My (25F) partner (25M) had Grindr on his phone and says it was for networking/job hunting. Am I being naive?
My long-term boyfriend (25M) is a straight man (or at least that’s how he’s always identified). I’m a queer woman (25F), but we’re in a monogamous relationship, and monogamy is a non-negotiable for me.
I recently discovered that he had downloaded Grindr. When I asked him about it, he told me it was because the job market is so awful and he was using it to look for work.
I’ve genuinely never heard of anyone using Grindr for job searching. I know networking can happen almost anywhere, but this explanation feels… really difficult to believe.
For context, he’s never expressed any attraction to men. He’s said he’s straight, has no interest in men, and no interest in things like pegging or exploring that side of sexuality. If he came out as bisexual, that honestly wouldn’t be the issue for me. The issue would be dishonesty and violating our agreement to be monogamous.
So I’m wondering: is there any legitimate reason a straight man would download Grindr that I’m somehow missing? Has anyone actually heard of people using it for professional networking, or am I being incredibly naive by even considering that explanation?
I don’t want to jump to conclusions if there’s something obvious I don’t know, but I also don’t want to ignore glaring red flags because I love him.
Am I missing something here, or am I being played?