I would highly appreciate some pointers from straight ENTP ladies!
This will be kind of a long post so please bear with me. Keep in mind that English is not my first language and I don't know much about the Cognitive functions of the personality types, only the MBTI letters and what they mean.
I am an INFJ male (29) who is interested in an ENTP female (30), I have had my eyes on her from the shadows for a bit of time (about 5 years now, and yes she is still single), and I cant hold this thought in my head any longer, hence this post.
She is brilliant and very successful in her career, I am working on my self to be ready for marriage before asking for her hand (yes, I haven't talked to her at all, she probably doesn't know I exist). The problem here is that I am a little bit afraid of some of the conflicts that could arise in the relationship. Two of my siblings are ENTPs, I love them of course, but they drive me crazy in many ways especially the endless, fruitless, life-sucking discussions that go on for hours and NEVER end with them admitting they are wrong or understanding my point of view (seriously not a single time in 20+ years) it is as if the title of every discussion is "Hey, let me tell you why I am right"
Also, their chaotic nature is something that gets me overwhelmed as well, no matter how much I tidy the house and do all the chores to help my mother, they don't give a damn and do whatever they want. But most importantly, the lack of empathy and room-temperature emotional intelligence (although they claim they have extremely high EQ) make me want to jump from the building's rooftop.
What I want to know is some insight of the possibility of harmony/conflict in this dynamic. Everyone says ENTP-INFJ are the dream pair but no matter how much I think about it I dread the 1,046 scenarios that this could turn into a nightmare pair.
I have some general questions as well, I will try to list them down below:
As an ENTP lady, do you find a man with less achievements in their life compared to yours attractive ? I have many interests and hobbies to the point I cant even count them, but my career isn't that great (so far).
Does the idea of a man who doesn't like to lead -all the time- and make all the decisions, turn you away?
What was the main factor in you deciding to start a relationship with your partner?
Would it be a deal breaker if your partner was very affectionate/feeling type?
What could be the dream INFJ partner to you in a day-to-day basis?
Would you marry someone who has lower financial status? (all basic things covered of course but not so much the luxury things in life)
Please answer honestly, even if it is harsh.
I sincerely thank you for taking time out of your day to read this post! 🙏