r/hinge

I'm curious what is typical on hinge for dating numbers. In particular number of likes received a week, matches a week, match to first date conversion, first date to second date rate, mean number of dates before sleeping together etc. I would love to know your guys' numbers to get some, albeit biased, estimate of these distributions

please advise me

I find this happens often.

I send a witty comment as my like, and she matches me, but doesn't reply to my comment?

I want to reply sarcastically saying 'Ill take that's as no', but don't want to come across as rude, in case they don't get the humour.

So what's my options? Reply again saying 'hello, you're pretty and seem nice' (along those lines) even though that was the reason I liked in the first place.

Or do I have to come up with a second witty comment.

Hate it when this happens, in the past ive just unmatched them because, well if you can't be bothered / see the reason to reply to my initial message, I don't see this going anywhere

I play college rugby and it’s a big hobby of mine, so I was gonna add of photo of me scouring. but I’m wondering if that’s a little to much and if I should stick to more professional looking photos instead of something I would post on instagram.

Yall i just got the app today and three people commented. Am i supposed to reply to all of them?

I feel bad if I dont but im not interested in them romantically.

One of them gave me a rose, just found out thats special and thatll make it even more awkward if I just deny them with no response💔

I just wanna know whats the appropriate thing to do😭!

Hi everyone,

I'm 24M and have been using Hinge for dating. I'm more of a quiet nerdy guy, and my profile mainly has outdoor activities (road cycling) and some art stuff. And I'm looking for a partner who is similarly nerdy and likes arts / crafts or outdoor activities. But it feels impossible to filter someone based on this on Hinge.

Is there a way to filter by this way on Hinge? or another app that allows this?

open to recommendations of other apps or in-person events where I might have better chances

Thanks

Hi 👋 35M here this is my first and last ever Reddit post probably , as you can see from the title I’m cooked , I try to keep this as short as possible because I know most people’s attention span is very limited ( I probably already lost 90% of ppl here). When I was young I always wondered what kind of life will I have once I grow up , buy a house somewhere have a family loving wife kids I couldn’t wait to grow up , here I’m 20 years later where dreams are dead at this point I’m alone living abroad in a foreign country have no family no girlfriend haven’t even had any women be interested in me in the last 15 years , why is that ? Well I’m extremely average looking at best I might even be very generous here I’m balding and I’m not rich by any means , obviously I’ve been involved in semi toxic situationships with women the past 15 years but haven’t had anybody serious , you know the type that would text you good morning or good night , so I did the math the other day in my head and even if I find someone now I’m 35 by the time we get to know each other and trust each other we gonna be 38 38 by the time we consider kids I’m gonna be 40 + so no matter how I look at it it’s probably over for me , I wonder what my 15 year old self would think if he would know how things end up ? So all I’m doing now is work , gym and travel once a year , have probably less than 5 close friends. I don’t want any advice really but I just really wanted to write this down somewhere hoping it would make me feel better have the weight off my shoulders, I know there is a loneliness epidemic in this modern world governed by instagram gurus and also I wonder who said love is blind ? Dno if love even exists anymore, probably not in the same traditional form like a 100 years ago but love is definitely not blind it’s actually the exact opposite, love in my opinion is a luxury reserved for the few who are very handsome good looking and or rich , unfortunately there is no love for ugly people out there , well with this my retirement is in full effect I think , thank you for reading and have a nice day 👋🏻

How do I cope with always being the second choice or the girl guys keep on the back burner. Many a time I have started speaking to a guy and as soon as he sees my friends he immediately ditches me for them. I have numerous examples and I’m honestly surprised after those experiences I’m still open to dating. I remember I was on a date with a guy and my friend was at the same bar, she came to say hi and my date turns to me and he’s like she’s gorgeous/beautiful, another example with a different friend I was planning to go on a date with this guy, I posted a group photo with my friend and he asked for her Instagram (safe to say I removed him) ANOTHER example was when I was at a bbq I was really connecting with this guy, I got up to get a drink and when I returned he was speaking to my friend (they ended up dating for 6 months). These are all different friends and I have so so many examples. The thing is I’m not ugly, I get complimented by strangers at work, on the street. But all the guys I’ve been interested in always have their sights set on greener pastures. I TRY so hard to not get into my head about it but it’s happened so many times that I’m debating just removing myself from the dating pool. Another example is a guy I was seeing casually dropping that one of my friends was a “good looking girl” unprovoked - I tried to ignore it, but ultimately he stopped talking to me with no real explanation. Some days I debate whether I should bite the bullet at get cosmetic surgery because I think that’s the only way I will stand out amongst the sea of women. I’m looking for people that may have been in similar situations that can reassure me things get better because my confidence just keeps getting knocked further and further

31M. I’ve had three matches in two weeks of using the app, but zero incoming likes so far. All three matches came from comments I left on prompts or pictures.

