Ex partner messing with my feelings
So, I’m honestly baffled and in need of advice whether to get rid of this person or just distance myself and continue a friendship.
For background, my ex and I split up last year - she wasnt over her previous partner and I had just came out of a very traumatic abusive relationship myself, so we ended things. When we recently got back in contact, I was only supposed to check in on her and then I’d be gone, but she ended up telling me she’d missed me and wanted to stay at least friends with me rather than me disappearing again.
Long story short, she is currently seeing someone which I only found out a few weeks into talking to her, at which point we’d been flirting a lot and she admitted she was confused about her feelings for me, she said she still really felt things for me but obviously she now has a partner. With this in mind, I decided for her partners interests It was best I put a stop to it and if she was confused, she needed to think about what she really wanted.
Since putting a stop to it, I made it clear that when she’s single again, I’ll be more than open to trying again. She still kept trying to flirt with me, however the past few days since cutting it out, she’s been quite off with me. She’s started talking non stop about her and her girlfriends sex life, rubbing their relationship in my face etc…even showing me love bites her girlfriends given her.
This is confusing for me because one minute she’s all over me, to the point I literally told her she needs to think about what she wants, now she’s acting like the perfect girlfriend as if a few weeks ago she wasn’t all over me…it has really hurt me because how can she act so cold and treat me and her Mrs like that? It doesn’t help that when I drew a line and stopped the flirting, she got upset and said she didn’t want me to stop and didn’t want me to leave..
I don’t want to give her the satisfaction of seeing that I’m upset about her being with someone else because even a close friend of mine has said she’s clearly upset I drew a line and wants to bring out that jealous side and how horrible it is for her partner who has no idea this has been going on, however it has really confused me not only for my own reasons, but because she’s been going behind her girlfriends back and is now acting like she’s all over her?
I’m thinking about just leaving it how it is because she’s clearly happy elsewhere and it’s obvious nothing is gonna happen between us, however it’s just confusing how she switches up so much. Did she really expect me to continue being her piece on the side while she’s in a whole relationship??