Baby Momma/Ex expects a platonic friendship to protect our child, but I am struggling
Male 21 y/o and female 20 y/o. We definitely had an arguably rough relationship with plenty of issues affecting it. I can admit I was poorly handling the relationship and not being there enough before our daughter was born. Once our daughter there was almost this spark again between us, but it ultimately fizzled out due to her holding the past against me. I’ve struggled with an addiction early on (no harm to the partner or drug/alcohol abuse), I since started therapy after she was born and all has been fairly well, but it’s rather hard when your partner holds it against you.
Anyways, eventually one day we had a fight and we split. That’s been maybe 5 or so weeks now. I still see my daughter every 2 weeks, which is great, but I fear if I don’t stay on my baby momma’s good side she will strip my custody. I’m trying to avoid going to court since it always gets messy (maybe I should to protect myself). She is currently on fairly heavy antidepressants and diagnosed with a few other mental things which makes things hard. She flips every day, it’s like she loves me, another day she’s telling me about some guy that she isn’t serious with, but gets drunk w him and they make out. She texts good morning and goodnight every single day which is extremely confusing, we text basically the whole day. She wants to be platonic friends, but I still haven’t lost any feelings.
I guess i’m coming to you guys to figure out how to get over her and still protect myself and my kid. I have a busy work schedule so it’s hard w full custody, but weekends are doable. My daughter is my top priority by far. It’s why I’ve been pushing aside my mental challenges i’m dealing with, involved with her mother, to understand this. Any advice to help myself forget this relationship and move on and accept just co-parenting and friendship for my daughter? Or any other type of experiences or options?
Thanks guys!