u/SubstantialFroyo78

There is a year-long community food bank program position I really want to apply for but it needs a minimum of two references. I've been out of full-time work for awhile due to brain tumor treatment/surgery and I found out that during those years most of my primary references have passed away, moved abroad, or their phone numbers that I had are out-of-service. I don't have any family members or friends to ask for references. The part-time work I've been doing rotates me between their sites so often that I don't get to stay with a single team long enough to get to know anyone well enough to ask for a reference.

I have a work and volunteer background in education, agriculture, retail, and K-12 food service. This organization will call and do a reference verification if I'm selected. I just need someone to act as a prior volunteer or work supervisor and give a good reference when they call. I'll happily even write the written portion of the reference if you want, I just need someone to do the call verification portion if I get to that stage.

I can provide all the details needed over DM. Additionally, I've wrote numerous letters of recommendation over the years for people and would be happy to write a letter of reference for a job, graduate school, AmeriCorps, etc. for you as well (that you can view prior to submission too to make sure you're happy with it) or be listed on your resume/application as a reference in exchange for my verification call. Thank you!

Edited to add, unfortunately, none of the responses to this post are showing up? I think the automod filter is getting them. If you see this and responded, or are interested in being my reference, could you please DM me? I'd appreciate it, thank you again!

Last week I was interviewed for a new position, everyone on my panel was wonderful to interact with. They'd all seen my application which has my now legal name and male gender marker, however due to the nature of the job, it requires any prior names for background search and credentials purposes. No issues for any of them despite seeing that obviously feminine old name on there. They unanimously agreed they wanted to hire me. However, the individual who would be my immediate supervisor ("Jennie") was gone due to an unexpected family emergency. I was not aware of this until the end.

This group that consisted of HR reps, upper management, director, board member, etc. stated they'd talk to her, but wanted to push my hire through regardless. I found it a bit odd how they wanted to push me through immediately before she met me, but I tried to assume the best.

Fast forward to yesterday morning, I received a call from one HR rep who said she told the supervisor about me and finalized the hire herself, I just needed to sign my contract. Everything sounded good.

Anyways, maybe 10-15 minutes after I e-signed all my final contract documents I get bombarded by texts from Jennie, this supervisor. In each she is very aggressively, very pointedly using female pronouns plus not just my birth name/dead name ("Katie") from the application but formalizing it ("Katherine", but my birth name was legally just Katie previously) unnecessarily as well for whatever reason.

I kindly reiterate that my legal name is Kaleb, I'm male, and that I appreciate the information regarding the first day. Immediately after sending my response, she sends me a politically charged text that looks like some oddball campaign/voting message about how she was a "fierce advocate" for Trump, his backed midterm candidates, and "conservative family values". I didn't even finish reading the first paragraph of this monologue before it suddenly disappeared. I was dumbfounded and realized she deleted it. I tried going back and noticed she deleted all the messages from our text thread somehow, even though they were read and replied to (my phone only allows me to delete if the recipient hasn't read it, guess hers doesn't have that restriction).

Anyways, I tried calling/emailing my HR contacts about it and suddenly no answer to my calls, no response to my emails. The primary contact said she would call me back soon as I finished signing and never did. I desperately need the money and employment right now but I'm not impressed and know she's going to be a pain in my ass. Unfortunately I'm not in a location where there is much in terms of protection for sexual orientation or gender identity.

What to do? I've thought about calling the corporate home office about it, but I'm not sure if that's the best or worse move in this situation. Regardless of money, I'm not going to tolerate being she/her'd and called Katherine by some random dingleberry with a stick up her ass about trans people existing that's on a power trip.