I uninvited myself from the wedding of who I thought was a good friend.
I was invited to wedding of what I thought was a best friend. I was invited to go dress shopping then she posted on sm that she had already done it without me. I was pretty understanding but, said to her you could have told be. I was invited to bachelorette party, but I am not in the wedding party, which is odd, and then they expected each of us that were invited to pay $1500 towards it without mentioning cost prior. I told her many months advance I could not do this plus travel and room expenses. She then bully shames everybody on the chat about not paying their share and that she is graciously covering her own room costs so they should pay their share. Ummm duh, you should be.
So, I told her I'm out. I didn't go to the wedding shower, bachelorette, or wedding after that. Besides travel, rooms were $500/night plus tthe bachelor/ette stuff. The day after the wedding she posts on FB pictures of her 1st wedding and that this was a "ceremony" wedding as they were married 6 months prior. Many felt duped. She had shamed me and others for not wanting to pay for an expensive fake bachelor/ette party, plus all the other expenses!!
It's an elaborate dupe. She could have had a reception party if she genuinely wanted to share the wedding news, without having others pay for things, and not lie to everyone.