r/IrishDates

So I’m a financial analyst earning 100k plus, everything is good, paying my taxes etc. I’d love to have some Irish friends or in particular some Irish girlfriend. I know they arent really interested in brown guys from Pakistan. I hate how we are generally perceived. I’m not typical muslim Pakistani guy, I drink at times and enjoy beer occasionally. But it gets very lonely as I don’t know anyone here except my colleagues who are too old to hangout with.
Any suggestions besides “go back”? Thanks

I’m 41F , I have two autistic kids, I know there’s someone in the same situation and lost every possible hope to connect with someone, we live in a society where people love the looks, money, healthy bodies and minds, but not everyone is so lucky to have all of that, being just simple minded person is not popular anymore…

So I’m a financial analyst earning 100k plus, everything is good, paying my taxes etc. I’d love to have some Irish friends or in particular some Irish girlfriend. I know they arent really interested in brown guys from Pakistan. I hate how we are generally perceived. I’m not typical muslim Pakistani guy, I drink at times and enjoy beer occasionally. But it gets very lonely as I don’t know anyone here except my colleagues who are too old to hangout with.
Any suggestions besides “go back”? Thanks

Somewhere between my 30s and now, I went from "cleaning is a chore" to genuinely rubbing my hands together on Sunday morning like I'm about to defuse a bomb, except the bomb is dust on the skirting boards. Music on, hoover out, and by 2pm the house looks like a show home nobody asked to view.

I used to think this was a red flag. Now I'm wondering if it's actually a green one, proof I can be trusted not to leave a pizza box marinating on the coffee table for a week. Somebody validate me here. Is "gets weirdly happy vacuuming" a personality trait people find attractive, or is this just what happens to men once we stop pretending we're still 25?

Asking for a friend. The friend is me. The friend needs rescuing...

Bonus points if you also find a spotless kitchen unreasonably attractive.

I’m 28, civil servant, thought I’d give this a go as the apps are horrific.

I’m blonde, and tall (6’3). I’m a post op trans woman but don’t make a big deal of it. I have a busy life but I’m looking for someone to chill with and have a good time on the weekends.

SOOooooooooo, I'm not sure if I even really want to post here, the thought of putting myself out to internet strangers is a bit scary!

But I am wondering, are there men out there, who are genuine, looking for something serious ( eventually - no rush - but just not looking for casual/wasting each others time)

Like, real romance, actual love, that is built slowly & healthily..

I have a busy life, in the sense of I still have things I need to build for myself, I've taken 2 years since my last relationship to just completely focus on myself,

I am genuinely happy with my life, and don't feel like a relationship is a NEED,

and yet - I would LOVE, to meet someone who is on a similar level,

I'd love to meet someone who's physically fit (within reason like) - ie wants to do fun/active things with me!

I love being active/am quite playful, and am starting to get a bit more serious re physical training - nothing crazy, mainly for the love of movement and wanting to build on that,

I love dancing/music/various outdoor activities,

I'd love to meet the kind of person who'd love to do some naturey outdoorsy adventurey dates with me - like a hike / someone to go on runs with, just generally a relationship where people cheer eachother on, on good and bad days, but who also have their own lives/stuff going on,

I have gone on some dates, and met lovely people, but have just not found someone right just yet

the main things I really appreciate is - someone who's open minded, emotionally intelligent, active/fit/playful/motivated / kind - and someone who is looking for - open to having a monogamous committed - relationship - down the line, if it worked out,

I value deep connection/trust built over time/taking things slowly

also someone who loves animals/nature, or is generally passionate/nerdy about something in their life,

I've given up on the apps, and also probably don't spend enough time in any environment where I'd meet men? I go to the gym - but like to be in my own space when I'm there

I don't really drink - but I do love a good boogie,

So yeah, any romantically inclined emotionally intelligent active playful men in the west?

realistically : 28-40 age range

41 | Mum of one | Southeast| Caribbean roots, Irish postcode. I've come to appreciate the value of peace, honesty, and consistency above all else. Hoping to meet someone who's clear about what they want, is ready for a long-term relationship, and values genuine connection.

