I think my wife has narcissistic traits but only towards me.
I've been with my wife for 20 years. We have 2 kids.
My wife has many of the typical traits I've been reading about in this sub.
She never or hardly ever admits to being wrong. She is quick to point out if I'm wrong.
She has a habit of crossing boundaries and blaming my reaction.
Sometimes I swear she deliberately tries to get a reaction out of me.
Lately it seems like she's weaponizing sex. We barely touch each other. At night she stays on her side of the bed scrolls or watches tv. I always have to initiate, but get pushed away most of the time so I stopped trying.
If something she did bothers me we can't discuss it but she brings up things from years ago. It seems like if I mention something she did that bothers me even in the most calm manner she gets angry and mad at me.
It feels very distant, when I try to talk to her about it she either doesn't want to discuss it or she says she's OK with how things are and doesn't want to try to improve our relationship. She doesn't want to speak about our relationship but spends hours on the phone discussing her family's relationships.
The confusing part is no one that knows her probably sees this side of her.