naisip ko lang, parang mas madaming relationships na nag-eend ngayon kumpara sa previous generations na alam mo talagang nag stay thru thick n thin eh meron din nakabuo na ng pamilya pero mauuwi pa rin sa hiwalayan. bakit kaya?
Problem/Goal: I am currently studying in UP while all of my friends and acquaintances are studying in Ateneo. I was supposed to go to Ateneo. But I loved UP and it’s killing me.
Context: Nung high school ako, I studied at a catholic school na puro rich kids ang students. Although, I wasn’t one of them (naka-scholarship). Still, kakayanin naman ang Ateneo sana dahil may scholarship naman ako ngayon.
I took the UPCAT just for the sake of trying. Although, I did hope, I didn’t dream of it. So I also took ACET. Dream school ko rin kasi ang Ateneo since it’s the school that my friends and I were hoping to get in and graduate together. Hindi ko na ni-mind actually kung papasa ba ako sa UPCAT kasi nasa isip ko parang imposible na yon and somehow, I felt like I’d pass ACET naman. And I did. So I prepared my requirements, look for nearby dormitories, and secured a private scholarship. So now, I’m able to afford Ateneo. What’s left to do was enroll and decide on a program.
For context, I was HUMSS graduate who was deeply involved in different media conferences and projects and my prio program in UP was Communication. I passed. Nahinto yung pag-pprepare ko ng requirements for Ateneo because I looked at the opportunity presented to me if I were to get in UP. Dream program + dream school (both ateneo dream ko) so why not?
Whereas kung ipupursue ko Ateneo, tinutulak ako ng pamilya ko na pumursue ng business-related program kasi nando’n ang pera. I believed so too. Aside from that, most of my friends (like literal support systems), colleagues, and acquaintances went to Ateneo and all they’ve been saying is how great of an institution it is.
But my heart cannot fathom the thought of choosing a program that doesn’t actually resonate with me. So I chose Communication in UP. Kahit “walang pera” sa kursong ito, kahit nahiwalay ako sa mga kaibigan ko, and most importantly, kahit di ko na pinili yung Ateneo na matagal kong ginusto.
Previous Attempts: It’s been a while since I chose this path and although I love what we do in Communication, a part of me dies and aches at the possibility of me ever being an Atenean, along with the people whom I’ve shared the same dream with. Iniisip ko rin na: “Pa’no kung kaya ko naman pala mag business program?” “Pa’no kung takot lang talaga ako?” “Pa’no kung wala talagang pera sa kursong to?” “Pa’no kung hindi ako aangat sa pinili ko?”
I don’t know how to describe this feeling. All the pros lead to UP: Dream school and dream program. But sometimes I wander on the what ifs and feel scared if I did the right thing.
To those who experienced something similar, what advice can you give me? What “mind opening” statement can you help me realize all this?
P.S. Malapit na akong grumaduate btw 😆
context: may important document kasi ako na nagalaw ng kapatid kaya nag crumple huhumay mga alam po ba kayong hacks/tips pano siya maging presentable ulit? aside sa iipit sa libro?
Problem/Goal: My live-in boyfriend who provides for us cannot cook and he forces me to eat inedible food.
Context:
I’m currently a third year college student (20F) while my boyfriend (22M) is a fresh graduate who landed a job in marketing/finance with high salary na almost 6 digits. Working na siya before pa siya grumaduate so nakapag-ipon ipon na rin siya. We’ve been together for almost two years and since may work na siya, we decided to live in. I love cooking and I do most of our chores like cleaning, laundry, and of course, cooking. He pays our bills and siya rin yung in charge sa necessities namin like groceries and maintenance sa bahay. He’s been a good boyfriend to me but there’s one thing that we both cannot stand about him: HE CANNOT COOK. Like literal na malala siya magluto. Yung tipong kahit corned beef na nga lang iinitin, sunog pa rin. So he decided to learn cooking para siya naman maghanda ng lunch ko when I go to school (since may midyear ako). Since may work siya, every dinner namin siya nakakapag-try magluto.
Previous Attempts: At first, it was okay. I was patient with him learning. Kapag sunog na talaga yung pagkain, nag-oorder nalang kami through online. Kung so-so naman, I tell him what to improve next time. Kapag breakfast naman and mag-iinsist siya na siya magprepare ng baon ko for lunch, hinahayaan ko siya kahit hindi masarap yung food. Because I also want him to learn and of course, as a girlfriend and his live-in partner, talagang susupport ako sa kanya.
But lately, nakakapagod and sumosobra na. Since yun nga most of the time ako naman yung nagluluto for breakfast namin and baon namin for lunch, siya nagluluto for dinner. And kapag hindi masarap yung food, nagluluto siya tuwing madaling-araw. Wala naman sanang problema, kaso ginigising niya ko para tikman yung luto niya. And right now, all of his recipes eh hindi talaga edible. So napupuyat ako for no reason and since mid year ko nga, super busy ko talaga with school works. Yung oras na dapat tinutulog ko, nasasayang kasi naaalimpungatan ako para tumikim ng mga luto niya.
I tried confronting him na pwede naman every dinner lang ako tumikim and he can cook all he want pag madaling araw basta hayaan niya lang ako. But imbis i-take niya yon with a grain of salt, he reacted poorly. Sinumbat niya sakin na siya naman nagbabayad ng groceries and taga-tikim lang naman ako so bakit ako mapapagod do’n. He also told me in the end na he’s just trying his best to improve his cooking quick dahil gusto niya nang i-ease mga gawain ko sa bahay.
Now, he’s been sending me home cooked food for lunch and he monitors whether nag-oonline delivery ba ako/kinain ko ba yung padala niya. Kinakain ko naman pag okay lang yung lasa, pero most of the time hindi talaga kaya pinapakain ko sa mga street dogs or tinatapon ko nalang. I’m contemplating whether I should confront him again or not kasi my friends are telling me na medyo babaw ang reason (since pagkain lang naman daw) na pag-aawayan namin to, and he does it in the name of love naman daw. But for me, nawawalan namin ako ng appetite dahil nauumay na ko sa mga luto niya so iniisip ko na I should tell him na talaga that he should stop cooking for me. How should I exactly approach this?