u/hopie_bopie

I just got out of a year long relationship a month ago and got on hinge for the laughs, but I ended up talking to someone I’m actually pretty interested in. Before I agree to meet up with this guy, I need help!

This is my first time on a dating app. How long should I talk to him before going out? And how can I assure it will be safe?

Also I’d love to hear some success stories! I don’t feel confident in dating apps but I think this guy is really amazing and I’m curious what the odds are.

I recently found a car that I wanted to purchase on Facebook Marketplace. A 2014 Honda CRV EX-Lfor $10k with 84k miles on it. It seemed legitimate and the seller sent me the Carfax, which showed a clean title and routine maintenance.

My mom was communicating through her Facebook, and then it suddenly said that the listing wasn’t available anymore. I could still see it on my Facebook, so I inquired about it and made a plan to meet the seller tomorrow the check it out. He sent me the address and the Carfax, and I thanked him. He said to text him before I arrived.

He asked how I could pay since tomorrow is a Sunday and banks will be closed, and I told him I had been car shopping recently so I had the cash.

Two hours later, I went to Facebook Marketplace to show someone the car I was looking at, and the listing was gone. I even went on a private browser, and it was completely gone. No evidence of this listing anywhere.

I went to his profile and messaged him about it, and I haven’t heard from him. This all happened later in the evening, so there’s no way someone could have bought it. I’m literally baffled by this situation.

The part that indicates that this is a scam to me is that the seller disappears any time someone tries to make a plan to actually see the car.

I’m not familiar with how scams like this could work, but is this one? I want to be aware, because if he says it was an accident I might still meet up with him tomorrow. And if not, I want to be more careful about scams moving forward with shopping.

I recently found a car that I wanted to purchase on Facebook Marketplace. A 2014 CRV for $10k with 84k miles on it. It seemed legitimate and the seller sent me the Carfax, which showed a clean title and routine maintenance.

My mom was communicating through her Facebook, and then it suddenly said that the listing wasn’t available anymore. I could still see it on my Facebook, so I inquired about it and made a plan to meet the seller tomorrow the check it out. He sent me the address and the Carfax, and I thanked him. He said to text him before I arrived.

He asked how I could pay since tomorrow is a Sunday and banks will be closed, and I told him I had been car shopping recently so I had the cash.

Two hours later, I went to Facebook Marketplace to show someone the car I was looking at, and the listing was gone. I even went on a private browser, and it was completely gone. No evidence of this listing anywhere.

I went to his profile and messaged him about it, and I haven’t heard from him. This all happened later in the evening, so there’s no way someone could have bought it. I’m literally baffled by this situation, especially because it seems to happen whenever someone is interested in his car.

I’m not familiar with how scams like this could work, but is this one? I want to be aware, because if he says it was an accident I might still meet up with him tomorrow. And if not, I want to be more careful about scams moving forward with shopping.

i don’t know too much about OCD so please bear with me!

my boyfriend of almost two years recently broke up with me. he has severe (and i mean SEVERE) OCD. he has been diagnosed since he was very young, and has made great progress. before, he never ate, couldn’t leave the house, and had debilitating panic attacks. he has since been to EMDR and exposure therapy, which helped him live life normally. but lately, he regressed significantly. his mental health has been so bad he can’t leave the house without panicking so hard he throws up, and has no motivation to eat again.

when his panic attacks started back up, he needed space because it was too much for him to talk over the phone, as we’re long distance right now. he said that he didn’t want to lose me over this, and i assured him that he wouldn’t, and that i would support him however i could. we were even talking about marriage. within a week, he called me saying that he came up with reasons to break up with me and called it off.

it was so incredibly random and no amount of reasoning could convince him to just have a conversation about it. it seems like he had become hyperfocused on me becoming like his mom, which is a fear of his as his parents have an awful marriage. he has brought up this fear to me before, and i’ve been able to reason with him and calm his fears. but it seems he suddenly started spiraling and with his other issues, it just all crashed down on him.

i don’t want to be delusional, but i truly worry that he made an emotional decision and is not in the right headspace. he seemed very frazzled and not present when he broke up with me, and i’m worried that something is seriously wrong. has anyone ever had any experience with this?

i’m so sorry if this has nothing to do with OCD, i am just curious if this is a thing!

i don’t know too much about OCD so please bear with me!

my boyfriend of almost two years recently broke up with me. he has severe (and i mean SEVERE) OCD. he has been diagnosed since he was very young, and has made great progress. before, he never ate, couldn’t leave the house, and had debilitating panic attacks. he has since been to EMDR and exposure therapy, which helped him live life normally. but lately, he regressed significantly. his mental health has been so bad he can’t leave the house without panicking so hard he throws up, and has no motivation to eat again.

when his panic attacks started back up, he needed space because it was too much for him to talk over the phone, as we’re long distance right now. he said that he didn’t want to lose me over this, and i assured him that he wouldn’t, and that i would support him however i could. we were even talking about marriage. within a week, he called me saying that he came up with reasons to break up with me and called it off.

it was so incredibly random and no amount of reasoning could convince him to just have a conversation about it. it seems like he had become hyperfocused on me becoming like his mom, which is a fear of his as his parents have an awful marriage. he has brought up this fear to me before, and i’ve been able to reason with him and calm his fears. but it seems he suddenly started spiraling and with his other issues, it just all crashed down on him.

i don’t want to be delusional, but i truly worry that he made an emotional decision and is not in the right headspace. he seemed very frazzled and not present when he broke up with me, and i’m worried that something is seriously wrong. has anyone ever had any experience with this?

i’m so sorry if this has nothing to do with OCD, i am just curious if this is a thing!

