r/R4R40Plus

Currently bored in my hotel and looking for someone to talk to. Not a fan of small talk so let’s have actual conversations about whatever’s on your mind!

Hey, I’m just another random Redditor looking to connect with someone.

Me:
Central time zone
Work first shift and cannot reliably chat during day hours. Some days are less busy but in general pretty busy so mostly after 5pm my time.
I am an early to bed early to rise.

I was a club kid in the 90s, my town had a teenage dance club so I did that from 16-18. Started working at Long John Silvers in high school and wasn’t sure what to do when I graduated so I worked closing shift and then hit the gay club. They had the best music and also no one cared if you couldn’t dance. It was a great time for a bi girl. Had lots of fun with that but went to college after 4 years of just messing around. Was active with gay rights, domestic violence causes, BDSM community for a while.

Got married, had kid (still at home for a little longer), got divorced, life went on. Had a career in research for 22 years. Transitioned to a hospital lab doing genetics work a year ago. Love it.

I like to go to the gym. It’s good stress relief. I’m also trying to keep my body looking okay as I lose weight. I’m down 25 and have 40 to go. I failed glp-1s, did you know they don’t work for 12% of people? So just CICO.

I binge watch tv and movies. Like scifi, rom-com, action the most, hate horror. For music I like pop, r&b, hip hop. I still buy music and don’t have any streaming music besides the radio station.

I drive a sensible car. I dress casual when not in scrubs. I rarely wear make up. I’ve kind of given up on finding someone to end up with so I’m just kinda bored and want to have a friend I can talk about my day with. Maybe watch movies with. We can talk about whatever. I am not looking for a JO partner, please do not respond if that’s your goal.

You:
Single, I feel weird about texting with married men, it’s a boundary, please respect that.

Available for texting here or discord during the evening (maybe a little during the workday). Think it might be fun to make a friend and want to get to know someone. Can hold a conversation. Think we might have similar interest or values. Hopefully close to my age, not a hard limit but if you’re too young I don’t know what we’d have in common.

I'm at a point where I'd really like to meet someone I can feel close to. I've been single for a long time, and even though I'm good on my own, I'd love to share life with the right person. I'm shy in person, so meeting people has been hard for me. I'm hoping for something that can grow into a romantic, long-term relationship.

I like someone thoughtful, kind, and honest. I care a lot about how people treat each other, and I'm happiest around someone who can be present and real. I'm a transgender woman, and I'm looking for someone who's fully comfortable with that.

Neurodivergence doesn't bother me. If you're autistic, have ADHD, or just feel a little different in how you're wired, we might even understand each other better.

I try to eat healthy and stay fit, but I'm not obsessive about it. I'm a non-smoker and non-drinker, but coffee is absolutely my vice. I like dogs more than cats, although I don't have any pets myself, and I'm a night owl.

My style is lowkey and simple. I like weekend drives, thrift shops, bookstores, coffee dates, and quiet walks. I'd especially enjoy meeting someone with a nerdy hobby, like ham radio, homelabbing, or maker-type projects.

I'd rather be home than go out. I love old films, especially French and Italian films, and mellow jazz (Chet Baker, Coleman Hawkins, Bobby Hackett). I'm a fan of cozy candlelit evenings and that quiet lazy-afternoon feeling. I enjoy learning new things and tinkering with tech. Peaceful days beat chaotic ones for me.

I'm hoping to meet someone in Arizona, since that's where I live. I'm only interested in someone who is truly single, so if you're married, even if it's complicated or effectively over, we're not a match. I'm also generally most attracted to men older than I am.

If it sounds like we might get along, I'd love to hear from you :)

This is not the adulthood I signed up for, but things never go the way they are planned. I don't ask for much - I have a good simple life, but I miss conversations. I mean, getting to know each other often starts simply but I miss the stories. I want the essay of what happened that one summer at Grandmas and why blueberries make you sad. I have stories too, I promise. Some are hilarious, some are sad - and I can tell them to someone who asks more than "what are you up to?". I am a creative heart bored with the mundaneness and madness of reality hoping for something more that "wyd". Please be ok with flirting, sarcasm and self-depreciating humor. It's, like, all I know anymore.
Thank you for your time.

Im from wva. No kids. Disabled the last few years .I'm laid back,I cuss too much, and I am stubborn. I dont have time for games or bullshit. Im a hillbilly country girl. Im not pretty, and I'm tomboyish. But im loyal asf, and i have a lot of love to give. I dont know what I'm looking for, but let's see where it goes. If you aren't loyal or are only looking for hookups, I'm definitely not your girl. Please be in the USA 🇺🇸

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

Good morning beautiful souls! I’m starting my day with hope and perhaps foolish optimism. I’ve been searching for that spark, a genuine connection, a deep love. I still haven’t found what I’m looking for. Maybe I waited too long, maybe I was caught up in achieving career goals, and missed my window. So I’m turning to the interwebs, and Reddit, to find my person or at least have some good chats that lead to coffee. I’m emotionally and financially stable and vibe best with the same. I love learning, reading, volunteering, the beach, and traveling. I get along best with men with bachelors or higher who are active in mind and body. Me: Indian-American, petite, fit (ish), dark hair and eyes.
Happy to swap pics if you are as well!

