How long is too long to wait before meeting someone you've been talking to?
Hello guys! I (22F) have been in a talking stage with a guy (20M) for about 2 months and 2 weeks now.
We met through online dating app. I've actually been the one to initiate meeting up twice already. I suggested meeting in a different city because my parents basically know everyone in our town 😭 and, of course, for safety since it would be in a public place.
The thing is, both times he said he wasn't available yet. He told me he wants to save up some money first for our first meetup, and he also needs to ask permission from his mom because his parents are pretty strict too.
I honestly appreciate that he's being responsible, but I'm starting to wonder... how long should I wait before expecting us to actually meet?
I'm not asking him to treat me to some fancy restaurant—we could literally just eat at a fast-food place. I just want to see if we're actually compatible in real life because I don't want us to stay as just "textmates" forever.
I already kind of like him because he's really good with words, he is understanding patient with me but at the same time, I don't know if I'm just being too patient or if I'm missing a sign.
For context, this is the first guy I've ever talked to romantically. I'm NBSB and have zero dating experience, so I genuinely don't know what's considered normal.
What would you do if you were in my situation? Should I keep waiting, or should I start seeing this as a sign that maybe he's not ready? I'd really appreciate any advice. 🥹