u/SufficientAlarm3753

What seems to be an act of goodness can also have negative impact

Sharing the downside of being good to others in some common scenarios:

*Always being someone's self appointed spokesperson: if you always become someone's voice who cannot speak for himself/herself then that person will never take his/her stand in life

*Assisting someone so much that the person starts becoming dependent on you : right karma is to help when and where it is actually required

*Giving gifts and favours without expecting anything in return creates guilt and mental burden on the receiver when he/ she is not in the capacity of reciprocating these gestures.

*Listening to someone's sad story more than often ,can make the person develop a habit of always cribbing and looking at the negative side of life

What we've got and what we want don't always match . Money and networking is required for lavish lifestyle but there's a lot that can be enjoyed in life on your own if you start using your free time/ me time in relaxing ways

So here's my take on what can be simple joys in life ( no.6,no.20 and no. 22 have a long lasting impact on your happiness 😊!)

1.A fresh home cooked meal

2.A good night's sleep

3.Someone to talk to who'll listen and understand

4.Spending time in greenery and fresh air

5.Star gazing

6.Not being answerable to anyone for things that only involve you

7.Singing, dancing, painting whatever makes you forget time

8.Reading a book that is engrossing

9.Watching a good drama series or a movie

10.A warm hug

11.Feeding animals

12.Playing with a baby

13.Playing indoor games in late evening

14.Talking to God/ Universe about anything and everything (you can write a letter to God )

15.Going for a long walk alone

16.Having a cold shower ,skincare and dressing smartly

17.Getting cozy with your sweetheart

18.Listening to music that transports you to another world

19.Discovering new hidden places in your town

20.Overcoming a fear that you have struggled with for long

21.A long drive on roads less traveled

22.Learning something new ... irrespective of your age and how small the learning is

A lot more can be added to this list ..

If you observe most points include only your involvement...if you know how to be on your own , you'll be very headstrong in life ...ups and downs of life will affect you less

Points involving others bring forward the importance of sense of belongingness .... maintain boundaries but put in your efforts to build your relationship with people who matter to you

Life is strange yet beautiful...so much you plan and prepare but it still will surprise and shock you ...

But some tips / lessons that can help you provide stability in this fast moving world are:

1. Ignorance is bliss ...turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to people and situations where you have tried more

than enough.

2.You own nothing.. everything that you've got is given by the universe in this lifetime from your intelligence to health to looks ...you just improvise

3. Life is a short journey...think about death each day and you'll be free from a lot of worries because nothing here is to last forever

4.Being positive actually works ... don't be delusional but you should count your blessings..it helps big time in low moods

5.If you are not getting answers to life even after a lot of brainstorming and trying...leave and believe in the universe because mark my words what is yours will come to you

6.Don't be stagnant...do something...it will reduce over thinking significantly

7.Each day do something pleasurable...make it a ritual to enjoy some moments alone and feel the richness of being alive

All these points may seem insignificant but they restore your peace of mind which further helps in enhancing your experience of life

Try and feel the change :)

Since a long time I have wondered about what life is actually about..all we have got is 24 hours ..that compound to months and years and changes occur in our life based on the habits that we repeatedly do over this course of time .But is there any meaning to how we are living.Its a blind race ...we are looking for validation...we are looking for trying to fit in ...we are trying to impress....we are chasing money ,fame,love ( lol ... sorry but love is being chased more than anything)..we are severely affected by both our praises and our criticism...if not then we have become numb emotionally..we consider all this natural and being part of human...but isn't it tiring and useless to a big extent...PAUSE PLEASE ...if you'll pause you'll realise more than half of the things that you are doing are the ones that you don't want to actually do .. you're doing it out of fear of being left out from the race of life ...but have you ever asked yourself where are you heading to my dear ...what do you want from life and from yourself...never go into that sphere of what you want from others... because you'll hardly ever get what you want exactly from others ... surprisingly you'll not want much if you think deeply ...all we crave is to feel well most of the times..so what are the ingredients to feel good at all times ... please share your take on this

This is first of many sharings from my side

Hope you enjoy reading !