No cosleeping at my house is VERY difficult for my kindergartener who’s still cosleeping with her mom (and new boyfriend?)
My daughter is kindergarten age. Before all this, she slept independently in her own bed without issue.
When her mom and I first separated, we actually tried to be cooperative. We finished our lease cohabitating in the same house with separate rooms because we thought it would make the transition easier on our daughter. It did not go that way.
Quickly, things got tense, and her mom regressed her into cosleeping with her (mostly because she thought it was hilarious denying me a goodnight routine with my daughter while I’m down the hall talking to a locked door).
Now after a long period of my daughter sleeping with her mom regularly, we’ve started a true 7-on/7-off schedule, I’m in a new house, and my daughter absolutely cannot handle sleeping alone in her room at my house.
She cries, says she misses mom, misses her dad, asks to leave, gets out of bed over and over, and seems genuinely distressed, too anxious to sleep.
What makes this harder is that there’s now a new boyfriend in the picture, my daughter is aware he may be moving in, and from what she’s told me, she’s already been sleeping in the same bed with this guy and her mom. She believes this is the perpetual plan. Her mom has told her (and me) that she plans on cosleeping indefinitely.
I do NOT want to traumatize my kid. But where the fuck do I start.