My boyfriend is going through a really rough season of life right now. He is starting grad school, working three jobs, all while moving out of his parent’s house. He struggles with severe OCD and has had panic attacks before, but over the last year that we have been together, he has only had a handful.

With everything going on, his anxiety has spiked and caused him to be in a constant state of panic. It is to the point that he feels physically ill, is back in therapy, and hardly leaves the house. He’s been staying at his parents before the official move out to have support.

We have been together for over a year and I have to say, this is the hardest thing we’ve had to work through. He feels so anxious he hardly texts, never calls, and all of our plans stay tentative in case he feels too panicky to go out. We live an hour away from one another with conflicting work schedules, so it’s not easy to find time that works for us.

I feel helpless being far. I want to be his person that he runs to when he feels panicky, but right now it’s his mom because she’s physically there, which is understandable. Right now, all I can really do is respect his space, but it’s rough. I feel like I can’t ask him questions about how he’s feeling or how the moving process is going without causing stress. It’s fair, but it’s hard because I’m not there so at the same time, I have no other way of knowing how he’s doing or where’s he at in the moving out process.

Before this spike in panic attacks, he has consistently showed up for me. So even though the lack of communication is taking a toll on me, I’m not leaving over that. But the question still remains, how can I support him while giving him space? He’d rather me be there in person than text, but I can’t. It feels like we’re at an impasse and I don’t know how to move forward with supporting him. I feel like a liar when people ask how he’s doing and I say he’s fine, knowing I haven’t heard from him in hours and haven’t gotten a real answer in weeks.

How can I support him while also giving him the space he needs?

TL;DR bf is going through a lot and needs space, i’m having a hard time figuring out how to support him despite the distance and his difficulty reaching out

my partner [22M] and i [22F] have been together for about two years now. lately we’ve been hitting a bit of a rough spot and i need help with how to move forward together. he’s going through a lot of change. he’s going to grad school, working three jobs, and moving out of his parents house. he has a history of mental health issues, including severe anxiety, and the business of this season is making it worse.

he’s been constantly on edge and having panic attacks at least once a day. he’s in therapy but in full honesty, it’s affecting me greatly. we live about an hour away from each other and i work full time while he works weekends, making it hard for us to see each other. so we rely on texting and calling.

only he hasn’t been doing that. he never feels up to calling when he’s panicky, which i understand. he texts me maybe twice a day, if that. we have plans to have dinner this week, but they’re tentative because his anxiety makes him feel physically ill.

i have struggled with anxiety a lot. i understand why he’s pulling away and not wanting to talk much or go out, but it hurts. i miss him so much and i want to help. but i don’t feel like i have a boyfriend right now, i feel like i have a friend i’m checking in on.

i’ve pretty much decided that i’m not leaving, because i know he truly is trying his hardest to get past whatever is causing this anxiety. but i feel so left behind and i just miss my boyfriend and being with him. how can i move forward and help him while i feel like this?

TL;DR, my partner is struggling with crippling panic and hardly texts and never calls bc we are medium distance and can’t see one another. i miss him but also want to hold space and unsure what to do.

ever since puberty, i feel like i’ve had a stronger smell. it’s not bad, but it has lingered on underwear at times that I’ve had to throw away. i drink so much water, eat relatively healthy, shower everyday, and wash the area with water only. i was beginning to accept that maybe i was overreacting and it was normal, but recently my bf mentioned that it also tastes off. what can i do to fix this????? i’m genuinely at a loss. my discharge is normal and everything!

I have really bad emetophobia, and it’s caused me to stay away from horror movies for all 21 years of my life just in cause it makes me panic and feel sick (or vice versa lol) because of what’s happening on screen.

My boyfriend LOVES horror movies, and I agreed to see Backrooms with him as a nice surprise. It doesn’t seem too bad, but has anyone here seen it?? Is there anything in the movie that could trigger emetaphobia?

the methyl methacrylate tank that’s either going to leak or explode. are there ANY solutions to this?? like could they build something around it kinda like chernobyl? not an engineer so idk if that’s a dumb question or not.

also, genuinely what is the best case scenario here? if it explodes, the radius of the fireball will be at least half a mile and will cause chemical rain with not just mma, but the other chemicals on site. if it leaks, it’ll run into our sewer systems and the ocean, and just continue to hang in the air. like what’s the best thing to hope for here??