r/SingleDads

I've been divorced about a year. Around when I filed two years ago, I started dating a woman in her 20s, a good bit younger than me. We've been together about two years, but it's been on and off since my divorce was finalized.

My daughter is preschool age, and the divorce was hard on her, so I waited more than a year before introducing them. A month ago my girlfriend broke up with me for the third time this year (I think partly to see if I'd chase her). While we were apart, my daughter kept asking about her, which was awkward and made me feel terrible.

We're back together now, and she wants to be involved with my daughter again. I'm very hesitant. I don't want my daughter going through that again, so I've been avoiding it. I haven't talked to my girlfriend about it yet.

Has anyone dealt with something similar?
How did you handle it?

I met a girl about eight months after my divorce. I have extended custody of my two daughters and the person I was seeing didn't really want to be a parent. I don't hold ill will. I'm just feeling incredibly lost and defeated. The girls will feel the loss also. How do you guys keep your head up when the water is rising?

i'm retiling the guest bathroom and it hit me again how much single person household projects slow down when you need someone to hold the other end. back on site you'd just yell for someone to grab the other side and keep moving. now I'm rigging up braces with 2x4 scraps and clamps just to hold a board while I cut, or waiting until my son is at school to move anything heavy. the bathroom floor demo took me twice as long as it should have because I was working around my own setup. i'm methodical about it and I get it done safe, but the workaround phase eats time I don't have much of. curious if other single dads found real ways around this. did you buy specific gear that helps, or just accept that solo means slow?

She turns 18 in a month, was diagnosed as a preschooler, and it's not mild at all. She's still learned some pretty decent communication skills, though, which has actually caused allot of problems. Her ability to cope with a regular school environment plateaued in middle school, but expectations of her didn't because she's actually able to speak for herself. So teachers-- even her special education teachers-- all think she's just getting an attitude when she's having a meltdown, and don't follow her IEP like they should. I can't blame them, because even I struggle telling the difference sometimes. She does all the normal teenager stuff, just in the most autistic way possible. So, now she's completely burnt out, and unable to function at school at all.

That's the pertinent background. I'm inclined to let her, but I'm afraid it'll set a bad precedent for her little brother and sister. She's certainly not ready for a regular job, and isn't going to college. She's likely going to be staying with me for at least the next few years. There are ways she can go back and finish her diploma later,and we're looking into all the alternative programs we can find, but Lord knows. We tried the GED practice tests with her, and she didn't make the English or math at all.

Like I said, I don't want it giving her siblings any crazy ideas. My youngest daughter is 10, and struggling at school too. She really looks up to her big sister, so I don't want her getting the idea she can give up.

Anyway, I'd really appreciate some outside perspective. Thanks.

So without getting into the details, my (current) wife(34) and I(32M) have decided we are getting a divorce at the end of our lease. The current question i have is that she has mentioned a few times that she is either going to stay in Michigan if she can afford it financially for a year and see how it goes. Or just up and move back to CA and leave me and our 3yr old daughter to fend for ourselves so she can move into her parents house with them. which is what she says she wants to do anyways if I were to give her permission (NOT HAPPENING)because neither of us have any family support up here and she doesn't want to stay in a state alone. And my family lives in another state as well.

Should I try to convince her to stay? Or let her realize how expensive and hard everything is about to be and sorta drive her to the realization her leaving us will just be easiest for her

Well tonight, I called it quits. I didn't want to but I tried to talk to her about our problems and to her. She didn't see anything wrong, but there's too many times that She makes me feel like I'm alone. She don't reach, she don't initiate.\n She\n Steps, in when I'm disciplining, the kids and says, I'm being too rough or no, that's not the way it's gonna happen. She gets to stay home and do\n Nothing all day while I work 80 to a 100 hours a week but she won't even make me feel loved. I do everything I can for her.

Hello all. I am seeking some advice on my current situation because I genuinely do not know what to do. Me and my partner have finally decided to split a couple months but I’m sticking around for a few more months to help her to get in a better spot financially but I don’t know if I can do it.. the constant arguing and nagging is all still very much an issue and I just don’t want to deal with it anymore. She says I can leave now but would have to pay her $1500/month. That sounds ridiculous to me and I don’t know how I would afford to get my own place while paying her rent too basically. I’m sure if I just didn’t do it and left, she’d probably keep my son from me and I don’t want things to go that route but I’m honestly almost to a point of snapping and just leaving anyway, accepting whatever comes with that.