Found out my ex bf is married, should I tell the wife?
So I’ve been dating this guy on and off for 5 years. When we started dating he(29) told me(24) he was divorced. I had no reason not to believe him We worked together and had mutual friends and no one ever said anything to me. He was always very avoidant and I had a gut feeling he was cheating. Anytime I’d get too close and started asking questions why I hadn’t met his parents only his brother on a few occasions or why he stopped taking me out on dates he’d break up with me saying he couldn’t give me what I wanted. After almost 4 years of this back and forth and long periods in between hes now 33 and im 28 and both in different places in our lives to be playing games. Well we’ve been arguing a lot lately and he let something slip that gave him away immediately. He admitted to having a one night stand during one of our “off” periods and that she’s having a child. He’s moving across the country in two weeks for a new job and after much debate he finally came clean confessing it was actually his ex wife who he’d hooked up with. I obviously didn’t let it go and he eventually confessed to still being married to her. I am obviously devastated and don’t feel im in the right headspace to make such an important decision for someone else’s life. I’ve known now for 3 days and I can’t stop thinking about her. She’s moving across the country to a new place with no support and no friends for this man and with a child no less. If I were in her shoes I would want to know and feel she deserves to know but I can’t bring myself to destroy her life. What should I do?
Edit: I asked my mom for advice and she said just like I had a gut feeling he was cheating she likely does too. He told me they were married 8 years before their divorce so im assuming they’d be 13-14 years married by now. My mom thinks the wife knows what kind of man she married and best to leave it to God.