u/TanneroRocher

I (31m) have worked on Sundays for the last couple years, so I haven’t been to church in a while. Working has been my “get out of jail” excuse with my family and wife who still attends with our two year old every week, but I choose to work so i don’t have to attend. I have many issues with the church and it’s gotten to the point that I just want to be done with it.

The problem is my sphere. My parents and three siblings are insanely devout. My in laws are currently serving a senior mission and my wife’s five siblings are all in. My marriage is great and I’ve mentioned my doubts to my wife, and I think she would be ok with it, but I’m scared she might 180 due to her family planting seeds. Her older brother divorced his wife after she decided to step away from the church, and am scared of their influence on my wife.

I’m also scared about the future. I know that when my kid turns 8 she’ll want to be baptized and I don’t want to watch someone else do it. I wish my wife would step away with me but I don’t want to force my views on her as she gets a lot of value from the social aspect of the church. She’s the “go through the motions and don’t ask questions” type as the stability and comfort is more important to her than asking and dealing with the hard questions. Kinda word vomiting here, but am just feeling a bit lost.