A few things upfront to save you a long read: I’m a big but strong woman which seems to put off a lot of people, so do with that what you will. Not up for pen pals or long distance, and please be completely unattached and monogamous. Also be prepared to verify. Not comfortable sending pics over Reddit. I put a lot of thought into this so messages with only a handful of words won’t grab my attention.

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I’m a practical woman with a pinch of romance and whimsy. I’ll choose boots over heels, flannel over cashmere, and natural over makeup—but I’m not above a good pedicure or spending an entire day hunting for antique books and teacups to add to my collection.

I live in a 1939 farmhouse on a horse farm about 30 minutes from DC—20 horses I have the joy of occasionally caring for.
I’m direct, not abrasive—I just don’t see the point in tap dancing around things. I care about people, but I also believe everyone is responsible for their own reactions. I value growth and self-awareness, and I actively invest in both my mental and physical health. I can also be pretty mischievous and curiosity is a big motivator in my life. That self-awareness runs pretty deep—I know myself. I take responsibility and own it when I’m wrong. I don’t need to win when I’m right. I tend to feel things deeply and I’m very expressive. If I’m sad or pissed you know it, and if I’m passionate, well…you know that too.

My job is something I enjoy, but it’s not my identity—it funds a life I like to keep full (with the occasional night or two to recharge). And full looks like a lot of things. I coach a fast pitch softball team of girls looking to play in college. Adventure is catnip to me—it can be a road trip, a new experience, or a conversation that makes you think differently. I like having a robust community of friends, neighbors and loved ones. Someday I’d like to have a small homestead with chickens and dogs. I value teaching and giving back.

I love making things—leather, wood, glass, paint, thread, metal, gemstones. I teach leatherwork occasionally at a local community center, spreading the love of a lesser known craft. And I like being in nature in a slow, intentional way: gardening, wandering, or doing absolutely nothing in a hammock.

I’m not into living life through a screen. I like a good show (especially documentaries) as much as the next person, but when the weather is nice, I wanna be outside. I’m really looking for someone who wants to share real experiences, hands-on hobbies, and meaningful time together—someone who thinks a perfect day includes building something with your hands while we chat about life, then topping it off with one of us playing a prank on the other and laughing ’til our faces hurt.

When it comes to a partner, I’m into men who show up strong—confident, capable, masculine energy that knows how to take the lead but also when to step back. I got a thing for someone who is protective but knows I can stand on my own two feet. And especially someone who notices the details. Bonus points if you can swing a hammer, start a fire, or reverse a trailer without breaking a sweat. Physically we all have a type but it’s less important to me but I’m a sucker for broad shoulders, a deep voice and a hairy chest. Trust is paramount in a relationship—there is no intimacy without it. Reciprocity, passion, integrity, loyalty and communication matter just as much.

I’m comfortable in my own skin and just as comfortable in my own company—I’m not looking for someone to complete me. I want someone to stand next to, by choice, not necessity. I’ve done a lot of work on myself and I’ll keep doing it—growth isn’t a destination for me, it’s just how I move through life.

I’m a single mom to a special needs kiddo and a Midwestern transplant that currently lives in Southeastern TN.

Physically, I’m 5’2, pear shaped, plus sized and tattooed. Happy to exchange pics!

I’m a dabbler who loves going to the movies, going to shows, board games, stargazing, trying new restaurants, spending time with friends by a fire pit or reading in my hammock.

I’m funny, smart, and kind and I expect the same in return.

Overall, I’m not expecting to find a connection that actually leads anywhere, but it’s something I’m very open to and have room for in my life if I ever find someone worthy of that. But we’re all a bunch of
Islands and I’ll take building community anywhere I can. Also, I would really love to voice chat because I just think that’s the best way to get to know someone when you’re not able to meet right away in person and I do have discord for that.

If you’d like to chat, feel free to send me a message with a bit about you and we can see if we vibe 😊🖤

Before you message me, if your starter consists of being tall, hung, athletic and having a prestigious job then I will instantly assume there is something wrong with you and won't respond because why would you resort to Reddit for female contact despite such credentials? So to have a decent conversation I don't need to know if you are any of these or not for that fact.

Being a nurse is rewarding but can be stressful at times as well and after covering some shifts for coworkers I'm finally home and want to destress a bit with a nice conversation. Overall I'm not after anything specific so if the conversation goes from mild to wild ultimately depends on whom I'm talking to but if you feel inclined to message me, please add your asl and something interesting, otherwise i won't respond as I don't want to be the only one putting in effort.

Well, did you? It's honestly one of my favorite questions.. whether it be a friendship or more. The moment someone asks for me to let them know I got home okay, my heart turns into bread pudding.

