u/Swirl_On_Top

Brother will inherit $5m-$10m from our Uncle, I will get a decent car, other siblings nothing.. I am struggling with mixed feelings, seeking advise.

Location: Midwest United States.

Long-story-short, an uncle we have that lives far away passed unexpectedly. His estate is estimated $5m-$10m. My youngest brother is blood related to him, I am not. I was born to a different father, but my mom remarried when I was an infant and the man who is my brothers father, is my dad. I had about the same level of relationship to this uncle as my brother. So my feelings are a bit shitty. On one side, I feel guilty I am getting about getting a $20k car whereas my older siblings get nothing... (luxury brand, that I cannot afford the gas/insurance on so I have to sell it) and I obviously feel weird now that my younger brother is going to be getting life changing, retire in his 30s, type of money.

To be clear, I am really happy he is setup for life. I love my brother and want nothing but his happiness. To me, I will love him the same and I hope your relationship dynamic stays the same. My brother is my best friend, we hangout a lot and do plenty together. I am now not going to be able to keep up with lifestyle, go to the events they will, the trips they will, and I will be grinding my life away for another 30+ years while he retires and chills. There is this incredibly human part inside of me that feels really icky and I want the feeling to go away and only be happy for him, but the envy is sadly there mixed with the feeling of grieving. I hate it.

Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you cope? Any advise you folk have?

thank you.

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u/Swirl_On_Top — 3 days ago

I am trying to use the tax advocate line to get my refund from 2024... Yes, the govt still hasn't paid me thousands from two years ago.

I have placed many notes on my account and am calling the IRS advocacy line after my third "we placed a note, call us in 60 days" situation.

I called them at 7:00am sharp, and was given the auto response of 'due to high volume on this topic, we cannot take your call, try again tomorrow.'

What the heck do I do? We could really use that money.

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u/Swirl_On_Top — 16 days ago