I still struggle to reconcile two completely different versions of my ex
One of the last texts my ex sent me before we broke up almost a year ago was, ‘I put you first and myself second.’
That sentence still haunts me.
To put things into perspective, the same day we broke up, he told me he had been considering cheating on me with someone he met months earlier at work because he wasn’t happy with our sex life.
What hurts is that he never brought this up beforehand. Not months before, not weeks before, not even days before. I was given no real opportunity to discuss things, understand his feelings, or try to work on the relationship together. It makes me feel like he emotionally checked out long before he actually ended things.
A few days after the breakup, a mutual friend/coworker told me he had apparently said he got over me ‘instantly’ after the other woman took him out to cheer him up. That completely messed with my head because right before we broke up, he was still telling me that he didn’t want to lose me, that I was ‘the one’, and that he loved me.
I still struggle to reconcile those two versions of him, the man who said I was his future, and the man who emotionally moved on so fast it made me question whether any of it was real at all.
Has anyone else dealt with this kind of emotional whiplash after betrayal or emotional overlap?