Hey hey, my name is Warren, I'm 27 years old, 5'7, biracial, and I live in South Dublin. I'm currently in the middle of having way more free time than I should while I work and look for a new job after I graduated from uni.

This sub actually seems legit so I'm giving it a shot and hoping something comes of it.

I'm looking for someone to connect and hopefully meet up with and see where it goes from there. My life is kind of at standstill right now while I'm trying to switch careers so connecting with someone would be really nice. Basically let's just a vibe going and see where it takes us. All I'll say is if we really hit it off, you'll get to see my dog 🐕 and if we're really lucky, we might even get to ruin each other's lives haha🤞

My age range is pretty broad but somewhere from 24 to 33 would be great, but I'm not gonna judge if you're slightly above or below the range.

I'm big into gaming, anime, music, reading, going out, writing, and going to the cinema so if you have an interest in any of those then we'll definitely get along. And beyond that, I'd love to chat about anything really, as long as we get a semi-decent conversation going then I'm happy to talk about completely nonsesical shit haha.

I do drink but it's really only when I'm going out so it's not a regular thing. I also smoke but I'm trying to quit, mainly just vape at this point but I guess you could also count that as smoking (probably committing sacrilege saying that lol).

Personality wise, I like to think I'm friendly and chatty, but I know I have a pretty great sense of humour and always try to find the funny side to anything. My humour is fairly broad, like dark humour is great, whether it's absurd or done in a smart way, but I also really love deadpan, blunt humour - I mean we're Irish so I'm far from an outlier there haha, but you'll definitely see a lot of that if you chat with me.

Aside from that, I'm really big into social causes and politics - especially Irish and American politics - so don't be surprised if I end up riffing about that at some point haha. Also FYI, I'm a progressive (socially and economically) but I won't judge you if you're not obviously; I mean unless you're a literal fascist but at that point why would you message me, or even be on an Irish subreddit lol.

Hopefully you're interested, it's been really boring post-uni so being able to connect and meet someone would honestly be pretty amazing. I seek only to spread joy with a hint of misery, because I'm a sarcastic fucker too haha.

Send me a DM if you're up for chatting and seeing where it goes.

Thanks!

I’m a 32M and recently moved back to Ireland from the UK after my dad was unwell, so I ended up leaving my job, friends, and life behind to come home.

Now I’m trying to rebuild things here, but dating has been a lot harder than I expected. I’m in a smaller town and it feels quite different to what I was used to in the UK. Less social events, less obvious ways to meet people, and generally smaller circles.

I’ve tried the usual things like dating apps and going out to pubs, but I’ve only had one proper meet from apps so far.

I’m just wondering how people actually meet partners in their 30s here, especially in smaller towns? Am I missing something obvious, or is it just a case of persistence and widening the net?

Would really appreciate any advice or experiences from people in a similar situation.

Hello, looking for the right woman for something long term, I'm 27 and currently have a beard and tight haircut right now and I'm around 6ft tall. Pretty average build but my friend tries to hype me up by saying I remind him of Sebastian Stan which is something I do not see, maybe you'll agree or disagree. A single tattoo for now.

Currently studying health and safety to get into construction and work part time doing some admin. Usually you'll find me cooking or hiking on my days off, if not that then it's safe to assume I'm in bed watching or playing something with my bunny beside me. Huge reader, specifically love horror media or sci-fi. Equally happy indoors or out.

If any if the above catches your attention shoot me a message ✌️ happy to send photos if we click.

So i’m writing and rewriting this in the notes section of my phone, trying and failing to not agonise over sentences in the hope that i come across as organic sounding as possible. You can tell i’m a real natural at this and absolutely not an over thinker.

