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All the Punjabis here keep saying they're going to live with the parents and Punjabi women complain about having to take care of the in-laws and doing the man's chores.

However, I got a whole different question and problem that makes my head spin, how do these Punjabi couples live with the parents/in-laws when doing the deed or trying to be lovey dovey? We already hear stories of the son watching corn and Punjabi parents just walking in and seeing this. However, hook ups, dating, couples enjoying each other with in-laws in the house, impossible? How do you all date or be intimate during dating? where are you guys doing the deed because you can't just walk in with your gf/bf to your bedroom while your parents are there?

No f ing way it's just such a big taboo for me as a guy being with the parents while doing the deed all the time. I'm on moving out because of that.

I think the reason Punjabi couples break things off so rapidly and so quickly versus other backgrounds is that the men just look for servants for the in-laws and the bed game is terrible, parents are up in there businesses early on and the DIL is guilty, with these Punjabi men doing nothing in the bedroom or game. There's alot more to relationships than just live with the parents, take care of in-laws, work, and somehow have and raise kids. Relationships are everything about lovey dovey, do your in-laws and parents really need to join in on you going on your partner.

Moving out is essential.

I've been seeing countless posts and sentiment where Punjabi guys and girls just keep complaining about the other side. Like the "they're only going for money", "not loyal", etc posts from Punjabi guys while Punjabi girls are just living and getting by. Punjabi girls saying "eww ick" at height of guys, looks, newcomers, while complaining they can't find anyone while also seeking someone perfect.

I'm not saying your concerns aren't valid, but everytime I've come with the solution that the world doesn't revolve around your complaints of Punjabi guys or girls, I get called out. I post about opening the horizon to other backgrounds rather than complaining against a brick wall, but then I get called out for looking outside of the culture.

I feel like the new generation just sits online with lust towards social media influencer or actors/actresses and has zero clue about relationships. They just believe all the propaganda sold to them and do nothing to solve it because complaining on your couch/bed is easier.

Go work on yourself, open your horizons beyond just dating and complaining about Punjabis, go the gym, build yourself and you'll see an improvement in the matches you get.

No non-religious women is gonna marry a religious looking guy, I only got a handful of Punjabi ABCD girls around me and they aren't into me and I was abused by one, and I don't want to bring someone from India. Every single person has told me "no non-religious women is gonna marry a religious looking guy", so should I take off my sardar look and marry someone from a different culture? How screwed am I?

Everybody here knows that one of the largest differences between our parents generation and newcomer generation is that buying homes was pretty much the sole purpose of being here and building a future for our parents. Many family would take outrageous mortgages to buy the nicest or newest home and barely make it by, having a small Toyota Corolla and constantly staying at work to pay off the mortgage.

However, the new generation of newcomers is all about buying the nicest and biggest car, challenger, mustang, dodge, SUV, car, truck, whatever. They take out outrageous car loans to pay off the nicest cars and always stay renting.

What exactly led to this difference? Also, will newcomers stay renting when they have families since homes are so expensive?

I've been seeing alot of negative stuff on Punjabi influencers and creators but I wanted to highlight a positive for our community. Ig: onlyrandz is one of the most underrated Punjabi creators for Canadians and Americans right now and he's doing something behind the scenes that no one seems to pick up.

While most of his videos are random reaction videos and he just sits on his chair and rambles, he's using his platform to do something unheard of. Something that Punjabi Canadians desperately need.

Racism is rising on social media and groups are gathering equipment and stuff to use against minority and Punjabi Canadians. I've been looking into these accounts as well, who have their names and profiles all public without shame, and post videos and images of them gathering equipment to conduct acts on minority Canadians. However, there's been no resistance to their rise and the government turns a blind eye.

Canada is an interesting case where a coalition of the far right has gathered an entire agenda against desi Canadians and Punjabis, and have successfully split us off as "foreign third world culture", "can never be Canadian". Progressives and Liberals in Canada mostly do not defend against this and only speak against minorities when the minorities decide to speak up. Basically everyone is against us, the far right will target Punjabi Canadians, and when you raise your voice or act, Progressives and Liberals will then speak against you. It's a pretty bad situation.

