u/TheWanderer44

A few things upfront to save you a long read: I’m a big but strong woman which seems to put off a lot of people, so do with that what you will. Not up for pen pals or long distance, and please be completely unattached and monogamous. Also be prepared to verify. Not comfortable sending pics over Reddit. I put a lot of thought into this so messages with only a handful of words won’t grab my attention.

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I’m a practical woman with a pinch of romance and whimsy. I’ll choose boots over heels, flannel over cashmere, and natural over makeup—but I’m not above a good pedicure or spending an entire day hunting for antique books and teacups to add to my collection.

I live in a 1939 farmhouse on a horse farm about 30 minutes from DC—20 horses I have the joy of occasionally caring for.
I’m direct, not abrasive—I just don’t see the point in tap dancing around things. I care about people, but I also believe everyone is responsible for their own reactions. I value growth and self-awareness, and I actively invest in both my mental and physical health. I can also be pretty mischievous and curiosity is a big motivator in my life. That self-awareness runs pretty deep—I know myself. I take responsibility and own it when I’m wrong. I don’t need to win when I’m right. I tend to feel things deeply and I’m very expressive. If I’m sad or pissed you know it, and if I’m passionate, well…you know that too.

My job is something I enjoy, but it’s not my identity—it funds a life I like to keep full (with the occasional night or two to recharge). And full looks like a lot of things. I coach a fast pitch softball team of girls looking to play in college. Adventure is catnip to me—it can be a road trip, a new experience, or a conversation that makes you think differently. I like having a robust community of friends, neighbors and loved ones. Someday I’d like to have a small homestead with chickens and dogs. I value teaching and giving back.

I love making things—leather, wood, glass, paint, thread, metal, gemstones. I teach leatherwork occasionally at a local community center, spreading the love of a lesser known craft. And I like being in nature in a slow, intentional way: gardening, wandering, or doing absolutely nothing in a hammock.

I’m not into living life through a screen. I like a good show (especially documentaries) as much as the next person, but when the weather is nice, I wanna be outside. I’m really looking for someone who wants to share real experiences, hands-on hobbies, and meaningful time together—someone who thinks a perfect day includes building something with your hands while we chat about life, then topping it off with one of us playing a prank on the other and laughing ’til our faces hurt.

When it comes to a partner, I’m into men who show up strong—confident, capable, masculine energy that knows how to take the lead but also when to step back. I got a thing for someone who is protective but knows I can stand on my own two feet. And especially someone who notices the details. Bonus points if you can swing a hammer, start a fire, or reverse a trailer without breaking a sweat. Physically we all have a type but it’s less important to me but I’m a sucker for broad shoulders, a deep voice and a hairy chest. Trust is paramount in a relationship—there is no intimacy without it. Reciprocity, passion, integrity, loyalty and communication matter just as much.

I’m comfortable in my own skin and just as comfortable in my own company—I’m not looking for someone to complete me. I want someone to stand next to, by choice, not necessity. I’ve done a lot of work on myself and I’ll keep doing it—growth isn’t a destination for me, it’s just how I move through life.