Roasting me? Go for it

Data Scientist (Individual Contributor) & believer in keeping it 100.

Habits: Smoke a couple of times a day, hit the gym regularly.

The Catch: I'm terrible at opening up to people right away. (It takes me a while to process things—sometimes quick, usually painfully slow.)

The Good News: Once we actually click, you definitely won't be bored. (At least, I think so. 🤔)

PS - I’m not looking for a partner for my physical comforts so no range is applicable into this companionship but it doesn’t mean I’m gonna date a teen(against my ethics) .
So if you think we are good and match enough to
Challenge each on the dimensions of seeing things I’m in love already.

A lot of women claim they want a "good guy," but their actions prove they actively avoid them—and it’s tragic to watch.
I live in an apartment complex, and directly across the courtyard, I can see straight into the opposite window. For the past few months, I've watched a genuinely sickening cycle play out.
The girl who lives there is stunning—stunningly beautiful, impeccably well-spoken, and always polite whenever we cross paths in the lobby or coming back from work. She carries herself with absolute grace.
And yet, I have literally watched her partner stand over her and throw punches directly at her face.
It completely breaks your brain. You look at her and think: How is someone so put-together, so bright, and so clearly capable of being an incredible partner stuck with a violent monster?
The "Good Guy" Paradox
It brings me to a broader, highly controversial observation about modern dating dynamics that people are too afraid to say out loud: A massive segment of women say they want a "good guy," but when a genuinely good guy is standing right in front of them, they are bored to tears.
Let’s define the modern "good guy" archetype that gets constantly friendzoned or ignored:
He doesn’t speak much (he’s quiet, observant, and introverted).
He doesn’t drink or smoke (he values a clear head and clean living).
He is hyper-focused on his career and professional growth.
He takes his physical and mental well-being seriously (gym, fitness, discipline{well I’m quite bad at being disciplined}).
To many women, this exact profile is labeled as "boring," "intense," "too serious," or lacking "spark/chemistry."
Meanwhile, volatile, unpredictable, high-drama partners get endless second chances because the chaos gets mistaken for passion. The quiet, disciplined guy who goes to the gym, works hard, and avoids vices doesn't provide the emotional roller coaster that some people are unfortunately conditioned to crave.
The Cost of Chasing the "Spark"
When you prioritize constant excitement, red flags get disguised as "bad boy charm" or "intensity." By the time the reality sets in—like the kind of brutality I’m forced to witness across a courtyard—the damage is already done.
If you are a woman reading this who genuinely wants a stable, peaceful, loyal life: Stop dismissing the quiet, disciplined guys who take care of themselves. They might not have the flashy, toxic "rizz" of someone who lives on the edge, but they actually know how to build a life, regulate their emotions, and treat a partner with respect.
Because right now, too many amazing women are choosing chaos over consistency, and the price they pay for it is devastating.