r/R4R40Plus

What's that all about?

I used to make detailed posts about what I'm looking for but tbh these days I'm just open minded about everything. So I just want to make hassle free connections, hopefully leading to in person meets for days out, pub lunches/dinners, movie nights etc and if that turns into something casual or serious that's a bonus.

I've got a family gathering later. I'll be hiding in the lounge with my Dad whilst the rest of the family shout over each other so some company would be appreciated.

Interests are aviation, history, true crime, comedy, animals, charity volunteering & these days I just like hanging out with good people, a nice pub garden in the summer, snuggling up at home with that special person etc. Tried SUP but have no balance. 

I’m here looking for dialogue.

When you work seven days a week and still can’t pay the bills, when you see nothing but more of this down the road, when you’re middle-aged, divorced, born and bred in a world that no longer exists, when AI has already replaced one of your jobs and is about to replace your second, and when you finally accept that you’re probably not going to be able to retire and will most likely work until you drop, you might find yourself asking, what’s the point of all this?

It’s in these moments that a lot of people find joy in family and loved ones. Their connections. When you’re like me, and you sort of live on the outskirts of society, and you don’t fit in, and when the dating world is like it is now and not like it was in the 90s when you started dating… you begin to realize there’s a real possibility that you may never be loved again. Sure, you can learn to love yourself. Though for some people that is a challenge. But when you accept that life is going be like this, a hamster wheel with no end every month a calculation, every day for survival… maybe you go home alone you begin to wonder what the point of living is really. Can a life be built around Netflix?

Even if you find a way to do good during your day and somehow benefit even just one person‘s life each day, you’re still going home and not talking about it to anybody.

Is this as good as it gets?



Adulting feels heavy sometimes so let’s hang out and pretend we’re still young and cool and we don’t give a  #%*! about home insurance premiums or scheduling our next oil change. 

Tomorrow evening I’m going to haphazardly throw on my most attractive old pyjamas, apply a healthy layer of Korean snail-slime wrinkle cream and firmly plant myself in front of a fan with my hair billowing around me like an 80s music video. Join me! Tell me what’s happening in your world and let me cheer you on for the day!! …  or we can grab snacks and talk shit about Karen in accounting; you choose. Either way I’m team you. 

I am perfectly average in every way, my love language is pasta and I would be the first person the survivors of a zombie apocalypse ate due to my complete lack of practical skills. What kind of car do I drive? Not a clue but it’s grey if that helps. 

And with that description how could this NOT be a good time?! Grab your sweat pants, sink into the sofa and let’s chat! 

*discliamer*  I’m not from the Instagram generation and my amateur modelling game is weak. The best I can offer is a badly lit photo with an awkward expression and the aforementioned hair billowing to verify.

Hi! Happy 4th! :) Would love to chat and exchange a pic with a great single guy over 30. :)

Please let me know your age, where you're from, and whether you're single in your intro. Looking forward to hearing from you! :)

This weekend is my birthday, and instead of spending it scrolling endlessly, I figured I'd see if Reddit can surprise me.

I'm 6'0", HWP, retired military, now working as an executive in cybersecurity. I enjoy woodworking, cooking, fishing, road trips, and spending time outdoors with my dogs, chickens, guineas, geese, turkeys, and bees. I'm just as happy building a table in the garage as I am grabbing dinner or getting lost on a back road.

I'm looking for someone who values honesty, kindness, and good conversation, and reading.

I'm not expecting to find my soulmate over a weekend, but I'd love to meet someone who enjoys talking throughout the day and seeing where things go. Whether it turns into a friendship, something more, or just a great conversation, I'm open to it.

If any of this sounds like someone you'd enjoy getting to know, send me a message. Tell me something interesting about yourself, your favorite place you've traveled, or what you're currently reading! Hopefully this birthday comes with a few good conversations

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

Adventure 1: a holiday weekend chat buddy, maybe some voice chats over the weekend, to get me through some tedious cleaning, and to get you through whatever you've got going on. Witty banter. Conspiracy theories. Life stories. Dad jokes. Movie critiques. Whatever you can throw my way. If you're into board games and can toss me a round or two on Board Game Arena bonus points.

Adventure 2: LD penpal with views on a tourism exchange. Let's write each other over the long term, get to know one another deeply, visit each other's cities, make some plans! We don't have to be lovers, but we have to be friends. You're curious, open-minded, interesting, down to earth, and active.

Adventure 3 (France and Belgium only) Lovers. Passion. Romance. Week-end meet-ups, exploration. You're single, curious open-minded, down to earth, emotionally intelligent, and a gentleman.

