struggling with boundaries.
i’ve never made one of these posts before. i’m currently 17w 2d. about 2/3 days ago i got my NIPT test results back, which include the babies gender. i found out im having a little boy!!! i’m so excited to meet him when he’s here. i already have his name picked out. and it’s so unique and cool and i’m jus absolutely in love with it and with him. after my family knew the gender, my boyfriend and i went to his family to tell them. before i continue the rest of this story it’s important to note that a.) this is my first pregnancy. b.) my mom came up with the name so she does infact know the name. c.) i have chosen to keep my sons name private until he’s here. for me personally i just feel like it would be so much more fun to have everyone meet him and then find out his name. it’s definitely not a name you would guess.
we told my boyfriends grandma first. and she wanted to know if we had a name picked out. my boyfriend said yes, and i cut in and said that we’re keeping it to ourselves. his grandma immediately said “well im not waiting that long to find out” “ill text him later and get it out of him” “you might as well tell me because im gonna find out” and my least favorite that really pissed me off and made me cave “well if your mom gets to know then i get to know”. i caved and told her so she would just stop bugging me and im trying to keep peace. i don’t want anyone to think im a bitch and whatnot.
he’s not even close with his family. i’m extremely close with my mom. i’m jus so irritated with myself for caving. i don’t think she’s gonna keep my secret and i have a feeling she’s gonna tell his family. it still won’t be ruined for my family, but this is my son and my moment. not hers. i just don’t know what to do anymore.