the issues, even offered to pay for the CPAP and help transport him if she needed it. She’s been telling me for months that it’s scheduled in early May. Well, the day came and went, he still didn’t have one. So… I reported, both as a mandatory reporter and hoping that would prompt her to get back on top of his medical needs

I don’t know the outcome of the case yet, though I doubt they’d take him back into care for medical neglect. She, however, has banned me from talking to him. She guessed I called it in, probably because I have been talking and talking about these issues every time she sees me.

It sucks to do what I still think is the right thing for the kid and just end up hurting him a different way.