Onlyrandz, despite being small, presents reaction videos to every racist's viral video against Punjabi Canadians, and provides a line of defence and says what every Punjabi Canadian wants to say. He uses his platform to actually use the same words and generalizations back at them. Even though this is highly controversial, people that lead by hate only listen to hate, and Onlyrandz defence has been effective.

In a recent post, Racist Canadians targeted desis for polluting waters and the progressives and Liberals joined in on the racism by saying "Desis don't belong, and that they're harmful to the environment", an agenda by Canadians to paint desis as "biological harm", it's really bad.

Onlyrandz flips the same script and generalizes their own against them, calling out hard drug abuse, the dangerous violence lead by them on the streets, and stuff on the sidewalks (basically the exact same lines they use against desis). Only randz keeps going and many racists take steps back; they listen to the stern words. I've started seeing this.

I felt like highlighting this creator and bring something postive to this sub.

27M, I knew being a Sikh Sardar that dating was going to be hard but holy hell, it feels impossible and now I'm just anxious and scared about it. I'm not religious and I eat meet but I love my identity and stuff being Sikh and unique. I knew I had to overshoot every quality and be far better than my competition to even be considered as a dude that sticks out like a sore thumb with a turban in a racist dating scene, but it hasn't worked.

You ever heard of the stories of dudes who hook up and play around and then settle for the traditional desi Punjabi home caretaker girl? Now flip the genders and I'm that dude that's probably settled with.

I always wondered, why do Sikh Sardars who eventually cut their hair always go for non-desi, out-of-race girls? Every case this happens, most recently even ig: princision cut his kesh and started dating a Latina. My friends and family who cut their kesh immediately get with gori or East Asian and they married them fairly quickly. Then someone told me it's because Sikh Sardars who cut their kesh know and have seen the real face of Punjabi girls and the real truth? Now I realize they were right.

I started talking to an ABCD Punjabi girl and thought I finally found the one, but holy hell, she abuses(d) me. There's so much mental abuse that I stopped talking and she just scares me. She knows I'm cornered as a Sikh Sardar and that I can't pull anyone, can't cheat, can't date out of race, so she expected me to be perfect and even prevented me from getting sleep and kept me stressed and constantly broke up with me. She's gorgeous af but the abuse is kinda harsh.

I'm 6'1, 210lbs, fit, really good hair genetics, Ice hockey hobby, really good career, 2 masters, good salary, very patient, can handle pretty much everything, super chill, good face, every single box, I thought I checked every box and I can get dates with gorgeous goriya but never ABCD Punjabi girls on Hinge (I've only been able to get one Punjabi abusive partner). Everyone in my line of career has insanely gorgeous partners and are having fun, and I'm the only single one. I feel like if I cut my kesh, I'll have the easiest victory in dating ever imagined, I can legit get good hair and pull as a model with every quality, I'd take anyone and settle, my dream is to have kids and stuff. It's virtually impossible to have a turban on your head and have a gori try to introduce you to her upper class family. On the other hand, ABCD Punjabi girl will corner you into a box because she knows you're turban means you can't pull, I know the real play.

You guys have no idea how insane hard it is to date, I don't want to cut my kesh and I also know that having a large turban on my head corners me to abusive Punjabi partners or prevents goriya or other races from introducing me to their friends and family because I look so orthodox. So I tested my own European concept theory, I'll do a manbun and not my kesh because I did that in Europe and I was pulling. I'll slowly transition into that in my early 30s and hope for the best. Having an abusive partner as a dude is just as bad, and that was harsh. I don't like my culture for what it is because I know the real face behind it.

