Wallahi I feel like our generation is so obsessed with marriage to the point that we can’t even have a decent conversation without talking about marriage or finding spouse, no one has ambition anymore, or if they want a relationship, the standards are above the roof, which is so inconsiderate to both of the genders
I’ve been interested in this guy for almost 2 years now. We follow each other on all socials, and he consistently likes my stories while I like his too, but he has never actually tried to message me or start a conversation.
I’m confused if this means he’s interested but shy, or if he’s just someone who casually likes people’s stories. The thing is, he is genuinely my exact type, so it’s hard not to overthink it.
At the same time, I personally don’t feel comfortable messaging a guy first because I worry it might come across too strong, especially when I don’t know his intentions.
From a guy’s perspective, if someone repeatedly interacts with your stories for years but never reaches out, does that usually mean interest or just friendliness? And from a girl’s perspective, would you ever break the ice first in a situation like this?
would you guys marry someone if you know that they committed Zina but it happened when they were 15 but they’re 25 rn? And you haven’t done anything of sort your whole life.
As-salamu alaykum guys, as I write this I’m really hoping you keep an open mind and don’t judge me. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately and I feel like I need to be honest. I think because growing up I wasn’t seen as attractive, it affected me more than I realized. Now it’s kind of the opposite, people see me as really attractive, and I think that change messed with me in a way. I feel like now I crave attention, especially from men, even when I know I shouldn’t.
For example, there are men I know I’m not interested in at all, but I still flirt and entertain them just because I like the attention in the moment. It makes me feel noticed and wanted for a little bit, especially because I didn’t always feel that way before. But after that feeling goes away, I regret it. May Allah forgive my sins, because I know it’s not right, but sometimes I feel like I can’t control it in the moment.
Alhamdulillah, I’ve never let it go beyond flirting, but even that bothers me because it doesn’t reflect who I actually want to be. My friends always say I just have a flirty personality, but deep down I don’t think that’s all it is. I think I’m trying to fill something from the past and looking for validation in the wrong places.
I also feel like the more I do it, the more it becomes a habit, and that scares me. I don’t want to keep repeating something I know I’ll regret later. I want to be more disciplined and respect myself more, but I’m struggling with how to actually stop in the moment when the attention feels good.
I guess I’m sharing this because I want to change, and I don’t want to keep feeling this way. I want to feel secure in myself without needing that kind of attention. If anyone has advice or has gone through something similar, I’d really appreciate it.