Why does child support make me feel like I’m screwing over my BD
I requested child support through the courts, got awarded 700 a month. Ever since I have done this it has made the relationship with my co parent so awful. Constant fighting back and forth about it. We have two children. The second wasn’t born yet so the child support order is for one child only. Since my BD watches the kids while I’m at work the judge lowered guideline support for him. He was still very angry. His stance is, he watches them more than the regular standard visitation.. and honestly I have always felt icky making him pay. HE DOSENT actually pay it, which makes me mad, even though at times I feel bad for even requesting it. Now he’s 10k behind. Iv already forgave close to 30k in arrears this last time we went to court. I’m torn. I need insight. Should I just wave the child support all together and co parent with each other like civilized adults who just want the best for the kids? Or should I require him to pay, maybe be a little more financially stable BUT have a horrible relationship with my BD for the foreseeable next 18 years?