u/Street_Leg9014

I am pretty average and was unfortunately exposed to internet porn at a young age and it messed up my mental image of myself.

I haven’t watched porn in six years, refrain from seeing any sort of celebrity leaks or sex tapes, and have been in therapy for two years. I still can’t shake the feeling of inadequacy.

I just started a new relationship about a month ago and I try to not ask any details that I don’t want to know, but unfortunately this came up before there was a good time for me to say I didn’t want to know.

My girlfriend has a bit of a past and her most recent hookup was 8 inches and he’s the only one she’s hooked up with multiple times. The rest of them were around my size. We were texting about this so I didn’t know she was going to say this or I would’ve stopped her and told her I didn’t want to know.

I told her after that I don’t really want to know any more (worded better obviously) and that her past isn’t a concern to me, that all that matters to me is her and I. She was very reassuring and comforting and it solidified my feelings for her, but not in myself.

Unfortunately all I have felt the last two weeks since we had this conversation is self loathing and like I’m inadequate.

How do I stop feeling like this so it doesn’t affect my relationship and sex life besides refraining from porn, not asking about her past, and therapy (since I already do these)?

I’ve looked it up online and had my girlfriend do them on me for me to watch and try to replicate, but I just can’t do it. I’m sure I’m doing the right thing with my mouth, and my girlfriend says it looks like the same thing she’s doing, but all of my marks disappear after a few minutes. Ive gotten close once but it was gone after an hour. Could this just be an anatomy thing? I have slight TMJ and I feel like I’m just not able to suck hard enough

Edit* title is supposed to say very long, not very longer. Typo

My girlfriend and I both have very high libidos, and we usually go at it for an hour each time including foreplay and both of us finishing once

The issue is after I finish 2-3 times I can’t really stay hard anymore. I want to keep going because she finishes best when I’m inside and she uses the rose but after about 10 minutes I just can’t stay hard

My cardio is good, I’m a varsity track athlete. I’m only 22 and I’m not sure if I should be concerned by this. One of my friends mentioned her boyfriend finished nine times in one day which is prompting me to ask if this is normal or I should see a doctor

I recently started seeing this girl, and I just can’t feel for her clitoris with my hand. I can see it if I look because I’m familiar with the anatomy, but like if we’re making out and my hand is down there I just can’t find it. Everyone I have been with in the past has had larger or more erectile clitorises so it’s been easy to find without looking, but with my current partner the only landmark I’m able to feel that helps is the clitoral hood, but even then it’s barely raised. This is not an arousal thing also, it’s just her anatomy. I’ve been using the hood as a way to find where it is and then going from there, but it never seems to be right and my fingers always unintentionally move from it without me noticing. I don’t want to let her move my hand every time or have to stop to look to see if I can find it. What can I do to make finding it easier and how do I use it when I do (specifically related to a smaller clitoris not just one in general)?