u/TheWaywardJellyBean

Is this normal at daycares?

We went to tour this week for a spot in a daycare's infant room. When we saw the infants outside, one was crying quite hard, snotty nosed and red faced. There were 3 eces for the 8 babies as they were getting ready to move inside. They were ignoring her aside from moving her out of the way and weren't interacting with the infants. She was left to cry alone on the ground the whole time we were outside. I asked about it and was told she always cries like when she sees an ece from a toddler room and her mom is aware of the situation. They said normally they are responsive to crying but the situation didn't sit well with me and worries me that if my baby cries they won't respond.

What are your thoughts as ECEs? It upset me seeing them ignoring a crying baby when the others were all calm. Is this too big a red flag? The daycare seemed great otherwise. I also have the option of my MIL caring for my baby at home but worried she will be overwhelmed. We feel lucky to have been offered a spot as daycares have huge waitlists here. I put him on lists when I was 10 weeks pregnant and this is the only daycare I have heard from so far. I am worried if we don't take it we won't get a toddler spot later on.

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u/TheWaywardJellyBean — 3 days ago

Already dreading returning to work [NS]

I am already struggling with the thought of returning to work at 12 months. I hate when I looked up feelings related to returning to work they all mentioned maternal separation anxiety. It feels wrong to pathologize mourning being there for your baby and having to be away from them 5 days a week. We had a rough start when he was a small baby (he had a lot of feeding issues and my sole focus was him) but now we have so much fun every day. I love seeing him learn and grow. I wish I could work part time but can't due to our mortgage. I get extremely sad at the thought of having to return to work and not being there for so many moments. Seeing him be silly, interacting with the world and learning new things. How do moms prepare themselves for this?

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u/TheWaywardJellyBean — 1 month ago