How do you deal with people close to you that just say “I’ll pray about it” vs. active strides to change?
I’m not sure how to deal with my sister and her “just pray about it” attitude.
My sister loves to say, “I’ll pray about it,” to EVERYTHING versus making attempts to change things she wants to change. She wants to shift jobs but doesn’t know what she wants to do exactly, so I suggest looking up jobs related to her interest (urban planning) and doing research on it. She says, “I’ll pray about it” instead and stays in the same position. She was obsessed with the same guy who rejected her three times over a period of six times but instead of trying to move on by deleting his number or any other means she says the same thing. She says mean things about the person she supervises and when I say she should shift her thinking and try to be kinder she says, “I’ll pray about it,” but continues to be mean. Instead of being there for her friend who was going through a hard time, when I mentioned reaching out and being there she said, “all you can do is pray for her.”
She insists these are things that God and God only can change in her and she doesn’t need to do anything but pray about it. I tell her you can pray and still work on all of these things. Partially this is on me to just stop trying to help her become a kinder person. But I also, as her older sister, feel a sense of responsibility of trying to get her to be a better person. I’m not sure if I can do that if her only response is that she will pray about it, even if I were to cite the Bible and what not (which I’ve tried).
So how do you do maintain the relationships with Evangelicals that are like this? Or do you just not?