Hi there,

I’m a Singaporean Chinese female in my 30s, single, never married, dated once. Life has been good in many ways, but I’ve come to appreciate that the best experiences are often the ones shared with someone who genuinely cares about you.

I’m hoping to meet someone who values meaningful conversations, mutual respect, and the simple joys of everyday life. Someone to share small wins with, laugh about random things, explore new places, enjoy good food, and create memories together.

I believe companionship isn’t about grand gestures all the time. It’s about having someone who adds value to your life, and knowing that you do the same for theirs. Being each other’s safe space, supporter, and favourite person to message at the end of the day.

Effective communication is non negotiable. I would prefer to avoid an avoidance attachment. Looking for relationship with DDlg arrangement.

Fancy chatting to another little weirdo on Reddit?
Want to play Two truths, one lie?
I’m here for it…
Here for you

I’m not sure what to do with this information. So, tell me something weird about you!

Brief about me: cat lady, no kids, 5’7” curvy/bbw maybe? Idk, brunette/blue eyes/glasses/freckles, indie hipster mixed with punk mixed with emo (not much of the lamer emo, iykyk), nerdy enough to play dnd regularly but not nerdy enough to play video games on the regular (I only own an original NES), I like trivia and watching movies.

Edit: guys a cake day is an anniversary on reddit, not a birthday (that’s an IRL cake day) 🙃

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee,
Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close.whether it’s friendship or romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!! Seems like all men want to talk about is sex with someone they don’t know !
Would be nice to have a convo that isn’t about that and someone who is normal. Gotta be someone out there!

I posted something yesterday and then deleted it. Let me know if you're interested in the above mentioned sort of interaction, thank you for your attention to this matter :)

...rather than "diving" back in.

I've used Reddit before with some luck. I've actually made some long term friends here, but am back to see if it can work out again. I've posted a week or two ago, but feel I need to tweak my post a bit.

Figured I'd give it another go 'cause dating apps suck and I'd rather have conversations than swiping pictures. Sometimes, it's really not about your "best pic". It's who you are as a "person" and your life goals.

Quickly about me, DWM, older kids (all adults at this point), stable job/good career (I'm a bit of a workaholic right now, this won't be forever, it's keeping me busy) - Oh, standard build, average dad'ish bod, 5'10", blue eyes, shaved head, goatee, on the gray side...

I love to laugh, hang out with friends, walking the town, comedies and shows. I like being outside. I like having the windows open, this time of year is my time of year (before it gets humid). I do like the outdoors. I like getting near water (not just a pool).

Looking for conversations first... I'm in no rush. It's like getting into a good habit, takes time. Hoping to find someone in the southeastern part of Pennsylvania or nearby like southern New Jersey, northern Delaware or even northeast Maryland.

I am looking for something that could turn into long term. I'm hoping to find someone close-ish but if the conversation is interesting the travel would be worth it.

I'm pretty chill and if it doesn't work out, I respect it and move on.

It has come to my attention that wandering through bookstores, collecting beautiful thoughts, staring dramatically into desert sunsets, and discussing literature with strangers has not, in fact, caused a husband to materialize.

Therefore, I've decided to take direct action and write this post. 😏
About me:

Reader of large novels and small omens. Collector of playlists. Admirer of desert skies. Occasionally found discussing astrology, mythology, literature, symbolism, or writing vignettes. Fragrance lover, stylish and attractive.
Equal parts romantic, observer, dreamer, and chaotically unhinged.

About you:

You have interests. Actual interests. The more pretentious the better.

You have passions and enjoy sharing them.

You ask questions because you genuinely are curious.

You can flirt, communicate, make plans, and survive a conversation that goes beyond "wyd."

You possess that increasingly rare combination of imagination and follow-through.

This is not a search for a pen pal, a texting buddy, or a man who appears every three weeks with a "hey stranger."

This is a search for someone who still believes great relationships are built deliberately and that romance deserves a future.

I've realized I'm no longer searching for endless possibilities.

I'm searching for one man who makes the possibilities feel endless.

To start tell me about yourself, share a song that you feel resonates with who you are, or a book quote that moved you.

Wanted: interesting person to chat with.

Must be: open-minded, kind, respectful, intelligent, 40+, single, willing to meet if we hit it off (even as friends), and at least a partial geek.

I am not looking for all day, every day messages (interesting people are too busy for that) or an actual relationship. If you're hoping for either, I'm not your person. Just hoping to find a like minded man for occasional conversations. Tell me a bit about yourself and let me know what you're looking for here.

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)