Dressing Well - the better the fit the better you hit.
These are some observations/advice and the reasoning behind why dressing well is important for both alike. Hopefully this post helps someone. All the best you guys!
Day 1
- Dressing Well - the better the fit the better you hit
- "Hit" = Making a good Impression
In general, it is very difficult to change someone’s first impression of you so try to make it count in the beginning. The way you dress communicates to the world how to perceive you. It signals to the world and to those who reside in this world, humans, that you take yourself seriously and that you should be respected. That you woke up today and took the time to choose and represent yourself to the best degree in which you can. For example, you don't show up to a date or in an interview in pajamas so why not use that principle in everyday life. The principal is that first impressions matter and we subject our view of a person to our very first impression. Think of a person you don’t like at the first meeting, odds are their presentation of themselves had some sort of influence to a certain degree, now that is not to say the only factor. There was a time when I didn't dress seriously. Now this does not mean wearing a suit everywhere, this means simply tucking your shirt with trousers and dress shoes or simply having less logos on shirts and the more plain, but color coordinated/ thoughtout your fit the better you "hit". By hit I mean making a good impression. You start seeing that people treat you better. You walk into a store and you don’t get shoved off into oblivion. More people start holding doors for you, everyone starts calling you sir. They think you're important because you think you're important.
Principal in action. Imagine you're walking down the street. A man in garbage rags with no shoes, wearing tattered clothes waves to you and tries to ask you a question about directions. You already judged him in a matter of milliseconds. You avoid eye contact and keep walking. You judged he is homeless and thus it is wise to avoid him. Now you're walking again down the street. A man in a nice suit wave to you and tries to ask you for directions. You are way more likely to help him out. You judged him not to be a threat, all because he is well dressed. You associate the lack of clothes on the homeless guy as a means of burden. You associate it with uncleanness, lack of motivation, lack of a home and all other negative connotations. On the other hand the suit guy is subconsciously seen as put together and successful when he presents a polished look. You assume the man in the suit has more resources to share. Society has conditioned us in this survival of the fittest way whether we like it or not. First impressions and thus in turn dressing is associated with status. Now this is a natural bias. Who is not to say that the man in the suit is actually the real danger, the real monster, but in first impressions he is not.
Thus, appearances are a biological adaptation that we as humans have long adapted since the first early man in order to survive and for a woman to pick a mate. Who is a threat and who is not is judged in a millisecond. Who is a danger and who is not. Who should we associate with and who should we not. What look you're aiming for depends on which route you want to go with. Do you want a more serious corporate look ( shirt tucked in, shirt arms folded ¾ so that only ¾ of your arms are visible: giving a ready to go type of attitude) trousers, dress shoes) or a more casual look( jeans, sneakers and t-shirts) depending on your goals. The bottom line is whether it is dealing with women or people alike, everyone will judge you the moment they meet you, try to make the best impression. The way you also dress makes an impact.
Clothing Coordination
Clothes matter so dress the best you can and present yourself. Choose intentionally based on the occasion. If you are going to a fancy dinner don’t go in crocs, that is rather obvious. The colors and the combinations matter, style your wardrobe with colors that highlight and glow your skin tone.
Good Guides on Color Matching Fits.
1.0 - Credits: Barron Cuadro
effortlessgent.com/clothing-color-combos/
1.1 Credits: Ted Mitchell reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/comments/789ldf/an_indepth_guide_on_starting_to_dress_well/
1.2 Credits: Peter Nguyen
theessentialman.com/blog/mens-style-beginners
1.3 Credits: Peter Nguyen.
theessentialman.com/blog/best-clothing-color-skin-tone
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