Is He Interested?
I'm new to this sub! Wasn't sure where to ask this advice and thought this may be a good place to start.
I've very recently developed feelings for a guy I've been working with on a local committee. We've known each other for years, but recently started working closely together earlier this year when I became Chair and he became Vice Chair.
He's 33M. I'm 48F. He is mature for his age and I give off much younger vibes.
He consistently downplays our age difference whenever I bring it up. Before his birthday, I said something about forgetting how old he was turning but it was a lot younger than me. He said probably not that much. (He knows how old I actually am; we've had that conversation many times.)
Then he mentioned something about a young professionals event and I joked that I didn't get an invite bc I'm too old and he said he even feels old there bc it's all Gen Z kids and they say weird things lol and he says he feels like he relates more to my age.
Recently we were at another event. I was hugging everyone when they were leaving and went to hug him. He looked terrified! It was a very quick, awkward hug.
But he texts or calls (yes, calls!) me often, generally a couple times a week, mostly to talk about committee stuff. But we often talk about personal stuff as well like weekend plans, our day jobs, or hobbies. One night back in March (when we first took our leadership roles) we talked for an hour and a half. That night we talked about all kinds of stuff like where we grew up in town and all sorts of things.
One night recently after a meeting, we stood in the parking lot talking for like 20 minutes. He was in no rush to leave even though he had to get up early the next day.
It seems like even more lately he's been finding reasons to call or text. Like vaguely committee-related, but absolutely nothing urgent.
Would it be safe to say he's interested in me romantically? Or is he just being friendly?
He's been nothing but respectful, professional, and helpful. I suspect he's holding back to not cross a line because of our leadership roles and age difference. I think he's looking for a subtle green light from me to proceed. But I've been very wrong about male behavior in the past, sooo help lol.
Google Gemini says he's interested lol. What do you think?