u/Takises

Hi everyone. I wanted to know if anyone has any idea what to do. I moved from Bremen about 3 days ago and went back to my home country. The landlord of the apartment I was renting accused me of having broken something. I didn't quite understand what it was, but nothing was broken, I was using everything right up until the end. I think it was something related to the sink, but I couldn't really understand it, because the landlord's wife was shouting a lot on the phone saying I had broken something, without explaining it and without sending a photo. But like I said, I didn't break anything in the sink.

They're refusing to return the deposit. I rented through Wunderflats, and they take no responsibility for any of it. They're no longer responding to me.

Is there anything that can be done? I'm afraid they did this specifically because I had already left Germany, and since I was an immigrant, they figured I wouldn't know what to do legally.

Maybe this is a strange form of emotional neglect, but I genuinely believe it is, and I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.

My mom is the kind of person who cares about my body, but not about me. She has never, in my entire life, asked me about my thoughts, feelings, or experiences. But if I sneeze, she'll come running with medicine.

I spent 10 months abroad studying and came back yesterday. Because of the move and a hole day traveling, I hadn't slept since Monday. I told her several times that I was completely exhausted. I've also struggled with severe insomnia for about 15 years, and she knows that.

I didn't sleep on Tuesday. She knew that.

On Wednesday afternoon, I texted her saying I'd be in my room trying to sleep. Later, I told her I was still having trouble falling asleep. I finally managed to sleep around 10 p.m.

At 11 p.m., she woke me up by touching my face. I woke up terrified, completely startled. She said she "just wanted to check if I was sleeping."

Of course I couldn't fall back asleep after that. I've been lying awake for hours, feeling angry and hurt.

To me, this is emotional neglect. Instead of trusting what I'd told her, she interrupted the one thing I'd been desperately trying to do. I'm sure tomorrow she'll say she was "just making sure I was okay," but it feels like she cared more about checking my physical condition than actually listening to me.

Is there any solution for a mother who has no interest in you? I mean, I just stopped talking to her (for the last 15 years we've only talked about small things) because it frustrated me too much to try to tell her something about myself, or show her a drawing, etc., only for her to ignore me to my face.

I tried talking to her a few times about this behavior but she doesn't understand.

It's strange, isn't it? A mother who seems averse to knowing her own daughter.

I feel invisible, like she looks through me. Yet somehow she knows how to pay attention to strangers. Does anyone else experience this?

But I really wish she knew me. I have a whole beautiful life and I'd like to share it with her.