u/Swimming_Health_6114

Today was weird. I have noticed I have been letting things around me affect me more than usual. I felt under appreciated at work even though I worked really hard and helped out a lot of people, so I was kinda in a funk.

My wife likes to watch Criminal Minds while we eat dinner, so after I cooked we sat down to eat and watch an episode. Of course in that show something absolutely horrible happens to a family in literally every episode, so it is not my fav but it makes my wife happy. Any ways, without fail a person was brutally murdered and I couldn't take it. I had to excuse myself and told my wife I was going to take a shower. When I got in the shower, I just cried quietly for a few minutes and calmed down.

Idk if I'm just tired or burned out or what. My job kinda sucks which has been weighing on me, and I do literally everything around the house since my wife is in the trenches. She was super cool about it though. She asked me what was wrong and I told her that I'm just becoming more emotional I think. She was supportive and told me we didn't have to watch stuff that might send me over the edge on a tough day.

I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this? I am usually in total control of my emotions, so losing it like that is kinda weird for me. My wife and I had a sweet moment so I'm not mad it happened but still, just curious if I am the only one.

Today one of my work buddies came in when he’s supposed to be on leave and just let our bosses know he’s resigning immediately. He took some time to be with his wife who’s expecting next month and I guess he used the time wisely, so he found a work from home position and scooted. Now we are down 4 people and I’m sure I’m next on the chopping block to get some more work with no more compensation since we can’t seem to hire anyone. It wasn’t my plan to run for the hills outta this company so soon, but it’s looking like plans change lol.

Hey dads! So I am kinda torn on what needs to happen before the baby comes in late October but here’s the background. My job is very stable but pretty depressing. I’m an accountant for a small property management / handyman company and it’s not managed very well. We have a high turnover rate and are always down a person it seems. Also this office is dirty, dark and very quiet. You could legitimately hear a pin drop most days. There are 12 people that work in the corp office but nobody talks to anyone unless it’s about something negative.

My wife is going down to part time, and will only be working at her job two days a week. Her boss is being kind enough to let her keep her health insurance, but to avoid putting the burden all on him even, we will most likely put the baby on my insurance. I make alright money, I could definitely make more somewhere else, but this place has some advantages as well. The first one is that I am a very good worker here and have been for years which kinda gives me some wiggle room on my work schedule. Even though we are in the office everyday, vanishing is not hard for me to do and my management will likely say nothing as long as it’s not egregious to keep me happy. Also, my bosses are literally petrified of having hard conversations with people so if a person starts to slack a bit, they do nothing about it, which means I might be able to take more if a back seat with responsibilities here once the baby comes.

My question is this, should I leave or should I go? And should I do it before the baby comes? I have noticed myself becoming more and more affected mentally by the depressing atmosphere of this place. Also it is not going to be easy when my wife goes down to part time with my current salary, although we do have good savings to hopefully see us through to the other side. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

As I have become more and more burned out at my job, and have started to get more creative while escaping my hellish prison that is my cubicle, I have become fond of car naps. I was just taking them in the parking lot, but coworkers started to notice, and it’s easier to take a 2 hr lunch if I’m not onsite. Do you guys have any go to spots where I can enjoy some fresh air, roll the windows down and chill? I think some nature spaces would be good for my mental health too especially when trying to get away from the office.

My wife is 20 weeks pregnant and this is the big one on the ultrasound. We already know it’s a boy because we did the genetic testing. He already feels like a full member of the family, and I can’t stop thinking about if something’s wrong. I’m just very anxious but keep telling myself everything will be fine, so I am also excited to see the little guy. My wife is also super nervous, but I have been keeping my own nerves to myself because she would freak out more if she knew I wasn’t my usual completely cool and calm self. So I’m just trying to hold it together until 1pm today lol.

My office is so dysfunctional it’s insane. Two coworkers who are both married are blatantly having an affair with each other and make no effort to hide it. One of our accountants comes in at 11am everyday (we start at 8am) and nobody ever says shit. Another accountant just lost his apartment due to it being condemned (no fault of his) and has a baby and another due next month, but my CFO straight up bullies him for “not being engaged.”

Nobody does their work but me and all I get for it is more work and no pay raise. All of the executives left early today again even though we are down 3 people - lo and behold, they expect me to hold the fort down. Answer the phones and manage the maintenance techs even though I’m just an accountant.

So what’s did I do? I left at 1 pm after lunch. Nobody has the balls to say anything to me so I’m gonna take advantage of it. My wife had the day off and is pregnant so I’m now laying in bed with her, and have been for a few hours. Today has been rad.

I work for a general maintenance company and I am the corp accountant so I do a lot of billing and stuff like that. My entire executive team is basically incompetent and refuses to learn any of the systems we use, so often I am literally the only one who can provide any data about anything we do. Our maintenance technicians will mess up their time punches / billing rates / overtime rates and materials receipts all the time to which I usually just take care of because if I involve upper management it always becomes way worse.

The problem is if one of our clients has a problem with work ethic from our guys, my CEO and owner always asks me to have the conversation with the technician. I’m a fucking accountant dude not a manager. All the executives expect me to do management related task because all the other 13 people in the corp office are burned out and don’t try.

I’m so over all these expectations when literally I shouldn’t even be bothered with customer service stuff. My bosses expect me to go the extra mile and take care of everything for them, but honestly for what I do I make shit money. I literally don’t care at all if our techs are lying about their time or not, it is not my problem what so ever.

Trying to get back into fishing this year and was wondering where people go. I don’t have a boat so shore fishing or kayak accessible is what I’m looking at. Any recommendations would be awesome!