I feel like every single person that has approached themselves to me are always users and manipulators. Either romantic or friendly, the person always uses me for something and then just tries to gain attention for their personal gain. Luckily I dont care and know how to not give people what they want, but its so fucking annoying and really pissing me off baaaadddddddd.
I am an ex-introvert lol I used to be very open and friendly and learned the hard way to not be. Generally I actually dont mind being in my own space, I enjoy myself and I have things to do with my time.
My example is that I used to be a very welcoming neighbor and learned that is how you get used and it causes problems like people getting mad when they cant use you anymore and start causing drama with your home. So now I make it a point to watch how friendly I am and create boundaries with everyone. I dont want to be bestfriends with my neighbors, we can be cordial and say hi and bye sometimes.
Whats so annoying now that I am constantly having people try to talk to me and get my number and all this extra shit thats so unnecessary and its clearly for some bullshit.
I barely talk to my neighbor and my fuckin neighbors ex’s family member (yes) just starts talking to me asking where i work and they just moved and asked for my number. Now why the fuck would you ask me to help you find a job, I dont know nor care about you NOR the mutual!! This is a constant issue. I am now at the point where I make sure that I am not overly friendly or overly suggestive to being friends and I am constantly getting approached and called on and its actually annoying me now because I do not want to be bothered!!
Now the dark side is about to come out and start barracading my front and screaming dont talk to me to everybody. I dont understand why people cannot just be cordial without trying to make everybody you meet into “family”. Not everyone is your friend!!
To make it worst I have kids so this doesnt help because for some reason everyone that has kids automatically thinks that other moms want to be your friend and thats not the case. We genuinely have zero in common.
I want to figure out how to turn my aura down.