For the Punjabi history geeks here, lots of Western societies and countries never talk about the Sikh Empire, and progressives today are still alot more conservative than the progressive politics of the Sikh Empire, which was hidden and abolished under the British Imperialist rule. The British won the war against the Empire and got to rewrite history, their community continue to lie and control the narrative because they want to paint foreigners as "third world" and "not all cultures are equal". They want Sikhs to look Conservative and orthodox religious fanatics. This history is hidden and the British influence remains through the border lines dividing this empire by religion today. However, I educated myself on the facts and visited museums in the UK and studied this. I wanted to sum it up, and I hope this makes it to other non-Punjabi audiences as well.

The Sikh Empire achieved it's progressive status by doing everything that was requested. To Summarise:

World Map of 1820, with Sikh Empire in Orange in Asia

It was the only Empire and 'country' in Human history where less than 5% of a demogaphic held control over an Empire consisting of 70% Muslims, 25% Hindu, and 5% Sikh. An estimated 12+ million people.

-Largest ever assemblage of multiple progressive Europeans and two Americans in one Empire including French revolutionaries of the 1790s (also noted as one of the most progressive).

Notable: Napolean's army generals, captains, and officers, Gardes du Corps du Roi, Ventura - Italian responsible for the modernization of the Sikh Empire, Spanish Liberals of the First Carlist War, Austrian/Transylvania Honigberger, American Colonel Alexander Gardner, influenced by US Civil War, American Harlan.

-Introduced protections for religions 2 centuries ago so all could practice any faith.

-First empire to set limitations on favored majority sensitivities regardless of reason, something that still does not exist for progressives today.

-Interfaith marriages and an end to religion, caste, or background dividing love.

-Women who ruled the Empire, Chand Kaur and Jind Kaur, and women led armies by Sada Kaur and Sahib Kaur.

-Granddaughters of the ruler of the start of the Empire (the men are wiped out of existence except for Duleep Singh).

-Princess Sophia Duleep Singh - helps women win the right to vote in the UK and develops the Women's Tax Resistance League.

-Catherine Duleep Singh - instrumental in saving Jewish populations in Nazi Germany (1997 discovery of Swiss bank account released at the insistence of Holocaust survivors)

-Protections for Liberal and Performing arts and the security for women who wanted to participate in it. (Moran Sarkar, Pul Kanjari a bridge built for a nautch girl.) Women today lack protection and support for such expressions in progressive nations.

-Merit-based salary and life, development of the salary system, and unionization of the working class. Led to the limitation of land revenue systems and higher salaries for increased government revenue. Does not exist in progressive societies today.

-Free press.

-End of death penalty and capital punishments.

-Largest welfare system ever developed (derived from Seva)

I can present lots of more findings but I insist Punjabis to read about our peak in history and take the time to learn about it. The British won the war and tried to rewrite it, but history can never be erased and the educated will seek it.

RTN GTA has released footage reporting on the capture of racist dude in Ontario who attacked and pushed around a Sikh elderly man and called him out for being here. The dude went on saying stuff like "why are you here" etc on another released footage before he was arrested by police. The capture consisted of a coalition of 4 students, I believe Punjabis and East Asian.

Source: https://www.instagram.com/p/DXmlbRgkXcT/

I went to Surrey, where all the Punjabis usually are for the Nagar Kirtan, Sikh festival procession, with 500,000+ people. I live on the Island and I barely see young ABCD Punjabis around me. I was surprised with the amount of goriya and East Asians with Punjabis at the event and so many Punjabis date out. I was confused. No one here talks about it as well.

The demographics and dating trends make zero sense, how do the Punjabi guys go out of there way to find Goriya and East Asian when Surrey legit has none. Where are they? There's none and somehow these dudes found them? Is it common and accepted? ABCD Punjabi girls don't even look Punjabi, how do they look so vastly different than Punjabis that arrive from Punjab?

I was shook, all the racists online be making fun of the city and stuff and I was so confused. ABCD Punjabi girls are attractive and these dudes are getting women from various backgrounds and the city is clean af. Online is all propaganda, y'all are lit. Sorry for my lack of culture and Punjabis, I legit don't see them and only hear about them online.