I am not looking for love currently but maybe an overbearing & meaningful friendship and the universe can decide the rest. I love to text, share photos, playlists, voice notes, etc.. but I love it. If you'd be bothered by daily conversation or don't want to engage in it, I'm not your gal..er, friend?

I am divorced and a parent, I am finding what peace really means to me currently and the weight it carries.

I want to add to my curated peace, a good friend, perhaps of the male variety.

Because that's me. I can talk your ear off. I'm terrible at asking questions (and no desire to mask tonight), so I encourage you to share freely about yourself rather than waiting for me to ask questions! I'm excellent at random tangents, talking endlessly about my latest hyperfixation, and just generally have plenty of ADHD charm to go around if that's you sort of thing. Hanging out tonight, ordering dinner, and reading is my plan. So feel free to message me and see if you can distract me from my Kindle :P

Before you message me, if your starter consists of being tall, hung, athletic and having a prestigious job then I will instantly assume there is something wrong with you and won't respond because why would you resort to Reddit for female contact despite such credentials? So to have a decent conversation I don't need to know if you are any of these or not for that fact.

Being a nurse is rewarding but can be stressful at times as well and after covering some shifts for coworkers I'm finally home and want to destress a bit with a nice conversation. Overall I'm not after anything specific so if the conversation goes from mild to wild ultimately depends on whom I'm talking to but if you feel inclined to message me, please add your asl and something interesting, otherwise i won't respond as I don't want to be the only one putting in effort.

Nerdy lovergirl looking (again--this time's the charm, right!?) for an online, chubby, homebody boyfriend to watch horror and 80s movies with. Maybe the new season of HotD or Alien Earth when it comes out? I'm open to playing some MMOs together if you're a gamer. Want to hear you tell me about lore, or your latest fantasy/sci fi read. You know. Nerd things. EVENTUALLY, I'd like the possibility to translate this to irl to exist in some -->>fuzzy-future<<-- if we end up working out.

If you write to me, please include a solid physical description, which horror or 80s movies you'd like to show me, and just a bit of reassurance that you think we're what each other is looking for. I'd love a link to your own personal ad if you have one up. These blank profiles lately are sure something.

Status-Married in a miserable deadbedroom. Separate lives. Separate everything. Only reach out if you're in a dead bedroom/dead relationship as well or mayyybe if you're divorced or widowed.

Looks-Chubby but I have a waist. There's a fully clothed, SFW pic on my profile that gives a vague body outline. Because, come on. The word chubby is somewhat subjective these days I suppose. Very casual with it but I'm still a bit alt. as in my vibe's hippie/goth/witchy. Super crunchy. No hairdye, fragrance, or makeup. On occasion, I do like to dress up with fishnets and tall docs. And a few months out of the year here and there I have tasteful dreads braided into my hair. Sexually, I'm vanilla but also a switch only if you're into those things.

Lifestyle- I like peace and quiet so own a home away from annoying neighbors. Professional WFH career. Granny hobbies. Audiobooks. Not religious and only care about Christmas anymore really. Politically my main concern is with making sure fellow citizens are cared for. I avoid hateful people. Horror is my main special interest. Two independent older teens. More on my profile.

You: Big, hairy, chubby man. Please don't message me if you're fit or skinny. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, but I've tried before and the sparks don't fly physically. Either you're already into horror movies, or are getting ready to be! I'd prefer you WFH like me, but it's not a dealbreaker as long as you're not a social butterfly in general. I'm not a travel partner and am not one for going out. Insert the meme. Whatever it is, we have it at home lol. Please don't message me if you have school aged children. Older, independent teens or adult children, fine.

I don't have a set sleep schedule because I don't have to set an alarm in the morning for work anymore. I live in the US in EST. Canada, US, EU, UK are all places I'm awake enough during evening hours to make it work. Oh! I don't keep reddit open all the time, but check it a couple times in the late afternoon and late evening in terms of checking my inbox.

Ok, here goes….I have tried, I have tried to find just the “flavor of the day” or the play partner of the week and while I have had more than my fair share of success it just isn’t me….

Full transparency, I lost my partner a few years back to a heart defect. I have mourned, I have yelled, I have bargained with the powers that be and nothing….

It is time, I am ready for, and desperately miss having someone, knowing that person better than they know themselves, the moments most take for granted, I need that!

Now, I am a Dom, have been since before I knew what a Dom was. So yes, I am wired a bit differently than maybe most guys on here BUT I also think that part of me gives me a lot to offer that maybe some one may want (masculine, old fashioned, I know what side of the side walk to walk on, you won’t ever touch a door handle or pick up a check and on and on)

So yeah, I tried being Mr. Cool guy, it didn’t fit. I want what I want and am hoping (even though it is the longest of long shots) to find that ONE…

Ok now the stats:

47, built, very broad shoulders and chest, veiny arms, bearded (not Santa Clause), 6’2”, 240 pounds, wicked sense of humor and have lived enough to have the scars to show for a misspent youth and adult hood that took me awhile to figure out….

Anyways, there it is and hope this works….