He’s "very interested" but has bailed 3 times in a month. Is this just app culture?
Hey everyone, I’m 22F and new to the dating app scene lol. About a month ago, I matched with a guy (23M) and things moved from Hinge to text/IG pretty fast. From the jump, he was the one flirting significantly more, saying he was "very interested" and telling me how he couldn't wait to see me. Some days were casual, but the interest felt very high on his end as well as mine sometimes more so!
The problem is that he has now canceled or failed to communicate that he won’t be meeting me for the third time in almost a month. I’m usually the one initiating plans, he agrees, and then he just bails or doesn't even text to apologize after. He claims he is "super busy," and while I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first, it's mind-boggling that he can't send a simple text to not leave me hanging.
My friends are convinced he actually has a girlfriend because he shows interest in every way possible except for actually making a damn actual appearance. When I asked why he isn’t texting or texting back as much, he says he "never checks his phone" and is an "in-person, physical touch" type of guy... which makes no sense because he refuses to actually be in person!
Recently, we agreed to meet on a Monday. Because of the past flakes, I reached out that day to confirm. He left me on delivered for hours while simultaneously viewing my IG stories, posting his own, and even replying to a compliment I’d left him the day before. I even asked if he wanted to cancel, and still got no response.
I’m pretty confused because I’ve tried to remove myself from the equation before, but he always pulls me back with intense flirting. I know I let this go on for too long, but as a newbie, I have to ask like is this the norm? How do you deal with someone who acts like they’re into you but refuses to actually show up? He makes all these claims but why is there no initiative?
TL;DR: New to Hinge and confused. Guy is "very" interested and suuper flirty over text/IG, but has bailed or ghosted on plans 3 times in a month. He claims he's "too busy" and "doesn't check his phone," yet he's active on IG stories while leaving my "are we still meeting?" texts on delivered. Is this just typical dating app flakes, or is my intuition (and my friends) right that something else is going on? Also I have already begun to just cut it off but I would love some opinions regardless. Thank you.