Sex education with 11 year old
My wife and I have been having a really hard time knowing what’s the best route for our 11 year old son. They have very limited access to the internet right now, including YouTube, their phone, and have an app on their phone that blocks adult content and anything we don’t approve of etc. after reading studies and seeing how much more agitated/depressed they seem when they have a lot of access.
we’ve been trying to learn more about sexual education and don’t want to make the same decisions our parents made when it come to teaching us. I was given no information around sex whereas my wife’s mom was, if anything, wayyy too open. And we both experienced csa so we may be a bit more worried about childhood development and sex than most.
We don’t want our son to feel ashamed of their feelings and curiosities around sex, masterbation, and their body and have considered trying to find a way to explore their feelings in a controlled/safe environment. Like a safe website/option for them that we approve of rather than seeking it out however they can because it’s being kept away from them and possibly stumbling across things that may send the wrong message, make them addicted, talking to people or bots online, things like that.
We have had conversations the last few years around their body being theirs and that no one should ask to see them naked, touch them, how consent is important always, and that being curious or having feelings is normal and not weird, etc.
I’m worried that we’re either being too proactive or missing something entirely that other parents know when it comes to giving their kids conversations or safe outlets.
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TLDR: are there any safe websites for an 11 year old that helps them to explore explicit nsfw content while they’re learning about attraction and their body? Or should we just avoid the situation entirely and just educate them on the science side while letting them find their own ways of exploring nsfw content??