Boyfriend giving silent treatment
I only have a basic understanding of “red pill” ideas, but my boyfriend considers himself very knowledgeable about them. We’ve been together for 4 years, and when we first met he was extremely fit and confident. Since then, he’s gained weight and become a bit chubby, while I’ve actually gotten fitter and feel more attractive than when we first met.
I think this change may have affected his confidence and the way he reacts emotionally.
To our present argument, yesterday he agreed to come to a gym class with me, so I signed us both up. Later, he got really upset and said he never agreed to go that day specifically. I told him, “Oops, no problem — I’ll just go on my own. My bad,” since I had already booked it. But instead of letting it go, he became even angrier and yelled at me and said I don't use my brain or think things through. He’s now been giving me the silent treatment for two days over it.
Another issue in our relationship is our sex life. I have a pretty high sex drive, and during the first two years of our relationship we would have sex multiple times a day. Now it’s more like three times a month. I also know he watches porn regularly, which I don’t think was happening earlier in the relationship.
So I guess my question is: are my expectations unrealistic? Am I doing something wrong? And is there a healthy way to rebuild the attraction, confidence, and connection we used to have?