None of them started a conversation after matching, so I had to initiate each time—which I’m completely fine with. I don’t have any ego about messaging first. I’m just confused about why someone would read my comment, choose to match with me, and then say nothing at all.

The comments were thoughtful and gave them something to respond to, so they weren’t exactly dead ends either.

Is this a common experience on the app, or am I overthinking it? So far, I haven’t received a response to any of my post-match messages either.

I (27M, NYC) am very inexperienced at dating around. Recently, I have been on 3 dates with a Hinge match (25F), and have had a lovely time on each. I don't particularly want to stop seeing her because spending time together is a lot of fun, but at the same time I don't really think about her when we're not spending time together, and I'm a little unsure of the long term viability, though I feel it's early to make a judgement like that. We have another date scheduled for next week, more on that later.

Then this week, I went on a date with another Hinge match (29F), and felt a very strong connection. We had a really good time together, even closed down a bar since we were having such a good time. We both want to see each other again, but the only night we could potentially see each other next week is the same night as my date with the first Hinge match.

I feel pretty strongly that I want to continue to ride the momentum of this second match, but I feel terrible cancelling a date on one woman because I prefer another. I've been on a few other first dates in the meantime too, but those haven't gone anywhere yet.

I have never seen multiple people at once, so what do I do here? Do I politely end things with the first match? If I am politely ending things, then what is the right thing to say to someone you've only been on 3 dates with? Or do I just make up an excuse and try to reschedule?

For context, I do feel like the first match likes me, but I have noticed that her profile has been continually updated, so I assume I'm also not the only person she is seeing.

I don't want to be an asshole whatsoever but also want to keep following things that feel good. Help!

Why do some men on Hinge like your profile, send the first message, have great banter, and even hint at going on a date—only to suddenly ghost out of nowhere?
I'm genuinely curious. If the conversation is flowing, both people are asking questions, and there's mutual interest, what usually causes someone to disappear? Is it that they met someone else, lost interest, got overwhelmed, or something else entirely?
I'd love to hear both men's and women's perspectives.
It’s kills my confidence on the app.

Before anyone gets mad: Obviously, this doesn't apply to every single woman out there. There are always exceptions, and some people genuinely want to connect. But from a pure dating perspective on Hinge, the pattern is hard to ignore. Change my mind.

It feels like a massive chunk of profiles have shifted completely away from actually trying to meet people. Instead, the strategy for a lot of users has just turned into a way to pull in easy validation.

The biggest giveaway is the classic line:

"I'm barely on here, just follow me on Instagram: @username"

If you're actually trying to match and go on dates, engaging with these profiles is a dead end. Nine times out of ten, they have zero intention of holding a conversation on the app. They are just using Hinge as a free funnel to get followers and attention straight to their socials.

To me, this points to an unhealed need for constant digital attention. If someone needs a steady stream of DMs from strangers just to feel validated, they aren’t in a headspace to build a real connection. They aren't looking for a date; they’re looking for a fan club.

Am I being too cynical, or is avoiding the "IG plug" the right thing to do ? What’s your experience like

I was talking to a guy (im 22 he's 23) on hinge in a very hot playful tone and we were chatting abt having a sleepover but i couldnt that night so he unmatched me.. He was SO hot I stalked and found his insta and dmd him 😂 would u like this or consider me a stalker

Twice this week matches have been so so invested into me! i match there energy and one girl i was stood up and the other she was asking me to plan something i did and then ghosted i replied a day later saying - Do you still want to do something it's fine if you dont want to and she dodges it and says shes busy for a month so i just said okay well bye then. Why does this happen i get hundreds of matches and not a single one will lead to anything even the ones who admit from the start they want to do something! It is not even im not a great texter when i go on dates they're normally good. I just havent been able to get one in 6 months!