u/Tech_turbist87

I’m an A/L student will face the exam in 2028 . I also attend tuition classes in Kandy every Saturday. Please read the whole post before replying. I’m not posting this for attention.I genuinely don’t know what to do ,I really need honest outside opinions about my family situation because I feel mentally stuck and confused.( I sent all the things to an ai and it made gramatical errors correct .And then I pasted it on reddit)

My dad had a very difficult past. When he was in Grade 10, his father became sick and he stayed back to care for him while his brothers went to work. After my grandfather passed away, my dad started working around 1999. Over time, he developed drinking habits and also supported many people who started living in our house and taking advantage of him. His brothers also used him financially, and later they even blamed my mom for many family issues, even though she was trying to fix the house and bring order.

When my mom got married into this house in 2007, the situation was chaotic outsiders living in the house, constant partying, and no proper control. She removed those people and tried to make the home stable. Because of this, my dad’s family (his brothers and grandmother) turned against her and created lies and conflict between my parents, which caused constant fights during my childhood.

I was born in 2009 and grew up in this environment. I faced a very stressful childhood where I was sometimes beaten or blamed without proper reason, especially when I tried to speak the truth unknowingly as a child. I completed my O/L exams in February 2025. My younger sister was born in 2015, and the fighting continued throughout our lives.

During my childhood, I often saw daily arguments, especially because of my dad’s drinking and family interference. If my dad didn’t answer calls after evening, it usually meant he was drinking. My mom tried very hard to stop this and protect the family, but she was constantly blamed by my dad’s side.

Over time, things improved a bit. Around Grade 6, I realized my mom was actually right about many things. Later, even my dad and his brothers understood that their mother (my grandmother) played a major role in creating manipulation and conflict in the family. My dad also reduced drinking after getting sick.

But the problems never fully ended. My mom is still emotionally affected by the past and sometimes brings up old issues, which leads to arguments again. I understand her pain, but it creates a very stressful home environment.Now I think they both are wrong She also sometimes becomes very emotional and later feels sad after fights.

Recently, I had a very bad moment where I completely lost control during a fight with my parents due to years of being blamed and not believed. Now they think I am the main problem in the house, even though I feel like I’ve been mentally affected by everything happening since childhood.

I also told all of this to a trusted tuition teacher and one of my mom’s sisters. However, at home I’m still blamed for “ruining their reputation” and creating problems. My mom sometimes compares me negatively to my dad, and I feel like my side is never fully understood.

Now I’m preparing for A/L in 2028 and attending classes in Kandy every Saturday. I want to focus on my studies and build my future, but the constant emotional stress at home makes it very difficult.

Since this year started I am feeling my life very different.

I used to spend my free time building DIY projects, programming, watching movies , listening to songs e.t.c

But,now I don't feel anything. It's like I lose my interest in everything.I feel like I am living in a dream .I can't feel any emotions . Like I am not happy anymore I am laughing by thinking I want to laugh. I don't like to do things I used to . I can't feel my studies and everything.When I am in class I am in a class but it's like I am in a dream or half awake. I can't solve a single thing But before I can solve questions without even thinking. Now , I can't do anything. I don't know what to do. I am scared of my future

My biggest concern is my younger sister. I don’t want her to grow up in the same environment I did. I want a peaceful home, but the cycle of conflict keeps repeating.

So I want honest advice:

Am I wrong in how I see this situation?

What should I do to handle my parents without making things worse?

How can I protect my future and my sister from this cycle?