Anyway, for those that haven’t run for the hills. I’m E, from the North. Wrong side of 30, not tall, somewhat dark, debatably handsome. Enjoy my peace and quiet, cooking, movies, some anime & gaming when the mood takes me, spending time in nature, talking about travel, not religious or political, and just generally into all that good wooly brained, slightly nerdy, over 30s comfort zone material. Not “alpha” in the slightest, put it that way.

I suppose what i am looking for here is someone that matches my personality, to have slow burn chats with, no rush, no pressure, but hopefully can turn into something in the real world somewhere down the line. I’m open to any time zone, so wherever in the world you are, don’t hesitate to say hello.

Ok, hope to be seeing you. Have a good one.

Hi I am Matthew 34 Irish single from and live in Dublin.

A description about me to start with I am 5 10 105kg long dark brown+grey hair, sometimes with sometimes without beard never supoer long, 1 sleeve tattoo and chest panel. Can share pics in dms.

Personality wise im very direct honest open emotionally mature im more fond of smaller groups of people i would say I am introverted.

Interests im into all the normal nerdy guy stuff like tech, gaming, history, armor/weapons, anime, scifi, fantasy, books, shows, movies(specially pupperty/stop motion), nature, walks, museiums, concerts and tons more stuff.

I am very passionate about the goals i set to do, the people i share my time with, my interests and having discussions i dont take offence and can happly agree to disagree on many view points. I do not want or have children, I am not religious, I dont smoke or drink or use any drugs.

I am looking to have preferably long term meaningfull relationship but if it works out to be more casual thats fine as long as its healthy.

I love to chat and talk alot i am usually the initiator in all my connections wether romantic or otherwise. So i like when others make effort to reach out to me for hang outs too.

I hope to hear back and if not thanks for reading and have a nice day!

I'm back on the dating scene in my 40s and hoping it’s not as terrifying as it looks.

I’m good fun, love a bit of banter, and enjoy a good night out though I’m more lunch, dinner and great conversation than standing in a pub all night.

I’m curious about people, love a proper chat, and I’m a good listener. Patient, kind, and probably happiest with good food, easy company and someone who can make me laugh.

Anywhere between Dublin and Galway.

Hello reader, thanks for tapping on the post.

I'm 30 male, originating from the country of spices, India.

I came here as a masters student in Mechanical Engineering and am currently working.

I have always been fond of eyes and European ladies have always amazed me. I'm equally terrified of cold approaches due to cultural differences. I have observed the girls are quite friendly and sweet but not sure how one actually feels. So trying this platform in case someone believes in love beyond countries.

About me: Pros -

1. Engineer, so good at fixing things and love everything around mechanical aspects.

2. Won't say high IQ but good enough to carry conversations and resolve issues.

3. Highly into sports and outdoor activities. I am always ready to be a part of treks, hikes, football, or exploring the country sides. Have been into Gym and fitness since the beginning. Can only Travel the world if u r fit.

4. Love animals. No matter which (except reptiles, scare the shit outta me). I love spending time with and around them.

5. Family oriented. Due to cultural backgrounds, I'm wired to put family and partner 1st. Empathy and care comes in abundance.

6. I can cook, so you will be sorted for Indian cuisine whenever u crave it.

7. Lastly, into animes, sci-fi and mystery movies, card games, board games, big fan of PC games, and history. Nerd in big ways, I guess.

CONS:

1. I'm brown and 5'7-5'8 on good days. Brown downturned eyes. Looks like a raccoon sometimes.

2. I don't like to go clubbing much and rarely drink. Wouldn't mind if she is an extrovert who can teach me to dance.

3. Not used to European culture but I am extremely interested to be a part of it.

4. Introverted. Spends time watching or reading some random stuff.

5. May sometimes look confused while talking due to missed words out of accent.

There might be a few more but can't think of now.

Overall, all of this is entirely true and genuine words out of my heart and mind. Thus, if there's someone out there who believes in Small Gestures over materialistic things, looking for a Playful and Sarcastic person, kindly give me a chance to knock on ur door with sign boards in my hand.