She finally moved
My grandma was diagnosed 3 years ago when she was 89. My mom and I have been trying to get her to move for a year and a half but she has enough wherewithal to know she doesn’t want to go there. She wants to die in her house, and I don’t blame her. I want to die before I get to a stage like this.
She lives alone in a big house. Sets off the fire alarms burning toast at least once every two weeks. Confused, not sure what’s happening. Thinks we’re coming in her house and moving stuff around. She loses her house keys and her storm door locks from the inside with a key. It simply isn’t safe but she still won’t move.
Adult services is no help, they can’t force anyone to do anything against their will.
I read this and another Reddit r/agingparents saying short of them hurting themselves and landing in the hospital then moving there isn’t much we can do.
My mom picked her up today and just went to show her the new place on the guise of a tour. The people knew they were coming. She went ahead of my mom and the “tour guide” took her in first and my mom shut the door behind them.
We both feel horrible about how this had to go down. But it was either this trick, or wait until she got hurt or burned the house down!
She’s probably so pissed, and potentially her relationship with her best friend, my mom, may be ruined.
Fuck dementia.