u/Strawberrrykiss

So I (27F) live with my boyfriend (29M). For context, I pay most of our rent and household bills because I make significantly more than he does. I don't usually hold that over his head, but I feel like it's relevant here because I put a lot of effort into keeping our place clean and comfortable.

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend invited one of his friends to stay with us for four nights while they participated in a local golf tournament. I agreed because it was only supposed to be a few days.

Almost immediately, his friend started acting like the apartment was his. Every evening he'd take over the TV and put on whatever he wanted, even when I was halfway through watching something. I let it go because I didn't want to be a bad host.

The bigger issue was that my family was arriving the day after he was supposed to leave. Since I was hosting them, I had scheduled professional cleaners to come the morning of his last day because that was literally the only appointment available. Both my boyfriend and his friend knew this.

They left early that morning for the tournament, but when I went into the guest room before the cleaners arrived, I was honestly shocked. There were clothes and random belongings all over the floor, dirty dishes left around the apartment, and toiletries scattered across the bathroom counter like he had no intention of cleaning up after himself. And then I checked the bathroom and I genuinely wish I hadn't.

The toilet looked like it hadn't been cleaned once during his entire stay. There were literal skid marks left behind. At that point I was embarrassed that cleaners were about to walk into my apartment and see that.

When I brought it up later, my boyfriend acted like I was overreacting and said his friend was just being a guy. I told him I don't care. Being a grown man isn't an excuse to leave someone else's home looking like that. I also told him that while I'm happy to host respectful guests, his friend is not welcome to stay here again. Now my boyfriend thinks I'm being dramatic and rude over a few days of mess. so AITH?