u/TheGrumpyWriter

I was diagnosed with systemic Scleroderma earlier this year and it's been wreaking havoc on my lungs. I have fibrosis on both lungs and possible emphysema. I was wondering if anyone living here in Oklahoma might have some recommendations for a good pulmonologist to see?

I was supposed to see one a few months ago, but can't get a call back. I was hoping maybe someone could help me find a decent doctor. I have a hard time researching doctors because hardly any of them have actual honest reviews on their websites and I've had bad experiences with doctors before after supposed "good" reviews. I know everybody's definition of a decent doctor can be a little different, too, but I just need a place to start.

Thank you in advance!

Hello! I've never posted here, so I hope I've tagged and titled this correctly.

I'm an aunt to two autistic children under five years old. They're my sister's kids and we all live together with our parents. My nephew was diagnosed when he was almost 2 and my niece hasn't been officially diagnosed yet, but will be by her 2nd birthday. These past few years have been... well, eye-opening, to say the least as we all have been learning about autism and how to care for my niece and nephew's specific needs.

The reason I'm posting is to ask for any advice I can get on how to help explain/help our dad better understand his grandchildren. While the rest of us (my siblings, mom and I) have adjusted well to the kids' diagnosis, my dad has not. He comes from a family that's always been closed-minded about certain things, including autism, and we're struggling to explain to him why these kids are different from other kids.

I know every autistic child is a little different from each other, but is there anyone else who's had this problem and been able to bring their family member around?

He really loves his grandkids and they love him, but it gets very difficult not to get into arguments with him or to get him to understand that they can't be treated the way kids were treated when he was younger.

For example, he doesn't understand the way my sister disciplines them (which does NOT include spanking, to clarify) and argues constantly about it with her and our mom.

We're kind of at the end of the rope here and we could really just use any advice anyone has. Please.